Blog : A Domme vs a male top..how do they compare

7124 posts
12/8/2023 10:46 am

A Domme vs a male top..how do they compare

if you've been reading this week's blogs,you might have wondered..

Why doesn't a guy just get himself a Domme.
.what's the real difference between a Domme and a top dude

From my experiences..

I'd say for most guys there are few settings when it comes to women..

It's either Dominatrix or mommy blogger?

We can't process the thought of a strong powerful woman without sexualizing her.

If a woman is assertive...well she is either labeled bossy or a girlboss..

Neither label really helps..

Instead guys need to look to groups like the FLR ( female lead relationship) ones

Guys will join and immediately think it's femdom or female supremistry..

But if you stick around awhile you'll realise ALOT of women in the group don't want that..

Instead they want various levels of control of a guy in a relationship..

Levels they want to define..

Cause men cant/ wont..

So in essence it's like that old sexist saying

Men want a chef in the kitchen,a lady in public and a ...in the sheets..

Well you can add dominatrix to that list..

For some men there's just kinky and vanilla..

But if you think about it there are usually only 2 types of women..

Those you bang...and those you dont..it's like if you have a female friend,your not gonna sleep with her..
And if you wants sex with her...you sorta slide her out of the friendship slot..
You most likely never gonna have a female FWB situation.

With a m2m top..?

I feel there are ALOT of slots he could easily slide into..

Starting from
A dude you met for a hookup
Friends to FWB
Your regular Lover to calling him your bf
Your daddy to your Dom

Various setting for a m2m top ..
From just hanging out to
Him collaring you/ owning you.

With a woman I feel a man expects that whole package...
Which truly is unfair..

With a m2m top? I think the changing of the slots will happen naturally

And most likely won't suprise either one of you.

Unlike the Domme where the male has slotted her into that spot..

Yours is flexible..he could see you in ALOT of roles

Not saying you will Dom anyone..

But then again you might suprise yourself

And want that bottom guy as a slave.

With m2m I don't see it as forced

Like I said..

The real issue is men ..

With a strong woman we expect a girlboss..a Domme..an ass kicker..

With a dude? We just expect a strong man,someone confident, someone to lead/ guide.

likesmatures 55M

4840 posts
12/8/2023 11:34 am

I really think the reason m2m has so many opinion is sex.

No matter what slot you find yourself in..

From hookup to fwb to ownership..

The bottom is always passive.

But with strong women /Dommes the male is used to being the active one..

He will try to be the boyfriend...until she acts on it.
Then he will try to be the slave..until she acts on it

Unless she clearly cements him in a slave slot.
Until then?

Sexually...yeah he is gonna be active..

So you all having regular sex won't " keep him in his headspace" or remind him of place..

Meaning it's hard for her to exert control over him as friends,lovers...
Without being seen as a Domme..

And ALOT of people can't just have a bend over boyfriend without it involving the lifestyle

Uno card reverse that...and the guy checking my tank and filling me to the top..

Is gonna have control over me

boh99 68M

3154 posts
12/8/2023 9:11 pm

dominant women are very rare in the wild, and there's usually a ratio of 100 men to each of them. Pro-dommes seem to be more common but seems like it's missing something.


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