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Should there be different tier levels for those that search I was at the gym yesterday ( keep reading this is relevant).. And this bro comes over and ask if I'm using.. No not steroids.. He is asking if he can use the 45lb plates on the bench rack.. I said yes... Cause I'm tired of people borrowing them and then not bringing them back..I need them when I shrug. Same bro comes back like 10 minutes later..and asks Like wtf is going on ...he is loading up a leg press machine with like 8 45 plates..stealing any plate he can off of every machine...so basically nobody can use the other machines And I'm thinking...wtf are you at planet pizza if you ego lift like that. Yes when you can bench,squat,d lift so much...maybe it is time to get another gym.. And it got me wondering about the lifestyle... Should their be seperate tiers...to seperate people and make your goals more obvious.. For example a lot of guys will flock to a Domme because..She's a Domme...and/ or she list various fetishes guys really want to explore.... Now you may be saying...hold up leo...we don't need seperate spaces.. A Domme can think for herself and list in her profile...what she wants.. But A lot of times these profiles aren't an accurate depiction of what she wants or how men interpretate it.. For example She list herself as a "sadist".... Right up my alley and gets my attention....but does sadist mean the same thing to her as it does me? To only find she really isn't a sadist but that something she aspires to Okay? Well then learn on me?? And then...nothing.. The same could be said of wanting a relationship... And cool I'd luv to be exclusive with someone..let's get to know one another..play..see how we click. Men tend to put the casual dating/ play first...and then the relationship developes.. Women tend to want that relationship right off the bat ??? With the getting to know you phase before they even want sex/ play.. So it can get confusing.. On gay personal sites they really break it down ...are you looking for sex,dating,a long relatiinship,fwb,bj,.. I think something like this could be set up with say colored stars on a profile. So when I see say a purple star on a women's profile it is obvious that she really is relationship focused.. And if I'm not wanting that...I shouldn't waste anyone's time. The same could be said about being a sadist.. I've been with 3 seperate women...all said they are Dommes.. Yet none of them were interested in discipline.. And yes a lot of people do use bdsm for sex..there needs to be a tier for them It would be nice if people were either extremely precise with their profiles or if there was someway to direct traffic. For example..I know I'm wasting my time even writing to that TPE Domme.. Cause that isn't me.. Even thought I'm most likely the only slave that truly understands that desire.. And not to brag...but ladies..if you truly want to strap it on.. Then as a natural bottom boy.. I'm probably the best suited for that desire. But if she's posting say a red star..I know she's big time into control.. And if I'm posting say green... Then I should try another tier..or gym..or whatever.. I also think a star might help some people overcome the fear of their own sexuality.. Like say there could be a star for just lgbtq friendly.. Which doesn't mean sex.. I think a lot of times websites,groups are quick to seperate the straights from the gays.. And I wonder why.. But anyway like that swamp donkey piss missile ( phrases the today say)...that Takes all the plates and inconveniences everyone else.. Maybe it's time certain people went to Another gym.. Er..their own more defined space,their own lane |
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And I think this might cut down on the email someone like that TPE Domme gets and hopefully reduces the time wasters.. Which might also include me... Cause a red star..or whatever would indicate... Yeah this isn't just a passing thought/ desire.. It's not debateable. She wants this and your doing that
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And hello..been on here 20 yrs..I know alt has that kink checklist.. But it would be nice if all that could be incorporated into some super search engine.. And it would be nice if it wasn't so cut and dry.. I'm flexible..I like guys..but that doesn't mean I couldnt or wouldnt make a great slave for a woman or straight couple..
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anther interesting blog. that would be a nice idea because one could argue that if you respond to a profile and you actually contact someone then you may be able to glean that information thru face to face communication. But the problem is it seems very rare off this site that face to face interaction rarely happens. Too many like cyber interaction
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Well my point is men and women think differently at times. I mentioned relationships...she can list she is relationship orientated.. Well so am i.. But to me that means talking,playing,hanging out..seeing if we click.. And it evolves into a relationship over time But to a woman she is the exact opposite.. She puts the relationship first and foremost and it almost seems like bdsm is an after thought. It's like is she looking for a boyfriend or a slave?? Or using the lifestyle to get a man Play/ sex,whatever seems like it's rationed out based on his ability to jump hurdles,prove himself worthy over time etc.. And that is sorta hardcore need for a relationship seems odd.. Considering she only really knows me from emails,phone calls or a get together. It's honestly seems like seeing a girl at the sports bar.. She is dressed in the team's colors,she seems excited about the playoffs.. You like her,you have the same interest.. So you swagger up and start talking football.. And omg..she's not a fan.. She's dressed this way because it's team color day at work and she's here with her co workers.. Yes to me bdsm at times feels like this metaphor... Like why are you in the lifestyle if lifestyle things/ play almost seem like an after thought. That's where a purple star would come in real handy
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