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Get Your Safe Word Ready.... You're Going To Need It Tonight I dislike this statement. Being a sadist, I can I understand what they were going for here, but I loathe this heading when I see it. Safety is one of the fundamental underlying tenants of any impact play or BDSM relationship. Safety can exist in many forms such as check-ins for meds and water, having access to safety scissors using rope, disclosing past or current sexual partners, or asking someone to stop texting while driving. There can be many types of words including a check-in word (green means go!), a caution word (yellow-if you keep going, I’m going to have to stop you), and of course, THEE safe word (red-stop everything and begin aftercare immediately, I no longer consent to what you are doing). If one, both, or all parties involved actually want to push someone so much they have to say their safe word, this is NOT safe. I’ve spoken with a variety of people at munches and online who have been traumatized due to non-consensual acts with a consensual partner, even worse when a safe word is stated and the top continues. Before you pick up the belt and be a domin-ain’t, put 👏 in 👏 the 👏 work. Read up on SSC or RACK and know the difference. Openly communicate what you are about to do and what they will experience. Do they prefer thud or sting or both? Hit yourself first with that cat-o-nine tails and see how it feels. Practice on a pillow for better accuracy. When you flog them at your strength of 5, is that their 2 or their 11? [Spinal Tap reference, but I digress.] The safe word is trust. Don’t lose that trust, otherwise, you may find it impossible to find again. ~inmydominantopinion  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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There is a contradiction between the need to be safe, deep sub space and the devout need to please. In the end it isn't a safe word that keeps you safe. It's the trust and respect spawned by being given the safe word. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Understanding is so important.....  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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" domin-ain’t, "  that tickled me. I then repeated it in my head in a Ru Paul voice , Dom U Ain't , haha I've only had to stop a scene once ... why do folks lie about experience ! Thankfully no damage done and it was a bit comical. But i have heard of some horror stories over the years. I think for some, they need to realise that pushing your sub's limits does not equal ignoring safe words  Ok that's enough waffle  Take good care, Woody ~M "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I do not like that statement either.
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I did too.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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But some seem to never learn and just keep repeating the wrong with different partners.....short term ones at that!  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Good stuff as usual. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Good stuff as usual. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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But some seem to never learn and just keep repeating the wrong with different partners.....short term ones at that!
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" domin-ain’t, " that tickled me. I then repeated it in my head in a Ru Paul voice , Dom U Ain't , haha I've only had to stop a scene once ... why do folks lie about experience ! Thankfully no damage done and it was a bit comical. But i have heard of some horror stories over the years. I think for some, they need to realise that pushing your sub's limits does not equal ignoring safe words Ok that's enough waffle Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn
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Understanding is so important.....
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i love what she is feeling at this moment........
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There is a contradiction between the need to be safe, deep sub space and the devout need to please. In the end it isn't a safe word that keeps you safe. It's the trust and respect spawned by being given the safe word.
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My partners are all porn queens and I am just an actor... But I do know my lines and part, very well
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So Simple... But so easy to get it wrong. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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