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infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/20/2020 2:53 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    infinitepoetess, Well, wanting a 24/7 Totall Authority Transfer, (wich means, the D, could also be a woman,)
    The Dominant-Master is in charge, all the time.

    That has not so much to do, with having a D/s. i believe...

    Most vanillas i know of, are capable to understand the excitement of having a sexual Dominant-submissive 'experience'... in the bedroom, so to say.
    A M/s TAT is not about that kind of experience in a relation.
    You understand the difference?

    and i agree with what you say.
    My way of looking at relationships, power games in those mostly vanilla relations...?!
    It is such an totall other dimension.

    it is like they are from a totall other planet.
    Having soo much restriction in their believe /sex system. mindframe....
I have lived 24/7 D/s in total power exchange so yes, I get it on many levels
I have an M/s tattoo on the back of my neck. Hurt the worse of any of my tatts


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/20/2020 2:56 pm

    Quoting Falcon1343:
    just set everyone done and tell them
    you are into the lifestyle..and it is
    what you want for yourself. and tell
    them you know that it's not for everyone
    out in the world..
    and that being a part of it makes you feel
    happy.
good points


subbeardad60 63M
75 posts
4/21/2020 11:25 am

When my wife and I started exploring the scene we joined Fet, and discovered there my sister and brother-in-law, her sister, and three members of our church. We knew that the rest of our family included many judgmental gossiping busy-bodies, so we prioritized a mutual discretion agreement,


janey_robbins 65T  
287 posts
4/21/2020 12:24 pm

I did the don't ask thing, unless you are prepared for the answers : -)

No one has the right to say that what I do ( and who I do ) is wrong, but I also don't have the right to shove my (hot sexy throbbing fun) way of life down other peoples throats.

Fun though it might be to think about it


rosaenaluin 65F
11004 posts
4/21/2020 12:54 pm

infinitepoetess, wow, even a tatoo? in your neck? My! god! that must have hurt, real bad.
And now you are no longer in that M/s relation?
This goes beyond your questionnaire..

How did you handle that?
You dont have to tell, if you dont want to share.. i understand that...


RTDomDaddy 58M

4/21/2020 2:26 pm

My family would be shocked to find out I was into vanilla


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/21/2020 9:18 pm

    Quoting subbeardad60:
    When my wife and I started exploring the scene we joined Fet, and discovered there my sister and brother-in-law, her sister, and three members of our church. We knew that the rest of our family included many judgmental gossiping busy-bodies, so we prioritized a mutual discretion agreement,
Wow! Talk about 6 degrees of separation!


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/21/2020 9:19 pm

    Quoting janey_robbins:
    I did the don't ask thing, unless you are prepared for the answers : -)

    No one has the right to say that what I do ( and who I do ) is wrong, but I also don't have the right to shove my (hot sexy throbbing fun) way of life down other peoples throats.

    Fun though it might be to think about it
Greatest answer


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/21/2020 9:21 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    infinitepoetess, wow, even a tatoo? in your neck? My! god! that must have hurt, real bad.
    And now you are no longer in that M/s relation?
    This goes beyond your questionnaire..

    How did you handle that?
    You dont have to tell, if you dont want to share.. i understand that...
Yes my neck tattoo is kanji lettering that is master and slave.
My husband and master of 10 years died last October. To say I was devastating would not be enough to describe at first. I am coping much better now, but it is traumatic beyond all comprehension at first,


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/21/2020 9:22 pm

    Quoting RTDomDaddy:
    My family would be shocked to find out I was into vanilla
I love this answer


rosaenaluin 65F
11004 posts
4/22/2020 1:41 am

infinitepoetess, i can believe that! It must have been real hard on you... and still is, maybe.... on some days.....
one day at the time, he?

RTDomDaddy hahaha, nice answer!


olfiveanddimer 70M

4/22/2020 7:40 am

In the words of a song sung by the great Billie Holiday:
There ain't nothing I can do
Or nothing I can say
That folks don't criticize me
But I'm going to do
Just as I want to anyway
And don't care just what people say
If I should take a notion
To jump into the ocean
Ain't nobody's business if I do
If I go to church on Sunday
Then cabaret all day Monday
Ain't nobody's business if I do
If my man ain't got no money
And I say "take all mine, honey"
Ain't nobody's business if I do
If I give him my last nickel
And it leaves me in a pickle
Ain't nobody's business if I do
But I'd rather my man would hit me
Than follow him to jump up and quit me
Ain't nobody's business if I do
I swear I won't call no copper
If I'm beat up by my papa
Ain't nobody's business if I do
Nobody's business
Ain't nobody's business
Nobody's business if I do


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/24/2020 4:48 am

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    infinitepoetess, i can believe that! It must have been real hard on you... and still is, maybe.... on some days.....
    one day at the time, he?

    RTDomDaddy hahaha, nice answer!
Yes, one day at a time. The shut down and being stuck in my house hasn't been the best for my morale sometimes, but I am rolling with the punches.
I can only describe the sheer fear a slave feels when that tie is broken after such a long term relationship. Coupled with grief it was debilitating for a time - about 3 months. He always said 1 year in M/s was like 7 dog years...I believe he was right


RTDomDaddy 58M

4/25/2020 10:34 am

My family;y would be surprised to find out I was not a Dominant


RTDomDaddy 58M

4/29/2020 1:13 pm

:smile: you should write me sometime at hardluvndad
Gee mail


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/29/2020 4:09 pm

    Quoting RTDomDaddy:
    My family;y would be surprised to find out I was not a Dominant
Another great answer


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
4/30/2020 10:53 am

    Quoting  :


NastyDom4u2pleez 59M

5/31/2020 8:07 am

Definitely just own it. Better to be 100% truthful and upfront. My slave always has a collar/choker on. Maybe not the leash attached on Christmas


Funtimes41042 49M

6/3/2020 4:19 am

Definitely own it, love the idea of the collar and leash!


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
6/3/2020 9:40 am

    Quoting NastyDom4u2pleez:
    Definitely just own it. Better to be 100% truthful and upfront. My slave always has a collar/choker on. Maybe not the leash attached on Christmas
Maybe just the leash attached at home on Christmas ?


NastyDom4u2pleez 59M

6/3/2020 8:02 pm

    Quoting infinitepoetess:
    Maybe just the leash attached at home on Christmas ?
Definitely the leash at home during Christmas and most other times


infinitepoetess replies on 6/3/2020 10:29 pm:
As it should be

lindaxx69xx 69F
19 posts
6/23/2020 6:44 pm

so now that you've been betrayed by someone what are you going to do, hide it from them?????? how many years????? the rest of your life????? they know part just tell them or your really going to need a shrink and someone to pay for it.



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