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What if your 65,think no guy is into me,have no game m2m This is what I've been trying to say... M2m mimics the lifestyle to a certain degree...it works on the same sorta principles.. When you have a Dominant/ top fullfilling their role.. It allows the male to step out of that slot and take up one that is more natural There is a huge reason a 65 yr old Dommes mail box overflows She offers that safe space,that oppertunity, that void.. She offers that space for the male to finally express his submission, reveal his true self, to surrender Well a 65 yr old top also has a similar power...he offers up a space for the bottom to fully express his passive nature,surrender,just let go. Being a bottom is ALOT like being a slave..it's not something readily available in straight town... He has needs that aren't getting addressed. But one can be 40,50,60,70 and still find a nice bottom guy because you as a top fulfill his biggest need.. He can't be a slave without a Dominant.. He can't bottom without a top He can't be passive without an active.. And it's not like a dude just turns this on and off at will.. It's more like you draw this out of the guy,you nuture it.. That is why he is drawn to you.. So don't think your too old,have no game,nobody would be interested etc.. And ironically it's not like you have to change yourself. If your just getting into,are curious,straight ,etc..your probably a top. You just have to understand the mindset of a bottom male and use it to your advantage. Meaning a bottom is basically looking for that take charge guy..assertive..confident..basically that guy that wants to lead, Which also could mean Dom,authority figure,dad,mentor...but doesn't have to.. It could be as simple as a top that is comfortable putting his arms around a guy. But I stress... It's the same thing with a Domme...There has to be that ying/ yang principal for this to work. Meaning the more controlling she gets... The more passive he gets.. One plays off the other.. but there has be some level for this to work.. She can't be controlling one day and the next? She wants to switch. He can't be the top one day..and then next? A do me bottom So if a bottom is searching for a way to express his passive self Then the strong,confident male figure is going to attract him.. The more active/ forward you get The more room he has to be passive. The more he'll be into you. And I'm not suggesting crazy,drill sergeant control freak sorta active.. I mean literally more like you initiate the sex,you initiate the contact,you make the decision,you lead and have him follow/ you guide him. The nice thing with men is it doesn't have to be one or the other approqch....m2m or bdsm.. You could easily introduce elements of bdsm into the mix.. Without it being...omg😲😲😲😲😨 bdsm Because kinky elements are already quite common in the gay culture. And the bdsm elements also help play into his passive nature. I'm not suggesting you run out and buy a whip ( which is fun).. But chances are a bottom isn't gonna freak out if you wanted to introduce certain things in the bedroom Like say bondage..or edging or cbt My point? If your a top..looking...and having problems.. Just remember your true power.. The bottom guy needs that release.. And is looking for that guy That understands.. If He's passive..then be active...initiate contact with him..ask for his social media,chat him up.. Ask him out..order for him And I think you'll find age doesn't matter as much as your personality.. Active attracts passive. Like I said.. Your a top...either sit their like a lump on a log and we can continue talking about sports or movies or books.. Or you can be active..slide your arm around me..touch my knee.. Notice this draws out my passiveness...instead of stopping and telling you No.. This is my way of saying Go. And once that ice is broken.. It's easy to just be more active It's easy to suggest things that would get his passive nature aroused.. Like now your gonna tie him up in bed..before fucking him Which isn't asking..it's guiding him into the bedroom and telling him what your going to do to him. Like I said..There is a reason a 65 yr old Dommes mail box overflow.. Apply the same logic |
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I'm sorry if this advice doesn't necessarily apply to bottoms.. But I think you gotta admit a m2m top sorta does mimic a Dominant And I'd use that approach in my dating profile and contacting men. I'd stress that I was looking for a bottom only. My profile would reflect that I'm a strong,confident dad type. I would initiate contact. I'd be the one to ask the guy out,offer to pick him up,
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