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D/s 101: If you call yourself a Dominant, don’t do this stuff... D/s 101: If you call yourself a Dominant, don’t do this stuff... You have adopted a title that should come with a giant heaping dose of honor, respect, and trustworthiness. 1. Don’t make demands of submissive girls that don’t belong to you. You should know the difference between having the ability to control your own submissive, and how you should be treating all the rest that don’t belong to you. 2. Don’t talk intimately/woo other submissives behind the back of the one that belongs to you. All the time and energy you have to put into the submissive world should be aimed at your own submissive. If you want a different submissive, do the right thing, and break with the one you currently own first. 3. Don’t ditch submissives. How would you feel if the person you depend on for nearly everything suddenly went up in a puff of smoke, and was never heard from again? How would it affect your ability to trust someone else to take up the same role in your life? Stop ghosting, and ruining perfectly good submissives. 4. Don’t cut your submissive out from contributing to your relationship. Yes, I know she put you in charge, but relationships evolve, and if you don’t attend to what she wants out of yours, your relationship is likely to evolve in separate directions. You can still be in charge, and listen to her wants and needs, I promise. 5. Don’t ask someone you just met to be your submissive. It’s your job to inspire her to submit to you, by getting to know who she is, and showing her that you are the single most qualified man to be her Dominant. Don’t be lazy. Being a Dominant takes a lot of focus and energy. If you’re not up for that, go find another title to adopt. 6. Don’t put your submissive on a shelf when caring for her is not convenient to you, and take her down off the shelf when it suits you. Submissives are human beings, and though some of them like to be treated like objects from time to time, they should not be ignored when you don’t feel like dealing with your relationship. If you don’t have to the time and energy to adopt the role of Dominant for someone, then don’t do it in a half-assed way. 7. Don’t compare your current submissive with past submissives. It’s not a competition. You should be making her feel like she’s the most important person in your current world, so don’t make her feel like she’s less than other submissives, or that you’re pining for something you no longer have and feel you can’t have with her. 8. Don’t skimp on the essential ingredients in D/s relationships. Don’t be that guy who limits your submissives safe word in any way. A safeword is a difference between consensual sex, and possible sexual assault and abuse. Don’t skimp on aftercare. Let her know how much you appreciate all the control she continuously allows you to have over her, and how well she is performing for you. It’s the difference between a proud and happy submissive, and a sad and confused one. 9. Don’t make unilateral decisions that your submissive is directly opposed to. You don’t get to decide your submissive needs a sister because it suits you to have a second submissive to play with when it’s patently against her wishes. Once again, it’s her relationship too. 10. Don’t lie to your submissive. It’s all about trust. It's trusting that inspires her to submit to you. It's trusting that inspires her to allow you to continue to hold her submission. One or two breaches of trust and it all falls apart. JD~  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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I agree.
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Wise words. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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That an extremely well written and thought out post. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with. Tami xx
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Nr. 6, is what most socalled "dominants" are very good in, it is almost like that is their only way to "connect" with subs, their ammo, their modus operandi. just a play thing; not human at all, no responsibilty, no commitment required. Thanks for this writing, an eye opener, a must read for all the new guys.
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Very interesting....1107147
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Sounds good to me  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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