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Learn Your Worth There’s a quote I heard a long time ago. You may have seen it printed on pretty backgrounds before. “When you learn how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts.” They’re potent words, and they come to mind most often when I am here on Tumblr. There are a thousand posts about vetting a Dominant, and a thousand more about how to spot abuse. Yet still, seemingly every day, someone lands in my inbox torn apart, feeling paralyzed and unable to walk away despite finding themselves in a field of red flags. We all know that everyone is flawed. It’s common knowledge, and I’d wager that you’re probably eager to dismiss the flaws of others. If a friend tells you that she hates that scar on her arm, you’re likely quick to tell her you don’t even see it anymore, and that she is beautiful. But what about when it’s you? You’re probably not as quick to feel a flaw doesn’t diminish your own worth. We justify bad behavior by telling ourselves that we’re not perfect either. We settle for abuse and poor treatment because we see our flaws more glaringly than others do, and don’t feel that we deserve better. We see our flaws. Some real, and many imagined. I think you’ll note in the coming examples that these aren’t really all ‘flaws’, but that’s often how we see them when they belong to us. We allow them to diminish our worth. We demand less because we feel undeserving. But, I’m fat, and I should feel lucky he’s attracted to me at all. But, I get anxious in social situations and it’s hard for me to go out. But, I’m emotional and I cry about everything. But, I get depressed and no one wants to be with someone like that. But, I’m needy and no one wants to give someone that much attention. But, I don’t have a great career, I should be thankful they don’t mind I’m broke. Everyone has imperfections, but what I came to say today is that there is a difference between imperfections and manipulative and abusive behavior. One does not excuse the other. Don’t let the existence of imperfections let you believe you don’t deserve to have your needs met. Attention is a need. Communication is a need. Respect is a need. you deserve to have your needs met. No ‘if’s, no ‘and’s, and no ‘but’s. Know your worth, and stop giving people discounts. pleasurewhore~  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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What you are worth is always subjective. Feel depressed it goes down, feel happy and uplifted and your self worth soars. I have the kind of scars you can see and the kind you cannot. I earned every one of them but I know they do not define me. I wish people would learn that a mirror is also very subjective. It always depends on who is looking and what they choose to see. I will blow your mind like a verbal John Wilkes Booth
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Amen... As the old AT&T commercial said, "Everyone comes free of charge with their own brain; You can choose to use it or not."
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt
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Very wise words. Thanks for posting them When you come to a fork in the road, take it. __Yogi Berra
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ali I love the quote from Shannon Alder! This is such important advice! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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nice
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2/25/2021 5:27 am |
You may not have the power to control what people think of you . . But you do have the power to not to be reduced by them.
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Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” ― Shannon L. Alder "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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