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Submissive Does Not Mean Passive “I want someone who initiates sex every once in a while.” “I don’t want some doormat with no opinions.” “I want to be with someone passionate, not submissive.” I see phrases like this all the time when people reject having a submissive partner. And I’ll admit—once upon a time, I rejected my own submissiveness based on the same misunderstandings. So let me try to clear it up. When I say I’m submissive, it doesn’t mean I’m a robot awaiting instructions. It doesn’t mean that I’m dormant until a Dominant’s needs and desires activate me. It doesn’t mean that I expect my Dominant to take all the actions while I merely respond. I am submissive, but I am not passive. I am strong-willed, passionate, and energetic in pursuit of what fulfills me. I initiate sex with my Dominant. It’s different from how a Dominant initiates it, but it’s not all that hard to read. I will straddle their lap and nibble their neck and talk about what a needy little girl I am. I will say that I’ve been thinking all day of the way they taste. I will lay their favorite implement on the bed with a sticky note that just says, “Please?” I will strip and kneel, and then I’ll beg for what I crave. I have strong sexual desires and needs, and I share them openly. But I don’t dictate what happens or when. And however my Dominant chooses for me to serve, I will pour all my energy into it. I will curl up between their legs for hours, lost in the joy of exploring them. I will moan and whimper and push back against them as they use me. I will ride them as long as my poor cardio fitness holds out. Being submissive does not make me quiet or passive. I am deeply passionate and completely unafraid to show the one who owns me. And it’s not just in the bedroom. I have strong opinions about what I think is right and how things should be done, and I will 100% make those opinions known. But with the right partner—someone I can trust to put my needs first—I will defer to them on the final decision. With the right partner, I accept that they may make a decision I disagree with, but they won’t make a decision that harms me. And sometimes I do disagree. Vigorously. Sometimes a decision will make me angry enough to want to shoot lasers from my eyeballs. But if I submit to this person, then I trust them to do what’s right for both of us, and for the relationship. So I make my feelings known, and then I actively choose to follow. I am submissive, but I am no doormat. I know exactly who I am and what I want, and I am unafraid to share it. My submissiveness is full of boldness and fire and passion. Never, ever mistake me for passive. ~cherishedproperty  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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Years and years ago, m'lord and I were at a BDSM stage performance. During the Q&A session afterwards, one of the dominants made a comment that I doubt I'll ever forget. I don't want a submissive who's a doormat. I have a doormat, and you know what? It doesn't interest me in the slightest, and I never play with it.
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11/4/2021 2:29 pm |
Communication and a bit of camaraderie in the filed is essential with a partner.
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My submissiveness is full of boldness and fire and passion. Never, ever mistake me for passive. I can't imagine desiring a submissive lacking these characteristics. The complete opposite end of the spectrum from a doormat. Perfect.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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" I am strong-willed, passionate, and energetic in pursuit of what fulfills me." hallelujah!  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I'm not afraid to voice an opinion or ask a question but it is all done politely. It's the more flies with honey kind of thing  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Why some use ropes...lol
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Well said!
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" I am strong-willed, passionate, and energetic in pursuit of what fulfills me." hallelujah!
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My submissiveness is full of boldness and fire and passion. Never, ever mistake me for passive. I can't imagine desiring a submissive lacking these characteristics. The complete opposite end of the spectrum from a doormat. Perfect. Make Women Female Again
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I'm not afraid to voice an opinion or ask a question but it is all done politely. It's the more flies with honey kind of thing
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Lovely, fantastic, thanks for posting. And, what an amazing photo, captivating "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Lovely, fantastic, thanks for posting. And, what an amazing photo, captivating
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Good post young lady. Stay strong. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Good post young lady. Stay strong. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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very good
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Spot On. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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