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Worst marriage proposal ever..or am I the ass By now you probably wasted a few brain cells reading Reddit post or sites that borrow such post for their own content.. This one lady was pissed that the guy she has been shacking up with for 8 years didn't propose to her.. And when he did...it was the lamest ever.. Basically she set up this camping trip so he could get down on one knee and romantically proclaim his love for her..on some hiking trail It didn't happen...instead of hiking...he went fishing and threw the ring box at her.. Saying..apparently this will make you happy/ this is what you want etc.. She feels she was cheated out of that moment..a moment she has been dreaming of since she was a girl.. And of course 99 percent of people piled on the boyfriend Claiming he is the worst boyfriend ever.. No one stood up for this dude.. So I'll take a second and try to explain.. First off men are not an accessory...a ken to your barbie..we aren't a place holder for your dreams.. Second..your childhood dreams are not ours..our primary focus as a couple shouldn't be doing things that make you solely happy.. That isn't marriage..that is femdom. Maybe you've noticed everything about a wedding ceremony revolves around the bride.. With nothing really for the groom.. He stands there in a generic rental tux...men honestly don't like weddings.. Third..it's pretty obvious that this guy is against the concept of marriage.. That doesn't make him immature,unworthy or someone to simply leave.. There are plenty of guys like myself that think the societal ideal of marriage is outdated ..for both straight and gay people That doesn't make us less of a man,fathers.. And it does no good to pressure someone into something he doesn't want to do.. It's obvious he doesn't want to get married...that doesn't mean he doesn't love her.. I sorry..but why does a marriage become the final yogi medal a guy has to get to prove his love..that last barrier he must hurdle Is this boyfriend an ass??, Who knows...because no one is asking about his feelings.. To me it sounds like she not only staged this camping trip..she literally guilt tripped him into it.. This is akin to him saying he wants ..always dreamed of .. And she saying..nope.. Hopefully nobody would proclaim her the worst girlfriend ever.. If anything people would say he may be quilting her into having .. Sooooo what's the difference??? Why is a man an ass just because he has a different dream,concept of what love is.. And it isn't a fairytale dream of puffy dresses...And Prince charmings. When can society focus on a man's concept of love and commitment.. Cause living 8 yrs with a woman apparently isn't good enough.. And who ever said we are OWED an experience.. My point is the concept of marriage is bloated...most marriages end in divorce,women are usually the ones that file for a divorce.. So why would a guy see anything remotely romantic about a wedding.. |
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And I'm not being anti woman.. But why is noone asking about his feelings.. Instead he is treated like a prop to give her that " moment" she thinks she is owed. And since he won't propose Reddit readers are claiming they need couple's counciling.. Huh? Huh.. So a guy having an opinion means they're broken?? This is akin to a woman dragging her boyfriend to a swifty concert.. And then calling him an ass for not liking the music. Like somehow there is no he.. But a them.. Channeled through her.. And women unfortunately do this all the time.. They include men in the plan without asking..they just assume Apparently this guy doesn't want to be married and feels like he is being pressured into it.. Or he will lose it all.
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Like said I'm not anti woman..I'm anti marriage for both straight and gay people.. I've seen marriage and divorce x2 ruin men like my former boss.. I prefer the gay way..you break up..you grab your shit..he grabs his and you move on with your life.. This whole intertwining finances,assuming huge student debts to me is insane.. And how does a contract prove love and commitment
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Yes....
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11/25/2023 8:12 am |
the question then becomes what does prove love?
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Easy. Time. Entropy. The willingness to not only traverse these railways and accept their joys and pitfalls with your chosen other, but the desire to extend the torment that is life BECAUSE of that being, rather than in spite of them.
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Bigger question is why does luv need to be proven by a 10 grand wedding..a 6 grand ring....an outdated notion of a man on his knees begging a woman.. For..love? Committement?? This couple has lived together for 8 yrs.. And this childish notion that I deserve something because.. Well fuck as a boy I dreamed of being a football player.. And damn it my partner better focus all their energy into my goal.. Is what this boils down to.. I deserve this experience Most guys are Luke warm about marriages,weddings,proposals.. For us it's a struggle,a burden,a hassle
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