Blog : Why am I a submissive? What am I really needing from a Dominant

7123 posts
12/19/2023 5:41 am

Why am I a submissive? What am I really needing from a Dominant

Part 1.

Why am I submissive,

If you knew me in real life you might say?

Your not submissive...if anything your quite the chad. The guy that doesn't give a fuck,walks around with big balls,loud,funny AF,the type of guy that lights up the room and rallies the troops..

I think people tend to stereotype the lifestyle..

They think slaves are either shy,reserved,mousey types or they are some extrovert in their 9 to 5 and a gimp to some Dominatrix at night.

And that's just wrong....ALOT of Dom/mes want strong slaves..

ALOT of Dominant people aren't " Billy badass".

We're just people..

Submission is very natural to me. I've always been the apple polisher in school,the teachers pet. I find I respond wonderfully to someone of authority in the vanilla world like nurses,doctors,the police..
Around these types I find myself going into subspace. I feel compelled to follow,be directed,etc

So you can't imagine how I react to someone truly dominant in the lifestyle.

2. So I ask myself as I look for a Dom ...what do I want out of a Dominant person?
What have I been missing?

And like most subs I find myself looking for the same scenario in different people..

Soooo...I thought I'd put pen to paper and just get it out...you might actually enjoy it..

1. Hierarchy...I'm very "Anne rice" writing sleeping beauty..lol...I need a clear distinction between Dominant and slave. I'm not here to be your bud or your boyfriend. I feel the slave is inferior,beneath the Dominant. Much like a serf compared to royality.
I found way too many Dominant want/ have that sub hub. Ironically the Charlie or Joe or tom we see in the office is the same we see in at group events,play parties. Etc.

And to me that isn't a slave..

And trust me I'm not an old guard bdsm guy...but I drawn to things that outwardly show a slave his place...like boot licking.
To some that may seem wrong,icky,stupid.

But it really triggers something in me and makes sense...I mean I was an apple polisher in school. So I get the same wonderful feeling being naked and on all fours greeting a Dominant in this fashion.

2. Discipline...I think Dominant people enjoy discipline as much as slaves do.

But I feel it can't be just a one off or just a punishment thing.

If anything I feel discipline is like weight lifting. You need that guide to constantly push you,get you over plateaus, work with you to endure more..

If a slave is to really grow..he needs to be disciplined .

And yeahhhh...I think it needs to be harsh.

Discipline should be discipline...I don't see a distinction between say play vs punishment.

Cause the only way to get him seasoned to endure more, is to start being harsh with him now..

3. Being a bottom bottom

To me it's important to not only important to be a slave..but be used sexually as one..

So strap ons,dicks,toys,fingers,fist etc

4. Trinkets....
Unlike a lot of slaves I'm very open minded when it comes to the Dominants particular style of bdsm..

But ideally I love the idea of a strict authorative aunt type for a Domme..

And yeah a gay grandpa type for a Dom....basically commanding yet warm and fuzzy as opposed to a drill sargent type.

likesmatures 55M

4840 posts
12/19/2023 5:42 am

And as I look for potential Dominants I really need to see if these needs can be met

boh99 68M

3154 posts
12/19/2023 8:29 am

ever think of having a permanent dom ?

likesmatures 55M

4840 posts
12/19/2023 2:14 pm

Well yeahhhh hello

Tckg12 69M

2500 posts
12/19/2023 3:03 pm

we are very much alike. probably one reason why i like your blogs so much!!! thanks


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