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Blogs > ExNameForUse > Thoughts of an Introvert

ExNameForUse 53F
4244 posts
8/29/2020 11:27 am
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TheScribe1 63M

8/29/2020 11:35 am

 I think that when you have wished for something truly special for so long that, when it suddenly appears, it can actually be quite frightening. Defense mechanisms kick in, and before you know it ~poof~ its gone again. After that has repeated a few times you tell yourself it will never happen...and the self-fulfilling prophecy continues...x
My Words Are A way Into Your Mind...Be brave And let Me In.


ExNameForUse replies on 8/29/2020 11:57 am:
I wont disagree, yes, it happens, but I believe that nothing is as powerful as true desire which then overcomes any fear or obstacle on it's way to fulfilling. Or we don't wish anything that much to make any significant step to switch from fantasy to reality. Fantasy is always perfect. reality most of the time - not.

TheScribe1 63M

8/29/2020 12:32 pm

 I would also agree...reality is the kicker. True desire is so ephemeral that us poets have dined out on it for millennia ~smiles~ but when it DOES strike it can become all-consuming, and dare I say a dangerous thing?
My Words Are A way Into Your Mind...Be brave And let Me In.


ExNameForUse replies on 8/29/2020 2:11 pm:
Is true desire ephemeral? Or is it lust that is ephemeral? When it DOES strike, true desire, it is all-consuming and I would dare to say addictive. If that is dangerous, I agree with you. But how else to feel alive in this anesthetic world? With short meaningless distractions? Hardly.

DancingDom 74M
22590 posts
8/29/2020 1:26 pm

 Very interesting. For me, I won't do on line role play or talk about fantasy. It seems to be a dead end in the long run. It is like runner, hitting the "wall". Reality slaps them in the face.
"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 8/29/2020 2:17 pm:
That's fair enough and anyone serious would respect that.

Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
8/29/2020 1:35 pm

 To enter into a deep relationship, you must make yourself vulnerable. The person in whom you place your trust can hurt you (potentially) in so many ways, for instance by deciding that despite your feelings for them, theirs for you are not enough to sustain a relationship.
The nature of a site like this is (generally) not geared to those seeking such a relationship (although it can happen) and consequently, most on here are looking for something more transient for an array of reasons
With that said, you'd hope that when two people find the kind of depth that you allude to that they would be wise enough to embrace it as something rare and valuable - even if it is not what they came looking for in the first place.


ExNameForUse replies on 8/29/2020 2:56 pm:
I am not here long, not spoken to many, but I still have the impression that for whatever the reason for coming here in first place was, majority seek for ordinary human acceptance and appreciation for what and who they are. What I feel sorry for is that most of them do disappear after some opening happens.
Rare and valuable connections can happen anywhere if you just let them happen. But it seems people feel safer with short distractions while, at the same time, they search for something deeper. Or so they say.

naturist19 63M

8/30/2020 2:51 am

 Frank open communication is a wonderful thing, but so few can actually cope with it.
To me no topic is taboo or off the table. How many can say the same?
I will only stop talking to somebody who does not want to talk to me, or is a fake just wanting money.
To find what I seek would be a dream come true, and should I ever get that lucky I will not being running from anything. If only I get the chance!


Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
8/30/2020 10:23 am

 A word of caution if you try to communicate with folk on this site via IM - it is notoriously unreliable (also on the sister site). Two people canbe actively trying to communicate using it and neither one gets the messages sent by the other - this was confirmed to me elsewhere via "chat" where an aquaintance and I were both actively (and at the same time) trying to communicate with each other. If you are unaware that this happens, it can cause you to believe that you are being slighted when it is not the case. This is just another factor to include in your musings about the intentions of folk (mind, it can of course be a deliberate stone-walling!).


ExNameForUse replies on 8/30/2020 11:34 am:
Thank you for mentioning, I am aware how IM is not reliable, happened many times so far.


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