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Are you really in control...when your Dominant See below |
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I ask this because I've run into situations where the Domme was in charge.. But then let the slave bottom from the top... If not overtly Then subtly... An example.. I came over to a Dommes house and immediately got naked. ( She was well aware that I was going to do such,I had her permission).. This wasn't me being sexual..or creepy.. Rather I felt it set the tone,broke the ice.. I'm a slave..duh And yeah she allowed me to do such.. But then I also felt she engaged in certain types of play to appease me. Most likely so id be more inclined to come back Only after the 2nd get together did I feel her get more comfortable with me,my nudity,my submission.. Only then did the playing field tilt just a little bit and we did a scenario that she wrote about in her story. I feel control really is about comfort, the Dominant doing what they want because there is complied consent between us..they drive the bus I've been with Dommes I never met before.. And when we played.. They literally went backdoor...without hesitation...right in... Obviously we both discussed our interest in anal ..via email. But when we got together..there was no invite..no warning.. Just right in.. And I had no problem whatsoever ever...we are both adults.. talked about it..both wanted it.. So I didn't need a formal warning.. I see this as control.. Your thoughts
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sounds right - for a sub, it should be her game, or else it's not really submission. subs have certain kinks, but those should be rewarded, not demanded. But un real life people have wants, subs too, and they'll search for what they want. Sounds like your dommes are lucky to have you.
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im a sub to men but i let that man have that control in the first place and i set the limits so in many way's it more a 60-40 thing if not 50-50
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When a relationship is new, there is a 'getting to know' each other process. Subs are not robots, doormats, but persons. Even if you have both had conversations about your 'kinks,' you both have human personalities. You should both approach a new partnership with caution. I first want to know that I will be 'safe' with this person - limits respected, etc. So initially there is this 'give and take,' and wanting to see if play will be as perceived from previous conversations.
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The paradox of the dom sub scenario is that initially, it is the prospective sub that sets the limits and tells his/her prospective dom of their likes and dislikes. It is then your doms responsibility to operate within the parameters you have set. Therefore, although ultimately it is the dom that is in charge , a genuine dom will always adhere to pre agreed limits etc. It has to be fun for both and any boundaries or limits that are gradually pushed, these would normally occur over time once both parties were completely in tune with each other. I would expect any self respecting dom should always be aware that his/her sub is handing the ultimate gift, which is themselves. Over to that dom. As with any relationship, trust and respect are paramount. Especially when it's a d/s dynamic. Without these two things, it simply cant work.
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