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Speaking Up About The Silent Treatment  In dominant-submissive relationships, the dynamics between partners can often involve correction and discipline. However, one practice that must come under scrutiny is the use of the silent treatment as a means of punishment or correction by the dominant partner. While some may argue that silence can be an effective tool for teaching a lesson, it is crucial to distinguish between healthy forms of silence, such as silent reflection or corner time, and the detrimental effects of silent treatment. The silent treatment, when used by a dominant to punish or correct their submissive, involves intentionally ignoring or refusing to communicate with the submissive for a prolonged period. This is often emotionally damaging and erodes trust and communication within the relationship. Instead of fostering growth and understanding, it creates feelings of rejection, isolation, and insecurity in the submissive partner. One of the key differences between silent treatment and other forms of silent correction, such as silent reflection or corner time, lies in the intention behind the silence. When a dominant imposes a period of silent reflection or corner time, it is typically done to provide the submissive with an opportunity to reflect on their behavior and understand the consequences of their actions. This form of correction is accompanied by clear communication from the dominant about why the punishment is being administered and what the submissive can do to improve their behavior in the future. In contrast, the silent treatment is usually employed as a way for the dominant to exert control or manipulate the submissive. Rather than fostering understanding and growth, it serves to create a power imbalance within the relationship, with the dominant holding all the cards and the submissive left feeling powerless and confused. Furthermore, the silent treatment can have long-lasting effects on the emotional well-being of the submissive partner. Being ignored or shut out by someone they care about can lead to feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and depression. Over time, it can damage the foundation of trust and intimacy upon which healthy relationships are built. The silent treatment should not be used as a form of punishment or correction within a dominant-submissive relationship. Instead, partners should focus on open communication, mutual respect, and constructive forms of correction that promote growth and understanding. By avoiding the use of the silent treatment and embracing healthier forms of discipline, dominants and submissives can cultivate stronger, more fulfilling relationships built on trust, respect, and empathy. ©TLK2024 "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” |
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The silent treatment only serves to bring on resentment. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I consider giving someone the silent treatment as 'pouting' .... Which is very childish, not to mention unproductive. I agree .... If I were a submissive, one of my 'limits' would be that "If you pout, you're out!"  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Important information, absolutely. One of the most significant reasons for the failure of my nearly 40 year relationship, the use of the silent treatment led to more and more distance and increased silence and total destruction of trust and intimacy. I never have and never will understand this, what a waste of a lifetime of good, burned down by silence. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Between what is meant an not said and what is said an not meant is the canyon in which most relationships crash.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Very well written. You definitely have given me something to think about. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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You furnished another great article for a newbie in search of a Mistress. This article and previous ones are giving me a foundation upon which to select a Mistress to train me. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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I can see your and the writer's point, and I agree. I can see how a person in frustration may elect this as a course of corrective action, but as shown in the article, that may not be ideal. Once of the cornerstone elements of a D/s relationship is communication, which as you mention, leads to trust. I have seen it happen and it sure is detrimental. Good article. Thanks for sharing it Ali. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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Adults often find ways to be childish, but they are more hurtful with age.
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I agree -- a very well thought out and thorough discussion on the topic. I wish I had been equipped with this when one served up the silent treatment spanning several days without explanation. It resulted in major damage to the relationship that took a lot of time and effort to restore. The 2nd time it happened, I was less understanding and promptly made sure there would not be a 3rd time. Perhaps he'll be more considerate with his next charge. Thank you for sharing this important reminder, dryfte It's best to put a stop to it immediately. Thank you for sharing your experience.  "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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great writing, again. thank you. silent treatment is thé way to kill it all. There is never a good reason/excuse of it.
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I agree -- a very well thought out and thorough discussion on the topic. I wish I had been equipped with this when one served up the silent treatment spanning several days without explanation. It resulted in major damage to the relationship that took a lot of time and effort to restore. The 2nd time it happened, I was less understanding and promptly made sure there would not be a 3rd time. Perhaps he'll be more considerate with his next charge. Thank you for sharing this important reminder, dryfte "shaped by life, experiences, choices and one day by He who she will come to know as her Master"
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I consider giving someone the silent treatment as 'pouting' .... Which is very childish, not to mention unproductive. I agree .... If I were a submissive, one of my 'limits' would be that "If you pout, you're out!" I love this... "If you pout, you're out" Thank you for sharing "shaped by life, experiences, choices and one day by He who she will come to know as her Master"
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The silent treatment can be viewed as passive aggressive. It gives the narcissist power and leads to emotional abuse. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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The silent treatment only serves to bring on resentment.
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I consider giving someone the silent treatment as 'pouting' .... Which is very childish, not to mention unproductive. I agree .... If I were a submissive, one of my 'limits' would be that "If you pout, you're out!" Make Women Female Again
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Important information, absolutely. One of the most significant reasons for the failure of my nearly 40 year relationship, the use of the silent treatment led to more and more distance and increased silence and total destruction of trust and intimacy. I never have and never will understand this, what a waste of a lifetime of good, burned down by silence.
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Between what is meant an not said and what is said an not meant is the canyon in which most relationships crash.
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Very well written. You definitely have given me something to think about.
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You furnished another great article for a newbie in search of a Mistress. This article and previous ones are giving me a foundation upon which to select a Mistress to train me.
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I can see your and the writer's point, and I agree. I can see how a person in frustration may elect this as a course of corrective action, but as shown in the article, that may not be ideal. Once of the cornerstone elements of a D/s relationship is communication, which as you mention, leads to trust. I have seen it happen and it sure is detrimental. Good article. Thanks for sharing it Ali.
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I highly recommend taking a look at this incredibly well-written and thought-provoking piece. The author has done an exceptional job of researching and presenting their ideas clearly and concisely. I found it to be both informative and engaging, with many insightful points that will leave you pondering long after you finish reading. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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