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"Intelligence is Sexy"...well, it's a lot deeper than that Hello all, thank you so much on the positive feedback and reception I've received on this blog so far. Writing is a passion of mine so it means a lot to me. That being said, this site does have a tendency to butcher my posts so I have to edit & proofread on this interface more compared to other platforms I've written on. I've never been a fan of trite cliches and throughout my years of perusing dating sites, both kink & vanilla, I see "intelligence is sexy" written on numerous profiles. And don't even get me started on the recent advent of every other person values intellect claiming they're a "sapiosexual" (more on that later). Intelligence is just one aspect of a person that can make them attractive or sexy. I don't care how intelligent they are if I am not physically attracted to them. That would be called a "friend". Intelligence is not a monolith nor is it the be-all to end-all. What type of intelligence are we talking here? I notice hardly anyone actually specifies what they mean, which makes it more of a trite cliche. Are we talking street-smarts? Book-smarts? Mechanically-inclined? Intelligence is also one of those things that are relative. We are all intelligent in some ways and not-so-intelligent in others. I've always been attracted to men that have some intellect or intellectual curiosity. I don't see a need to claim myself as a "sapiosexual". Some were more book-smart, some more street-smart, some better with his bare hands rather than a textbook. "Sapiosexual" is one of those buzzwords I've seen in the last 4-5 years. It's supposedly someone finds intelligence sexually arousing. Intelligence is paramount yes, but it's gonna take a whole lot more than that to arouse me sexually. It's one of those words that people on profiles use to make themselves come across as more intelligent or cultured than they actually are. It comes off quite pretentious. People have been valuing intellect in a partner long before that term made its way onto Buzzfeed. I like well-rounded individuals who have a mix of social/emotional, street, mechanical & academic intelligence - in that order. A "school fool" (educated but has no street-smarts or common sense) is someone I wouldn't be able to tolerate long-term. It reminds me of my stepmother who graduated magna cum laude from UCSD but routinely forgot to lock her car & house, while living in L.A. |
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Well written.
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I see "sapiosexual" as used by quiet a few women in particular as a limiting/qualifying screen tool. They screen out the rude, crass, player and just plain dumb folks who contact them. I also see "asexual" used in a similar manner. In the later case, it is also a means of saying, I may have sex with someone, but am not interested in a relationships and /or I may be interested in a relationship but sex will not be a part of it. Both are subject to individual interpretation. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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You can tell she has passion for writing
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Is this where I'm supposed to tell you how intelligent I am?  Nice to have a blog that thinks things out. Now if we could just do something about the drapes around here. 
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We are all intelligent in some ways and not-so-intelligent in others. This reminds Me of a Will Rogers quote. And what might that be? "Everyone is ignorant, just on different subjects." Puts it perfectly into perspective. Make Women Female Again
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"school fool"......i love that
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10/12/2019 7:05 am |
A well written piece that does a very nice job reflecting the author's desires. I can take no issue with any of the points made except I learned a long time ago that for me, it is all about the energy between individuals and how it aligns. There is no formula and I have found much to my surprise over the years, no one characteristic that is qualifying or disqualifying. Sure my profile tries to summarize what I find important, but it is not hard and fast and I have had incredible relationships with women who did not satisfy my "checklist." It is the total energy that counts. That is why arranged marriages can work so well. Of course when you start talking about shorter term or relationships based on "scenes", then the requirements may totally change. I believe this author is focusing on longer term and more intensive relationships which is fine, but by no means required in the kink world..
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I see my spell check got one of my typos messed up. Quiet should be Quite. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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