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The Shape Of Loss There is an infinite number of ways to lose someone you love. It could be to disloyalty, abusive behavior, or tragedy, or even the cold, cruel march of time, but no matter the cause, the aftermath is always the same, you feel like you are at the point of breaking and the only one who can hold you together is gone. With nothing else to hold onto and no place to go, you cling to the memory and make a home of a ghost, mourning every passing moment driving them further from you as days turn to weeks and weeks turn to months. Welcome, this is rock bottom, but what you may have forgotten is that rock bottom is the foundation on which you can be remade. The truth is, all pain can be reshaped and repurposed. With the right care, all wounds will heal back more resilient than before. When the heart is shattered, you can create something beautiful from the fragments. Where there is some lesson there is never a loss. Listen carefully to your healing, give it room to do its work. Allow yourself the space to feel grief when it calls on you too, but also permission to feel joy in those rare moments warmth returns to your heart. When you make the choice not to fight the currents of your feelings you allow them to take you where they need to and moving forward becomes a gentler process. Embrace your sadness. Meet it head-on. It is a source of strength that can be drawn from and directed wherever you choose. Use it to create art, chase down a dream, or make a life change you’ve been neglecting. The loss will reshape you either way, but you decide what shape it leaves you in. Remember always to move at your own pace. When you attempt to hurry yourself through a loss you don’t escape the grief, you bury it, and one day it will find a way back to the surface. Only you can know the distance of your healing and only you can know when you have arrived. So be patient, be tender, and take your strength where you can. Listen to your sad songs when you need them and face the world when you feel brave. Your pain doesn’t have to be your prison, remember that. It can be a key to a doorway and you decide where it leads. — Beau Taplin • T h e S h a p e Of L o s s  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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I'm trying to puzzle through all the June 13ths that you might have experienced and coming up empty, which I gather is how you're feeling right now. I'm sorry I can't be there to give you a hug and try to help you through it, but please know that I am there for you in spirit and that,however bad it is, you have the resilience to overcome it. I don't know if this helps, but your Taplin quote reminded me of one by Heanry David Thoreau. "Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh." I know you have the sensitivity to regret deeply but also the strength to live afresh. Love you always.    "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I'm trying to puzzle through all the June 13ths that you might have experienced and coming up empty, which I gather is how you're feeling right now. I'm sorry I can't be there to give you a hug and try to help you through it, but please know that I am there for you in spirit and that,however bad it is, you have the resilience to overcome it. I don't know if this helps, but your Taplin quote reminded me of one by Heanry David Thoreau. "Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh." I know you have the sensitivity to regret deeply but also the strength to live afresh. Love you always.
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Sounds like a personal day for you alil, not just a post... having been through all that emotion and pain with my last breakup, those words speak to me... Not being rushed, and listening to yourself is so important... You can be whoever you choose to be in our beautiful world these days... I hope the day is not to painful for you alil...  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I know that rock bottom all too well. Please take care of yourself ! "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Thank you for sharing this. It is something I needed to see this weekend. And leaving these for you "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Dear Ali, I don't know you, but I can resonate with each word you shared here... this day shall pass, face it, name it, embrace it, and at the end of the day, smile no matter how hard it may be, because you survived it... sending you warm regards from Belgrade "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Thank you. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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The last sentence sums it up. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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Thank you for sharing this. It is something I needed to see this weekend. And leaving these for you  Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short  
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I do wish I found this many eons ago. Great Read!
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I know that rock bottom all too well. Please take care of yourself !
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Great picture. Thanks for sharing,
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 Slave rick
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Sounds like a personal day for you alil, not just a post... having been through all that emotion and pain with my last breakup, those words speak to me... Not being rushed, and listening to yourself is so important... You can be whoever you choose to be in our beautiful world these days... I hope the day is not to painful for you alil... ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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And there is no right way or wrong way to grieve. It's whatever works with you. So just because you may feel you're behaving differently to what is perceived as 'the norm', don't beat yourself up over it, it's just your way. I wish you peace and warmth.
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Dear Ali, I don't know you, but I can resonate with each word you shared here... this day shall pass, face it, name it, embrace it, and at the end of the day, smile no matter how hard it may be, because you survived it... sending you warm regards from Belgrade
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Sending you some good vibrations. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Sending you some good vibrations. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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This day is going to sting. Moving through it will be difficult. But I need to recognize it for what it is and get past it. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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