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Two Quick Pieces Of Advice To Give To Someone New To Lifestyle Dating First, go slow. The newness, excitement, and even the dept of arousal can make it very easy for someone new to find themselves waist-deep, or deeper, in a D/S relationship and unsure how things when this far this fast. When another truly cares deeply, they will respect the desire to proceed at a steady pace and will not rush to fully integrate the lifestyle into the partnership. Slow but steady will help you to “win” the relationship race. At other times, people can be so thirsty for experiences that safety concerns are set aside putting them in vulnerable positions. While this is not something exclusive to those newer to the lifestyle, most often inexperience and thirst combine to create potentially dangerous situations. One person in five, within five years of exploring/entering the lifestyle, will have their consent violated according to the National Coalition For Sexual Freedom. So it is imperative to remember that your safety is your responsibility and no matter how much one needs a drink from the kinky well, each individual must minimize their risk. ~thelightkeepersjournal  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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I would tell them to be patient.......it directly correlates to the go slow mentality. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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So often we complicate relationship advice. We make it about compatibility, attraction, chemistry, personality, and everything in between. We offer rules, theories, assessments for everything under the sun. We come to a new relationship from one that has failed in some way. While I am ALL about those things, I truly believe that at the end of the day the main thing that impacts the well being of our relationships boils down to nothing less than how honest we are with ourselves about why other relationships didn't work and what you seek from a new relationship. If you're a virgin or new to dating you have no business on this site in the first place. Finding a meaningful relationship based on a profiles and a photos on the internet is ineptness. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Safety is paramount - boundaries being breached is a violation of trust. Trust your intuition and also vet potential partners before getting to the fun stuff.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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you are so right. thankfully i have never been put in a position of fear for real danger or have been hurt while playing. like most advice posts it all comes down to open and honest communication and trust. move forwards slowly with your partner. trust is developed over time "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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That's a great point. Thanks for sharing it. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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We were all virgins or new to dating at one time or another. I remember all the under the counter personal mags you could buy that were full of ads, pics and profiles. Personal dating clubs you had to fill out a pile of papers to join or get invited into. No phone numbers in ads, just a blind drop box or maybe just a po box listed. If you did get a reply to your snail mail weeks later you would be very lucky IF you even got a polaroid picture. You have to look where you can find and even with all its faults this and the internet are hands above what it once was. Also being in a foreign country at that time compounded the problem. Kids grow up with a lot more sexual knowledge than what most of use were brought up with at the time. The pitfalls are there as they are everywhere but I do think that the ones looking are a lot more competent than in the past. Profiles and photos in books and magazines vs the internet......."you pays your money and yous takes your chances".
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Whew. I write articles on this. But patience and safety are always the recurring parts in any article.
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I would tell them to be patient.......it directly correlates to the go slow mentality.
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So often we complicate relationship advice. We make it about compatibility, attraction, chemistry, personality, and everything in between. We offer rules, theories, assessments for everything under the sun. We come to a new relationship from one that has failed in some way. While I am ALL about those things, I truly believe that at the end of the day the main thing that impacts the well being of our relationships boils down to nothing less than how honest we are with ourselves about why other relationships didn't work and what you seek from a new relationship. If you're a virgin or new to dating you have no business on this site in the first place. Finding a meaningful relationship based on a profiles and a photos on the internet is ineptness.
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Safety is paramount - boundaries being breached is a violation of trust. Trust your intuition and also vet potential partners before getting to the fun stuff.
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you are so right. thankfully i have never been put in a position of fear for real danger or have been hurt while playing. like most advice posts it all comes down to open and honest communication and trust. move forwards slowly with your partner. trust is developed over time
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What would you share with someone new to lifestyle dating? "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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