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The Power Of No It is just two letters long and yet one of the most powerful words in the world and both empowering as well as inspiring. The little word I am talking about is the word, no. I will admit there are times I struggle say this tiny little word. My fearful leader at work (aka the boss) knows that where there is something be done push the assignment my desk and friends/family know when there is a challenging task ahead give a call and I will lend a hand. I take pride in being that ‘go-’ person, being counted on but even though it has been a hard lesson learn, I have also learned the value of saying no and sticking it. My growth and comfort in saying no has also shown that saying nay is not only powerful in our daily vanilla life but is just if not more important in the lifestyle. As a dominant, naturally, I want have a happy submissive partner and just like every relationship, a good and creative partner will know the ways ask for things get what they want. It is very much human nature do that and want give approval but saying no is simply needed at times. One of the most memorable moments in a D/S relationship can be the first time the d-type tells their partner no. I believe that when a dominant is saying no, they also need explain why they are expressing disapproval and it is never acceptable sound like a disgruntled parent with the “because I said so” reason. I also feel that not only is it important share the why behind the negative decision but always listen and hear your submissive partner if they disagree with your decision. Just because the dominant is the leader in the relationship, it does not mean error-free and sometimes the no might not be the best choice. So value your partner when they disagree and be open when you discuss the why behind the no. Many submissives often struggle with saying no because they love please. There are submissives that this does not apply as they do not have a problem drawing the line in the sand in the career world or with family/friends but more often than not a submissive’s desire please causes them overextend and have their plate full of commitments big and small. This overextending can lead higher than needed stress levels plus they struggle with making time for themselves. It is one of the most valuable things a dominant can assist their submissive with is finding that balance allows them still be the valued go- person at work and the MVP for family and friends while also letting them have the “ time” they need keep their<b> batteries </font></b>fully charged. A Dominant does not need micromanage or schedule their s-type’s life but work with them let them know it is okay decline an event or set aside time for themselves. By working help balance time crunches, a dominant can help guide their partner find a better balance the beam that is life. One of the most important nos that a submissive should always remember is that being submissive never means the right or ability say no is taken away from them by anyone any reason. A submissive always must give their consent. If a person, place, or thing makes them uncomfortable they can and should say no. Just because someone is submissive it is NEVER acceptable bully, force, or take advantage of them. All dominants must respect and adhere the word no when a submissive says it. Being told no is never something anyone wants to hear, it is often one of the most important words we can learn to say effectively. No matter what your role in life or kink not being apprehensive in expressing no can help achieve a better life balance. Additionally, submissives never lose the right to say no nor does being submissive lessen the meaning of no. As the saying goes, no means no and this must be accepted and respected, a power exchange dynamic, never take away this right, so mind your Ps and Qs by respecting the nos of others. ©TLK2020 **Re-Boot  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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12/4/2021 5:47 pm |
Nice piece of writing. "No" is never removed from the vocabulary on any field. Great photo. I love her bird.
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Love the picture.
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It's hard to use that word.
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12/4/2021 6:30 am |
A lot of folks could and should take a lesson from this.. even myself at times!!! Your take on the "no" word is perfect and very insightful.. well stated!!! Thanks for the posting this!!!
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12/4/2021 5:02 am |
A nice reminder.
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"No" is a complete sentence. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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