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Something To Think About... Anger and resentment can stop you in your tracks. That's what I know now. It needs nothing to burn but the air and the life that it swallows and smothers. It's real, though - the fury, even when it isn't. It can change you... turn you... mold you and shape you into something you're not. The only upside to anger, then... is the person you become. Hopefully, someone that wakes up one day and realizes they're not afraid to take the journey, someone that knows that the truth is, at best, a partially told story. That anger, like growth, comes in spurts and fits, and in its wake, leaves a new chance at acceptance, and the promise of calm. Then again, what do I know? ~M  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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It's because I'm not. It takes a whole lot more than a discussion about anger and resentment to make me see red.  I know that you have a pretty cool head and a wonderful frame of mind. I know if I was on the beach looking out at the water and sky in your pic it would certainly lower my pulse. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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It's hard to see clearly when you're seeing red. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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If you seek a better understanding of anger and its management I suggest reading the book; "The Cow In The Parking Lot." by Leonard Scheff -Susan Edmiston. If you are letting anger get to a point where it has a measureable effect on you or your life . . You need to change how you approach anger. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I've let anger take over me once and realized it was only me that was being hurt. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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2/21/2022 7:41 pm |
I think when we are angry we have excess amount of energy that we have to burn off. We should be careful to what end we direct that energy.
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It's hard to see clearly when you're seeing red. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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Baby steps, my friend, baby steps. Forever forward. xx "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Yes, it can, Nat. I hope you're feeling better today. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I think that [ExNameForUse]’s comment is spot on. Anger is a response to a stimulus. Its arising can be inevitable, but what can be developed through training is the ability to recognize it and, depending on its source, the ability to shorten the time it takes to redirect the mind toward addressing the source of the stimulus in as appropriate and healthy a manner as possible. In extreme cases, this can mean learning to quickly enter combat with equanimity and a clear and focused mind, but in almost all cases as she points out in her reply some manner of letting go is the key. With practice it can be possible to shorten that anger-detection/anger-reframing loop so much that the calm comes in what feels like a fraction of a second, as though the anger was never there. The key is to turn toward it and accept its presence as natural and without guilt or judgment so that it’s simply a thing to be managed for our own good and that of those around us. As she also mentions in her reply, resentment is more of a choice, and these strategies are easier described than put into play because they have to do with rewiring instinct. I can say that it is absolutely worth the work, as the fruits of the effort are gifts to ourselves and those around us. To seed the motivation for the very real effort required, there’s beginning with compassion and moving from self-acceptance. … sending good thoughts your way, M. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I think anger is a phase, when something happens, something that shakes us, changes our lives, plans, ruins our dreams and hopes, after a loss of someone or something, our natural response... while resentment, bitterness is more like a choice... if we don't work on that anger it can turn into bitterness.. a lot of self-work is needed not to be caught in that trap... accepting is most of the time way to calmness. But most of the time, not that easily reachable point. Be well, lovely M. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I like the photo, it doesn't make me angry at all But you're right - there certainly are a lot of angry people out there! What do you know? Seems to me, like a lot. “Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.”
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2/20/2022 11:00 am |
If you seek a better understanding of anger and its management I suggest reading the book; "The Cow In The Parking Lot." by Leonard Scheff -Susan Edmiston. If you are letting anger get to a point where it has a measureable effect on you or your life . . You need to change how you approach anger.
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ali Too much anger though is wasted mental energy! It is better to channel the anger positively as this suggests.. A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood. Won't you be my neighbor, pretty lady?
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I think that [ExNameForUse]’s comment is spot on. Anger is a response to a stimulus. Its arising can be inevitable, but what can be developed through training is the ability to recognize it and, depending on its source, the ability to shorten the time it takes to redirect the mind toward addressing the source of the stimulus in as appropriate and healthy a manner as possible. In extreme cases, this can mean learning to quickly enter combat with equanimity and a clear and focused mind, but in almost all cases as she points out in her reply some manner of letting go is the key. With practice it can be possible to shorten that anger-detection/anger-reframing loop so much that the calm comes in what feels like a fraction of a second, as though the anger was never there. The key is to turn toward it and accept its presence as natural and without guilt or judgment so that it’s simply a thing to be managed for our own good and that of those around us. As she also mentions in her reply, resentment is more of a choice, and these strategies are easier described than put into play because they have to do with rewiring instinct. I can say that it is absolutely worth the work, as the fruits of the effort are gifts to ourselves and those around us. To seed the motivation for the very real effort required, there’s beginning with compassion and moving from self-acceptance. … sending good thoughts your way, M.
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I've let anger take over me once and realized it was only me that was being hurt.
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I believe anger is the result of reality getting in the way of ones wishes Or when our own beliefs or wants do not come to fruition Anger can hurt and it can also provide fuel I also think you know more than most But what do i know lol Thanx for sharing hotstuff Sir
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I think anger is a phase, when something happens, something that shakes us, changes our lives, plans, ruins our dreams and hopes, after a loss of someone or something, our natural response... while resentment, bitterness is more like a choice... if we don't work on that anger it can turn into bitterness.. a lot of self-work is needed not to be caught in that trap... accepting is most of the time way to calmness. But most of the time, not that easily reachable point. Be well, lovely M.
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 "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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