Blog : “I want to please you…”

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9/13/2019 2:54 am

“I want to please you…”

These are words I hear often from my Muse, yet to those men who are not accustomed to the Dominant lifestyle or to having a genuine submissive under their hand, it can come as quite a shock. So conditioned are most men to fighting for the attention of a woman or worse, behaving in manipulative ways to get what they want, that many simply do not know how to act in the face of a submissive woman whose greatest desire is to please the One she has chosen to kneel before.

Further, many Dominant males are “doers.” They are in the habit of taking an active role in sex play and tend to enjoy doing unto their submissive in terms of both challenge and pleasure. They are not particularly good at sitting back passively and accepting it. To some, relaxing and receiving pleasure does not feel very “dominant.”

Perhaps that is part of the attraction. Many Doms do not actively seek the pleasure of their own in the traditional sense that many men do and thus many submissive women crave above all to give it to them. Such an interesting reversal of roles on so many levels. The submissive taking on the active giving role and the Dom taking on the more passive receiving one. By not seeking, the Dom receives greater abundance. By not being wholly submissive the sub submits to an even deeper level. I do so love the paradoxes of the D/s dance.

If none of this makes any sense to you at all, perhaps you have yet to enjoy the mystery and beauty of D/s, and I wish for you the good fortune to do so. My Muse has never had much interest in pleasing a man, worshipping a cock as it were, before in her life. Yet in the context of our relationship, she not only enjoys it, but she also craves it; actively seeking it. This is so contrary to the experience of most men and women as to be largely incomprehensible to those who have not had the pleasure of a D/s relationship. Yet there is something in the bond between a Dom and a submissive that changes everything. This is one of the obvious and overt ways.

So often in the BDSM imagery we see here on the Internet it appears that a Dominant male is somehow forcing, almost violently, a submissive woman to service him with her mouth. It gives the imagery a sinister and abusive quality that is often not present in a D/s relationship. It lends to the caricatured quality of the online representation of D/s. Sure I may bind my Muse hand and foot, kneeling on the ottoman, servicing me with her mouth as I spank her ass. But there is no force employed here whatsoever. Indeed, she willingly assumes her position while craning and stretching to reach out to me and take me in her mouth. Far from manipulation or coercion, this is lust, submission and an earnest desire to please, pure and simple.

In the end, even though our respective equal and opposite Dominant and submissive roles may look remarkably different on the surface, there is one thing we have completely in common. Ultimately, we desire above all else to completely and utterly please each other.

And she never fails to do so…

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"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”

Wildnyer 58M