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Submissive Is An Innate Identity, Submission Is An Action… Being homosexual is an innate identity. One can choose to not live a homosexual life. One can even choose to live a heterosexual life or one of celibacy. Those actions do not change one’s innate identity. The fact that there is a spectrum ranging from 100% heterosexual to 100% homosexual doesn’t change one’s innate identity. There are thousands of ways to live as a homosexual. There are thousands of ways to live as a heterosexual. There is no “one, true way.” Same for being a submissive. One can choose to live a vanilla life. One can choose to not submit. One can choose to top from the bottom. One can choose to disobey. None of those choices changes one’s identity. There are thousands of ways to live D/s. There’s no one true way. So yes, you can be a submissive and not actually live submission. But, when it comes to creating and sustaining a healthy, functional Power Exchange, “topping from the bottom,” and/or deliberate disobedience is antithetical and outright corrosive to the Power Exchange. Do not confuse your identity as a submissive with the actions of submission. Being a submissive in a D/s relationship doesn’t guarantee a successful Power Exchange any more than living together guarantees a successful marriage. There’s a whole lotta time, effort, commitment, and the damned hard work of actually submitting day in and day out. Submissive is an identity. Submission is a consistent act of the will. ~submissive-seeking  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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Same thing with dominant and dominance. Being dominant doesn't mean you want to dominate all the time. Everybody needs a break once in a while, sometimes more than just once in a while. That's why they invented vacations.
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i think this piece is well written and make a very valid point. I look at is as submissive is an adjective, submission is a verb
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Very nice!
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Submission doesn't define us absolutely but it is absolute. It is only one dimension within your soul. One marble within a bag full of marbles. It is one of many things that give your soul fulfillment. Submission is complex an consists of two dimensions; competence and integrity. While we forgive mistakes of competence, mistakes of integrity are a deeper flaw of the will.
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1 post 11/11/2022 3:43 am |
I agree men do need to hunt, the challenge, one mind over another mind, the planning, and strategy in the hunt all play a major role. The submissive woman, a human strong, powerful, with a burning desire to feel his strength his control over her mind will create that bond
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Anything worthwhile requires effort...and hundreds of often tiny decisions every day.
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I can identify with this piece. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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