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*Button Safety 101* Psst. You, yes you - can we talk about a teeny tiny thing for a sec? Excellent! Here we go: The clitoris. Okay, maybe it’s not quite so teeny tiny. Whatever. Let’s talk about it for a minute ‘k? Specifically, repeated overstimulation of it. You know, because Lord FloofyPants (and you, of course!) wants you to be a dripping soggy mess of a sub. I mean that’s pretty awesome and all and I love being turned into a dripping soggy mess just as much as the next person. But here’s the thing right - there’s a point and it’s different for every clitoris - a point where that little fun button has had enough. It’s done. Doesn’t want to fucking play anymore. Just can’t even. Whether it’s been edged repeatedly for eleventy billion years with no ill effect or has only been twiddled twice. Game Over. Guess what? You need to fucking stop whatever you’re doing to that poor little nub before it has no choice but to shut down forever or grow some amour plating. It’s a nerve plexus people, which means that a gazillion nerves have dinner there all day every day. And breaking it is quite possible. And very fucking painful. Until it isn’t. Yes, it generally recovers if given enough time and care between sessions. But constant over-stimulation - think edging and denial for days/weeks at a time repeatedly over a period of months/years can and does break stuff. Ask yourself: is some fantasy drip fest actually worth deliberately overly stimulating and damaging some pretty fucking important nerves in your body - forever? Because that’s the bottom line - constant overstimulation results in damage. [To be very very clear - I am not talking about normal every day edging playing touching and rubbing or whatever else one does every day/week or whatever - I am talking very specifically of the repeated over-stimulation - constant deliberate hyper-stimulation, associated with the long term practice of multiple daily edges and/or the wearing of devices that provide constant stimulation over long periods of time (which can include certain types of piercings, sorry). Also, please remember that every person is different and everybody is different and has different capacity and need. What is harmful to one may be perfectly fine for another etc which is why responsible Dominants/human beings will not only encourage feedback and general communication from and with their submissive/human beings but will accept nothing less. BDSM is a lot of different things to different people but it never ever means harm. Ever.] You know how you get calloused/thickened the skin on your feet and hands from friction - think badly fitting shoes/not wearing gloves when lifting weights etc or how constant/repeated stimulation of an area can lead to decreased sensitivity - think circumcised penis/nipples during breastfeeding? It is possible to lose sensation in your clitoris due to nerves dying and/or the skin thickening. Imagine that. Moral of the story - health and safety are sexy. Thank you for reading and have a nice day 🌻 Shiny: Safety and Doom Officer ~™ SASS™  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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9/27/2019 7:17 am |
Very well said!!! This is a VERY IMPORTANT READ. I agree that EVERYONE on this site should read this and take this to heart. Thank you for posting this.
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Excellent post long overdue! One of the best I've read here. Everyone (both m & f ) should read!
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9/27/2019 6:32 am |
Love this post!!!! So true!!!! Sometimes I feel that way...just didn't know how to say it!!
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9/27/2019 4:49 am |
This is why I deliver the goods and do not deny all day because a network is meant to be used and fulfilled. If I wasn't a techy guy I would be more poetic.... Happy Friday
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Like all the safety posts I post, please disregard if it doesn't apply to you. Although, I think this one should be relevant to everyone. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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