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infinitepoetess 54F
6326 posts
8/22/2022 11:11 am
Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater



"Fuck You for cheating on me. Fuck you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too emotional. The same person who thought, oops, he’d gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Fuck you. This isn’t about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.
—David Levithan


Cheating is such a simplistic word for betrayal.

This isn't a rant from a closed minded ranter, this is the experience of the side who has been betrayed. It sucks to know someone lied to you just for a piece of strange. It's the moment you realize you can't trust anything that has ever been said to you. The person has "meant it" in a whole slew of moments, and that isn't going to change.
It's quite simple: They took the trust and love you had for them and manipulated you into accepting their betrayal.

If you are in an open relationship or poly, honesty is the glue that's holding you together. So, yes, you can be a cheater in that situation too. For the minute that you don't tell your partner what is going on, the betrayal has already begun.

Song for this post
I'm Not The Only One - Sam Smith


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/22/2022 11:12 am

… You and me we made a vow
For better or for worse
I can't believe you let me down
But the proof is in the way it hurts
For months on end I've had my doubts
Denying every tear
I wish this would be over now
But I know that I still need you here
… You say I'm crazy
'Cause you don't think I know what you've done
But when you call me baby
I know I'm not the only one
… You've been so unavailable
Now sadly I know why
Your heart is unobtainable
Even though Lord knows you kept mine
… You say I'm crazy
'Cause you don't think I know what you've done
But when you call me baby
I know I'm not the only one
… I have loved you for many years
Maybe I am just not enough
You've made me realize my deepest fear
By lying and tearing us up
… You say I'm crazy
'Cause you don't think I know what you've done
But when you call me baby
I know I'm not the only one
… You say I'm crazy
'Cause you don't think I know what you've done
But when you call me baby
I know I'm not the only one
… I know I'm not the only one
I know I'm not the only one
And I know, and I know, and I know
And I know, and I know, and I know, know
… I know I'm not the only one


ridermantel 68M

8/22/2022 11:12 am


rondiri 65M
11194 posts
8/22/2022 11:23 am

If you can't be honest, totally open, then what's the use? Sure if you're asked, "Does this make me look fat?" doesn't require bluntness, but can be answered honestly.


boh99 68M
3165 posts
8/22/2022 1:21 pm

love and desire are so complicated. But at the end, a promise is a promise and our word is important.


drmgirl622 68F  
26159 posts
8/22/2022 1:58 pm

After a horrible breakup and being left holding everything, the hurt and pain were immeasurable. This song by Jennifer Nettles found a place in my psyche and had some sort of healing effect on me. I, myself, was by no means perfect in my lifetime so was it really karma......who knows.

Unlove You ~~~ Jennifer Nettles


hardtop4you 65M

8/22/2022 5:46 pm

Are you aware there is a web site
where you can check to see if the
person you're talking to is a cheater?
Check out cheaterslie dot com


bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4214 posts
8/22/2022 6:36 pm

cheaters never prosper are never ever happy & habitually only cheat themselves out of something that coulda been great...many reasons to validate the act but in the end all are really invalid w a trail of tears betrayal hurt & misery left in the wake!


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/22/2022 10:41 pm

    Quoting rondiri:
    If you can't be honest, totally open, then what's the use? Sure if you're asked, "Does this make me look fat?" doesn't require bluntness, but can be answered honestly.
Totally agree


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/22/2022 10:42 pm

    Quoting boh99:
    love and desire are so complicated. But at the end, a promise is a promise and our word is important.
Yas our word is our integrity


Mrpaulux1 55M
227 posts
8/23/2022 12:48 am

I wouldn't say like I'm crazy crazy crazy lool


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/23/2022 3:44 am

    Quoting  :

We are entitled to our points of view. I get it, but I disagree
The results can mean STDs, emotional pain, betrayal of promises made, children's pain, etc. Why devastate another human just because the kitty gets wet? Or the dick gets hard? It's one of those things where one has to decide what the fallout will be and what collateral damage is acceptable


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/23/2022 3:45 am

    Quoting hardtop4you:
    Are you aware there is a web site
    where you can check to see if the
    person you're talking to is a cheater?
    Check out cheaterslie dot com
Of course there is


infinitepoetess 54F
3499 posts
8/23/2022 3:45 am

    Quoting bdsmDOMdaddy:
    cheaters never prosper are never ever happy & habitually only cheat themselves out of something that coulda been great...many reasons to validate the act but in the end all are really invalid w a trail of tears betrayal hurt & misery left in the wake!


aliljaded 53F
8964 posts
8/23/2022 4:02 am

Being cheated on sucks. Full Stop. Lying usually comes hand and hand with cheating.
I love the quote. It's perfect.
xx~M

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


ExNameForUse 54F
5766 posts
8/23/2022 12:23 pm

Betrayal is like murder. Premeditated murder. Done with no conscious, or empathy. Deliberate, selfish, egocentric act of amputating someone's hopes, dreams, and faith, leaving them as emotional and mental invalids. Unforgivable act, never to be forgotten, yet for our own good, should be left to karma to her job. She does not forget nor forgive.



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