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Can you be my Daddy? The short answer is "probably not". The long answer, as with everything else, begins "well, it's complicated..." The first time I called someone Daddy it was a really big deal for us both. We had been in a close, loving D/s relationship for about a year, and I had found myself reading and thinking more and more about ageplay. There was a blog 'Glitter and hearts and spanking' that spoke a lot about the kind of relationship that was possible with a DD/lg dynamic, and it became clear - and my partner, once I was brave enough bring it with him, agreed - that really it was what we were doing already. But using that language felt, still feels, meaningful. There seem be two different meanings it in the kink world: there's the hot, sexy transgression of using a term from the parent/ domain in a sexual context; and the more emotional, drawing on the feelings of love and safety and protection that a parent is understood to hold for a . Both have an appeal for , but the significance, the power of the latter, impinges my ability enjoy the former its own terms. If when I am playing or having sex with someone, they tell me call them Daddy, I will. I'll feel some friction about it, but I understand that they mean it just as a hot thing say, as transgressive dirty talk. And it totally is that. And yet... and yet. The real meaning of Daddy, for me, is so tied to the vulnerability of being little with someone. And that is a rare rare feeling. Not because there aren't people who would enjoy bringing it out, but rather because I don't often feel safe enough to be that way. My armour is a confident boldness. I was told by someone recently that they had found me intimidating. This was far from the first time. It's always a little disorienting when I'm told that, because I don't see myself that way at all. But then, I see the little girl curled inside my cuirass. I'm afraid be her unarmored. Being little has never been about dressing , or doing childish things, for (ykiok), but rather about a feeling I have with someone. Daddy is the safety be small and afraid. Daddy is somewhere I can hide from the world in general and from who I am supposed be, who I often actively choose be in it. Daddy is home. Daddy is love. Yes, I'll call you it if you ask/tell me , because I'm a good girl, but if you don't ask , if you create the conditions in which it comes from me unbidden, then this is what it means. Ageplay is a misleading term for that feeling. There is no play, no pretend about it for me. If anything, it's quite the opposite, in that it allows me be that part of myself unreservedly. It has been a very long time indeed since I have allowed myself that, since I felt like it was safe be that vulnerable little girl. Because it's not temporary, it's not a one-off short-term thing I can switch on and off. If you make feel like that, if I allow myself feel like that, then a part of will always feel like that with you, about you. And that means either you have be willing care about my vulnerability when you're not fucking , as well as when you are, or I have accept that seeing or thinking about you will make sad and hurt a little, and upset with myself for allowing those feelings develop in the first place. So my armour stays , almost almost always. For my protection and for yours. Do you really want take it off and hold that space for ? If not, I'll call you Daddy if you want , but that doesn't mean that you will be my Daddy. |
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I understand exactly what you mean. For me though, I imagine a son taking the place of his father and assuming the role of Daddy.
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I totally connect withy your words here dd....as a Father of 2 and a Daddy of 1 
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9/15/2020 9:27 am |
I would love to be your daddy, I love younger women and having a daddy daughter role play really turns me on!
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