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likesmatures 55M
7120 posts
1/19/2024 4:48 pm
Does " bdsm" need to be shattered in order to grow..become " the norm"?

I really want some big brain input on this one..

Cause I see a hella lot of this going on in the gay community..

People aren't " dabbling ".. rather they are taking certain portions of the over all bdsm " lifestyle"..

And making it work for them.

Like say bondage and edging a dick..

AND HUH? That is all he wants??.,that is what his interest in..
The rest of bdsm is useless..

Now back in the day we'd laugh

Call these people " domestic discipliners"..

Or just wannabees..

But these same people are normalizing your kink..

I see the same thing in the m2m spanking communities ..

Your sexual orientation doesn't matter..sex doesn't matter..dudes just be getting off on spanking period..

So does bdsm as a whole..

Matter??

And I think this notion of " bdsm" will soon carry over..
And people will be piece mealing it out.

likesmatures 55M
4837 posts
1/19/2024 4:49 pm

 Your thoughts???


pzkw 63M  
1283 posts
1/19/2024 6:47 pm

 My little take on the "normalization" of BDSM-type stuff: years ago, a woman wearing high-heeled, over-the-knee boots would be called all kinds of negative names. Nowadays, women of all stripes are wearing those kinds of boots. Just goes to show you how norms & mores change over time.


sissy_sally_69 54M
258 posts
1/20/2024 8:00 am

 Well on one hand you do have the issue of not everyone is interested in everything that falls under the BDSM umbrella.

On the other hand, does BDSM really need to become the norm? Does it really need to be mainstream?

Personally I'm content with it not being considered a mental disorder anymore and I think that's about as mainstream as I care for it to be.

I also don't feel a need to flaunt my likes, sexuality, etc and force it peoples faces.

If I'm around like minded people it's one thing, if I'm around families in public, there's no need for that.

What about piss play or scat or blood? Absolutely not everyone's cup of tea, but does that lessen the person with zero interest in it? Are they required to do it in order to be considered "real"?

I think the marginalization comes from mainstream media. Movies, TV, romance novels, etc., showing the tamer aspects with what they can get away with showing, and that gets the masses attention.

IF BDSM was shattered to grow, what would it grow into?



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