Blog : Did I Dodge A Bullet Or Was I A Improper?

39 posts
9/18/2019 9:11 am

Did I Dodge A Bullet Or Was I A Improper?

I was speaking a prospective Dom who wanted already him Sir even though we Haven't met yet. We had a schedule a date didn't happen. He also gave an order not with myself before the date.

I'm new this lifestyle and untrained. Did I make an error in judgement or am I already suppose start following his commands even though he hasn't formally taken on a a sub yet?

He was so upset and told I'm not fit for this lifestyle and I should delet profile.

Was I wrong and should apologise or should I be glad I Dodge A bullet?

spanks_and_wine 57M

228 posts
9/18/2019 9:35 am

I think you got lucky and dodged an idiot. A genuine Dom would treat you with courtesy and respect and earn your trust.

There a lot of people who think shouting and demanding obedience is how to be a dom.
There are plenty of genuine ones about - many of whom post regularly on their blogs, so I'm sure you can get proper advice.

Take your time, explore and find someone who actually cares and respects you and then have lots of fun.

Good luck !
Spanks

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 9:57 am:
Thank you spanks and wine. I feel more reassured that I wasn't improper.

DancingDom 74M

22598 posts
9/18/2019 10:06 am

The reverse is true, he is not fit for the lifestyle. You made the right move by not acquiescing to his demands. Submissive submit, they are not claimed or taken. Making demands when you have not met.................he needs to invest in a board game..........Clue!

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 10:51 am:
Thanks Dancing Dom! I was having some some doubts but the more I learn and the responses I'm getting are all telling me that I was right to trust my intuition. I was right to doubt him.

gopats1 61M

148 posts
9/18/2019 10:18 am

All great bits of advice!

Gottin_Himmel 69F

2635 posts
9/18/2019 10:20 am

If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.

Those guys who order you to call them Sir or Master during your first email or chat? Give them a pass. They don't understand D/s at all.

Keep looking.

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 10:57 am:
You all don't know how glad I am for your response that I was right to be suspicious of him

Odin_wolf 68M

9/18/2019 10:38 am

You are already learning to sift the real from the wanabes, I am glad for you! Dont be cornered or cajoled into anything until you know you can trurlt trust the person!
Blessed be

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 11:06 am:
Maybe if he told he would teach it would have kept me ignorant. Instead he was telling me to do my research.

I'm glad I did my research. I'm a little less ignorant today than when I got here. 😊 blessed be to you as well.

mustswallowu8288 62M

9/18/2019 10:38 am

He is proof any 'Idiot" can call themselves a Master.....most of them who do seem to be on Alt.....the sooner that lesson sinks in the better...Good-luck

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 10:59 am:
Thank you. My gut instincts told to be suspicious. That and the research I did.😊

obeonecannobe 63M

9/18/2019 12:22 pm

nice and thanks for the points

lala2370 53M/47F

300 posts
9/18/2019 12:31 pm

I won't even call some one Sir or Master or Dom if it's part of their screen name. It feels very manipulative....

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 1:36 pm:
Something just felt off about the way he was doing his protocol.

WLforQueenC 66M

14 posts
9/18/2019 6:08 pm

You can choose to meet someone before you can trust someone you have never seen.keep looking for right master for you

EnthrallLady replies on 9/18/2019 8:59 pm:
Thanks for your input.

kimkydomtulsa 65M

11/6/2019 4:08 am

i think there alot of good advise up above on comments.
if you ever want to chat im on kik as bptrail
i have friended you but never chatted

EnthrallLady replies on 11/6/2019 10:57 am:
Can you refried me? I accept friend as long as they don't creep me or.


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