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Blogs > ExNameForUse > Thoughts of an Introvert

ExNameForUse 53F
4244 posts
1/12/2022 6:09 am
Empty Vessels Make the Most Noise
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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
1/12/2022 6:10 am

 For feeling better when bitter try adding some lemon and gin. Though I prefer orange 😊


brandygirasol 55T
9433 posts
1/12/2022 6:29 am
    Quoting ExNameForUse:
    For feeling better when bitter try adding some lemon and gin. Though I prefer orange 😊
Thank You For The Tip, Dear!!! 💜 ... CHEERS 🥂 ... 💋Brandy


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 6:36 am:
Cheers dear Brendy 🥂😉😘

Artschoolgrad 47M
8719 posts
1/12/2022 6:44 am

 so true! seems we are on the same wavelength today!


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 6:48 am:
Thats good to read! Lets then ride this wave and make the best of this day 😊

Plzrmeister 67M  
10455 posts
1/12/2022 6:51 am

 I don't really give a f***

Ooooo .... Ex said "f***" Are we gonna have to wash her mouth out with soap? Gin and orange - Did you forget the tonic water or are you shooting it down straight?

I think it's easy for each of us to say we don't care what others think about us or our activities. Saying it and living it are two different things though. I think it's somewhat human nature to care, but not dwell or fret, about what others think .... whether it's someone close to you or the public in general.

I am sure you're going to get many responses here that say something to the effect of "F*** what other people think - Be yourself!"
Sounds good - Doesn't it. It's the practical application that is a bit more difficult.

There's a fine line in this discussion somewhere. There are people in each of our lives that we do care about what hey think - To varying degrees. I'd wager there people mostly fall into the category of relatives. From there, we're able to ( theoretically ) care less and less. Yet in the end, what do I know about anything??
Make Women Female Again


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 9:52 am:
Ohh.. well, sorry if disappointed you, but I love the word f***. It can be so helpful at times, and descriptive. Though not using it often, as a lady, yet when among friends, I will allow it now and then... and here I feel like being among friends...

I don't know what will you and other friends write in response to my writing, and as you can read, there are no typical replies as you thought there will be, which is a good sign. I guess it means I am seen or recognized as someone who is beyond empty life-coach-advice, and that my words are recognized as sincere, and not in search of approval or quick gratification.

I guess that all deserve one gin and tonic (bitter in my comment to this blog was referring to bitter+lemon+gin)

drmgirl622 68F  
26111 posts
1/12/2022 8:02 am

 I'm actually more inclined to have a vodka and tonic or a vodka martini but to each their own taste.

I will say that I do care what others think, how they perceive me. The legacy that I leave behind is very important to me. Do I live my life the way I choose, most definitely, but there is never pushing my beliefs or my lifestyle onto anyone else.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 9:30 am:
I believe living my life by my own morals, does not exclude leaving a legacy behind me my son would be ashamed of. I am saying my son, as he is the only one I have in mind when making decisions about my life, as that will in one way or another have an impact on his life, feelings, ... Maybe just the opposite. Maybe I would be the role model as someone who has enough strength and will and courage to live that way. It doesn't mean I am pushing my beliefs onto anyone else. It means I am out of a game where someone else is pushing their beliefs on me.

alwaysassertive 64M

1/12/2022 8:20 am

 Maybe it's just me, but I believe a Dom should always be working to establish confidence and self-worth in his sub. If she lacks those two things then he has failed her. If me, being with someone doesn't enhance their life then I have failed, and my sub will fail due to my inactions. That's at least how I see things.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 9:36 am:
For what you are suggesting Dom has to have self-confidence and be self-aware before being able to support and encourage the same in someone else. Otherwise, it is just a play, that will sooner or later have a disastrous ending.

Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
1/12/2022 8:44 am

 Ultimately, the only people with the power to make us feel small are those we invest our love in. If we don't care about somebody, how can their view (usually ignorant) carry any weight with us?
Sometimes, of course, those we love (unconditionally) can be corrosive towards us; perhaps because of something (stress, depression etc) but sometims because they are not the person we need them to be. Sometimes people can grow and come to realise they have hurt us and attempt to make amends. Life is too short to have it filed by the mean spirited who want to punish us for imagined faults. Bannish them since others will appreciate us for whom we are.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 10:18 am:
It is true, Raven. But when you don't have faith in your own self, in who you are, in your own strength, and capacities, when you are constantly criticized, and whatever you do is labeled as "it could have been better" - then you are like a leaf in the wind, and believe me it is not the best place or way to be.
Once you go out of that hell and poisoned surrounding, you actually sincerely don't care any longer who could say this or that about you and your life, as no one was in your shoes nor does know how it was when you were at your worst.

ridermantel 68M

1/12/2022 9:27 am

 Little things count BIG time.


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 9:38 am:
Indeed they do.

jenny14 75T  
90348 posts
1/12/2022 3:51 pm

 Ex

Yes! We must be true to ourselves and not worry what others think unless we really value their opinion!
A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 1/12/2022 10:33 pm:
Dear Jenny, it is how it should be. Sometimes though easier to say than to live.
But once you finally find the courage to do so, it is nice to see who stays with 'true' you, and who will disappear.


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