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likesmatures 55M
7121 posts
12/3/2023 8:40 am
Should things like gender/ orientation/ age( adults im talking about) matter in bdsm

Im curious as to what different people think.
I'm not here to judge..I'm certainly not woke.

But should gender,sexual orientation,people of any age ( adults),body size,etc

Matter

When it comes to bdsm..

I understand attraction,I understand appeal..

But people see this through a sexual lens

I'm talking about bdsm,control..

And could it really open your eyes and help you find the person you seek?

I ask this because people are quick to plaster themselves with labels..

I'm straight or I'm wrapped up in the rainbow flag..

And I wonder why we automatically dismiss this other person..this whole group of people

Straight dude...have you ever paddled a f*g's ass..???

I can use that term cause..duh

I ask this in all seriousness because

Straight guys do make up a good portion of the members in m2m spanking groups and websites..

Cause it isn't sexual.

I think men turn to men for discipline for a variety of reasons.

1. Lack of resources...the straight guy is probably 40,50,60..married..
Single females want a guy,a master of their own..
So that severely limits his access to playtime..
And if his wife is his slave..

Playing with another female could cause jealousy issues.
Issues he's not gonna have with one of the boys

2. Women probably are better at pain..but I think there is this societal hesitation/ guilt/ hangover when it comes to discipling a female..as men we don't want to hurt her/ see her in pain.

But lucky for us...Men seem more attracted to discipline and being disciplined..

And any hesitation we had disciplining a woman..

Goes out the door when the submissive is male..

Plus I feel there is this societal approval for a male being disciplined..We luv watching a male idiot on YouTube eating hott stuff or getting his balls struck..we luv those americas funniest home vids and seeing dad get that wiffle ball to the testicles.

So people in general feel freer to discipline a male.

3. Guys are just bigger...and we feel like a man could take more or physically dish out more..based solely on size.
Plus his size may prompt a man to spank someone..

4. There is also that bro mentality..your with the guys..without being with the guy.

So yeah you can put sex out of the way and just play..

Once you get past gender,orientation,age ( adults),body types etc..

It actually is very refreshing and does open up alot of avenues..

And sure I get a cross dresser,a gay dude,a 60yr old, a bbw..

May not be your thang..

But I also believe your thang...

Maybe the thing that is keeping you from finding your best lifestyle match.

likesmatures 55M
4838 posts
12/3/2023 8:43 am

 So why are we quick to just dismiss groups of people


likesmatures 55M
4838 posts
12/3/2023 9:19 am

 Is this really about sex

Or are you able to enjoy bdsm without it being s.exual


Tckg12 69M
2499 posts
12/3/2023 3:52 pm

 very interesting post. i think it certainly is possible to enjoy bdsm without sex.In some relationships the hold aspect is withholding sex. A true sadist/masochist relationship may never have sex even if the sexual organs are used in play

I also think cause we are innundated with photos of gorgeous people in bdsm play most fo us don'y fit the bill and are Certainly not perfect. So we shouldn't be that judgemental


boh99 68M
3154 posts
12/4/2023 12:03 am

 seems like there's an inverse relationship that follows: The more attractive you are, the pickier you can be



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