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I don't think the right answer is in her poll, nor do i think a poll is how to determine a relationship move, but I'll give my 2 cents... She should talk to her girlfriend and see if she feels your friend is being irresponsible too
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Well that situation sounds to be one holy mess of confusion and indecision. I have to agree with naughtyNJ26 in that the correct answer is just not in your poll options. I think they both need to sit and seriously talk about where they are . .and where they wish to go. It seems their relationship is currently so complex.
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12/30/2020 8:05 am |
I think it’s a conversation between two grownups that won’t be determined by a poll.
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12/30/2020 9:44 am |
If it’s because they want to have a reason to be bound to each other then no. If they want to commit you have to find a way to grow and be happy as an individual and as a couple.
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12/30/2020 2:59 pm |
Babies don't fix things. As most of these comments have said an adult conversation between these two is needed, probably multiple conversations TBH and they need to sort themselves out first before even thinking about adding anyone else into the picture.
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12/31/2020 8:55 am |
Bdsm should be about trust and openness otherwise it could lead To abuse. And kids don’t fix anything or marriage.
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1/2/2021 3:45 am |
You decide what you want in life and balance it. Be a writer with a relationship it’s easy weather it’s scheduling or talking it out. You need a couple who understands what you’re seeking in life but at the same time make time for the couple to grow. It’s all balance and not controlling someone.
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I want to love someone for who they are; not what they do.. Happy New Year!
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1/2/2021 6:54 am |
Agree Persephone 2020
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1/2/2021 8:25 am |
We all have faults but there are some issues!
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The problem right now seems that if they do break up, the wrong person will have the kids. The "writer" needs to get over herself here, and realize that her life is her family (if that is in fact the case) and not her writing. Then, only then, once you have your feet on the ground, can you hope to have any kind of a BDSM relationship (as opposed to play date). BDSM is only going to add intensity. But, if what is there already isn't stable, then that intentsity is going to tear it apart.
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1/3/2021 5:30 am |
Hope it works out
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1/4/2021 9:55 am |
Good
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I am a bit in the same situation here. I have a partner (if that term is still applicable) and a daughter together with her. Our relationship was very wobbly in the last few years not only because my partner was ill for several years, but also for other reasons. Now, the many sleepless nights because of our daughter (who is now 5 1/2 years old) made everything even more tricky. We now decided to split up the house - luckily it is a big one, so each of us three gets two rooms, and we still have two common rooms to share. Since we did that (half year ago or so), everything got better. The daughter got calmer (though that might be related to her age), her mother more healthy and more happy, I became more focused and determined, and our relationship starts growing again. So, if your friends can do that, they should physically separate with the purpose to get closer together again. They should not separate for good, because that would help noone, and only increase your friends insecurity and destroy any spark of hope that she might be able to hold a relationship. And that in turn would drive her into her writing even more. How successful is she with writing? Does she do it to earn a living and can do so? does she do it to escape from her fear of living? In any case, she should have the strength to set a schedule for herself to write - and then, WRITE AND ONLY WRITE. Not seeking inspiration through gaming, not googling stupid facts which don't change the worth of her writing one bit, not thinking up world backstories and character sheets, but good old boring writing! - you might realize, I liked to see myself as a writer and know the struggles. Also, when she does NOT earn significant money with her writing, she should clearly set a time. Write for 25 minutes a day. Or, if she has that time, maybe one hour. Or two hours a week. Most Computers and phones have screen time controls, so she can set herself allowances how much she can use her writing program. No matter how old the boys are, they need her. This year, more than ever. It is difficult, I struggle so hard with my daughter, but it is needed. feel free to *hangout with toni.alexandrowitsch When you come to a fork in the road, take it. __Yogi Berra
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1/4/2021 11:36 pm |
Well a lot of people helped and the comments are the same, it’s their choice and they have to try either scheduling or find a way to balance it out.
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you did leave out if they both sat down many times and talked about everything. if she was very clear in her needs. if she did that and things are not better i go for a break up for sure. not all women were made to be mom's. and she smart to try and find one who is for the kids
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Hell no, they shouldn’t have a baby.
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1/9/2021 12:50 pm |
they should fuk each others ass
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promise not kept shows lack of dedication, so they should sit together and see what caused the promise to be broken
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Even though she is a writer it is still a job and burying yourself in your wirk is never good. So she should balance work and family life.
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Maid, if she is really been writing for seventeen years and not having published her book or story or whatever, then she is lost in her fantasy world, but that does not help her. I know. I am in the same place. It is not easy. I am so used to distract myself from my life (with answering to blog posts, with writing blog posts myself, with trying to find playpartners here or anywhere..... sometimes even with writing, though these days writing seems to be the most productive thing I do.....) If she wants to connect, feel free to give her my address toni.alexandrowitsch(at)gm so we can waste time together or help each other to get out of the hole..... When you come to a fork in the road, take it. __Yogi Berra
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