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Blogs > ExNameForUse > Thoughts of an Introvert

ExNameForUse 53F
4244 posts
7/11/2021 1:32 am
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DancingDom 74M
22591 posts
7/11/2021 5:28 am

 I don't believe there is a point where you don't make some sort of decisions about your life when you are a fully mentally functioning person once you are beyond the infant/toddler stage. Oh there may be moments when we don't, but on a daily basis regardless if you are a submissive/slave you make them.being a submissive/slave you make to choice of staying in the bounds of being who/what you are. Which can be totally in the bounds of the parameters you agreed to, when entering that relationship. If the dominant/master strays from those agreed upon parameters, you choose to continue or not continue to operate in the situation as the submissive/slave acquiescing to the new parameters.
"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 7/11/2021 7:52 am:
Thank you DD, we agreed on this topic on FET, and I can only confirm here as well I agree with you.

Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
7/11/2021 6:18 am

 I can understand the desire (sexually) to be the submissive, to give yourself over to another's desires, to be an object of lust - I suspect that many men would like a "night off" where there partner initiates and controls things, for once. However, you seem to be hunting for a relationship, a durable thing. Whilst you can consistently be the submissive, sexually, I would be very surprised if you actually wanted that to flow through into other aspects of a shared life. For me, any relationship must be built around mutual respect and equality - even if you agree to set that aside in your intimate life. In this way, your "submission" becomes a gift to your "dominant" since it is who you choose to become to please him (and yourself), but a needy woman without a mind of her own, whose every thought must be measured against a spectrum of how this pleases my master, I can't see you in that role.


ExNameForUse replies on 7/11/2021 8:01 am:
Good to see you Raven, thank you for your comment, which is actually very accurate perspective of the author of this blog x
I wouldn't mind handing over some parts of my everyday life to be controlled or better to say supervised or even better to say shared.. maybe I am tired of making all the decisions on my own and sometimes it is good to hear another opinion and share concerns... yet, the bedroom is another thing and that is where I would enjoy being a good little doll for somebody else I trust and love xx
That combination, to my unexperienced opinion, is also a submission, in its own way and as such should be cherised xx

drmgirl622 68F  
26117 posts
7/11/2021 7:11 am

 You are not a wannabe by any means !!


ExNameForUse replies on 7/11/2021 8:06 am:
My mind and my soul do know that, my dear girl... it's about finesses which make us all different and unique in our submission and ways to express that side of our personality... thank you for your contribution to my loud thinking and.. again questioning

softrayne 56F
3088 posts
7/11/2021 7:07 pm

 Jmho, but I think it is the true (define as you will) submissive who actually questions things. One just can't roll over and show their belly to just anyone. The way to get to the trust required is to ask questions. Lot's of them. Now once that trust has been established it's a different matter-but is it really? I can't say, I've never been there, but even then I think there is a time and place for questions. Many kind wishes upon you. rayne.


ExNameForUse replies on 7/11/2021 10:17 pm:
I think so too, rayne... asking questions or share and discuss any concerns is a vital part of any relationship and D/s furthermore, and after yesterdays chat on this topic here and on fet I came to realize that my own questioning if I was real or just a wannabe, was about me feeling insecure after some things happened... sometimes it is helpful to have complete strangers tell you certain things... we are all real, each of us in our own way... all the best to you rayne, and thank you for your comment

tahimikbayani 53M
8008 posts
7/12/2021 4:19 pm

 You want a Dominant, not a parent. Love and trust yourself, and let the self doubts fall by the waist side. It's paramount that you find a partner, Dominant, that you both fit equally and not 30/70 or 20/80. Kinda my thoughts anyway.


ExNameForUse replies on 7/13/2021 11:50 am:
Maybe I haven't put my thoughts properly in that blog.. self-questioning and self-doubt came after being rejected in, I would dare to say, rude way, like I am the worst that could have ever happen in someones' life.. it hurts and in those moments of despair it made me question if I am of any worth at all if someone could have treated me that way, if I am really what I claim to be and feel the need for, and if I am - am I doing it properly. It is mixture of emotions, thoughts, feelings, doubts I guess all part of a "healing" part of my life now.. it will pass and I shall again love myself the way I am. Thank you for your thoughts, you know they are always welcome.


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