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ExNameForUse 53F
4245 posts
2/7/2022 7:57 pm
4.40 am thoughts and a sleepless night

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ExNameForUse 53F
5764 posts
2/7/2022 8:02 pm

One day everything's going to be okay.


staggerlee7819 45M

2/7/2022 8:21 pm

Good read. Hope you are living your best life


ExNameForUse replies on 2/8/2022 11:46 pm:
Thank you for reading, and yes.. I am getting there to living my life the best I can 😊

RiverJim 53M
16 posts
2/7/2022 9:49 pm

Oh the sleepless nights, I'm right there with you. Heart break can physically hurt. I empathize. Betrayal of trust, just puts another brick in the wall. So many placed by those closest Experience puts some hard miles on us. Some more than others Its never as we expect It can be overwhelming. Sometimes I have to hop in the truck a go for a drive, just so I can YELL!!!! at the top of my lungs for as long as I can. Though my voice will be gone for a couple days, it releases a lot of tension. Your results may vary There really are some out there whose intent is not to harm others, but if you stop taking a chance, by putting yourself out there, how will one of them ever find you? My vote is to not give up, you are not alone.


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 12:02 am:
You have sum it up well, and yes there were times when I felt like screaming, its only that when I scream I do that without voice, slinently, in my room, behind the close doors 😊
Each of us in our own way, as long as it helps 🙂

tastetester61 62M
1782 posts
2/7/2022 10:40 pm

    Quoting RiverJim:
    Oh the sleepless nights, I'm right there with you. Heart break can physically hurt. I empathize. Betrayal of trust, just puts another brick in the wall. So many placed by those closest Experience puts some hard miles on us. Some more than others Its never as we expect It can be overwhelming. Sometimes I have to hop in the truck a go for a drive, just so I can YELL!!!! at the top of my lungs for as long as I can. Though my voice will be gone for a couple days, it releases a lot of tension. Your results may vary There really are some out there whose intent is not to harm others, but if you stop taking a chance, by putting yourself out there, how will one of them ever find you? My vote is to not give up, you are not alone.
Such sage advice. Well spoken Jim.


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 12:04 am:
It is, I think he has put it very well, clear, and sensible.

jenny14 75T  
90348 posts
2/7/2022 10:41 pm

Ex

I think no_unicorn's comment is so apt!

I think we all have these "black moments" , especially at 4.40 am!

I still think we must be optimistic but retain our guard....


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 12:06 am:
Optimistic with retained guard is very much how I feel and see how things will go on, Jenny.
Just in case 🙂

aliljaded 53F
8926 posts
2/7/2022 11:28 pm

I, like you, am an observer of the human condition. I have played every role in my life except for the main. That being said, it has been my doing. As a submissive, I often feel more comfortable in a giving role. That's not to say that it doesn't bother me when I feel neglected. I guess what I am trying to say is, in the end, we tend to teach people how to treat us. So, our fate. is ultimately in our own hands.

I hope my word salad helped.
Warmest,
~M

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:01 am:
I can relate to every ingredient of this word salad 🙂

Playing different roles, being a giver and nurturer rather than at the receiving end, and so long.. main role was reserved for someone else mlat of the time and not sure if I would even know to be in that role… maybe I just need to feel appreciated and not be taken for granted.

But I don't blame anyone for how I have been treated, but me. My choices. My believes. My mistakes. We shall see what future holds for me.
And I think it wont be long.

Warm regards sent back at you, Ali 😊

Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
2/8/2022 12:43 am

Productive insomnia, my dear. You can trust another absolutely. I know, I did it and although, inevitably, there will be the odd seismic shock along the way, the relationship was tectonically stable and endured. I pay the price for it every day that I awake and she is not there, of course, but grief is the price of love and only a miser would refuse to pay it.

I think many of us admire you from afar. Your intelligence, compassion, sensitivity and, (to an extent) vulnerability are very engaging. That you have never met the man to truly value these traits doesn't mean that he is not out there for you, waiting for a chance encounter to walk into your life. But these people are rare, as you have seen. The most important thing is to be at ease with yourself and that is a journey you have almost completed. A little hedonism is a good thing - you've been a wife and a mother, now you must be the Exname you want to be. It doesn't mean you should be shallow or cruel, that you must shag any man with a pulse, but it gives you full licence, at 4 AM, to imagine what you'd like between the rising of the sun and the ending of the day and take it. All we know is that we live once and the only standards set for us are our own - we need nobody else, but that doesn't mean we don't want them. Carpe (that fucking) diem, as I think I may once have told you!


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:37 am:
I think you have been very fortunate to be able to experience, live, share, enjoy part of your life in a relationship you have had. Even that grief that came makes it complete.. if this make any sense, but I think you may know what I mean.
For the rest of what you said, Raven, I can only thank you and add that you are way too kind.

brandygirasol 55T
9435 posts
2/8/2022 4:08 am

Absolutely believe in that and cling to it My Friend..


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:08 am:
I do believe, dear Brandy.
Even when I have been at my worst, and the worst has gine now, I had the faith that one day everything will be okay. And its going to be, my dear Brandy 😘

DancingDom 74M
22591 posts
2/8/2022 4:35 am

I have been burned in some past relationships. But I still trust in the idea I will eventually find that incredible partner. Even if it is just for one day before I move on to the next life.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:43 am:
I have faith, DD. Faith that whatever happens in future, I shall be good. I wont fall again. That I dont need anyone to validate me, and who I am.

It was something I have been missing.

Artschoolgrad 47M
8729 posts
2/8/2022 5:41 am

"trust my instinct" is key i think and often hard to do especially in the early stages of attraction. fwiw there are so many great people out there and please don't let the past weigh you down too much as you go out in the world. i know that's easier to say than do but fwiw...


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:47 am:
Arty, thank you for your always kind and friendly presence in my life, so to speak.
I think people are the liest reliable creatures on Earth. Yet, as you said, that doesnt mean there are not some outstanding guys outhere, and finally if it wasnt the case, all of us here and now would not been talking and sharing our lives, thoughts, or whatever anyone feel the need to share.. and you certainly are one of those great ones 😊

drmgirl622 68F  
26111 posts
2/8/2022 5:57 am

Wow, some very deep thoughts there, my friend. I think it is the human condition that finally brings us to a point of realization. Our world is full of so many unbroken promises that it can lead to skepticism but we must be careful and not let that prevent us from moving forward.


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:55 am:
Very accurate observation, dear Girl. It is a thin line and so easy to slip into skepticism.
One side of my personality, the soft side, desperately needs to trust again, while the other, rational, grounded side of me is all well guarded behind lovely glass walls where I am safe, untouchable, with a lovely view..
I hope to make peace between those two 😊

wantingnoregrets 64M  
805 posts
2/8/2022 7:32 am

Don't know if appropriate. I believe one must be true to one's self before can be true to someone else, also along same line if you don't like who you see in mirror no one else will either.


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:56 am:
Of course it is appropriate and very true indeed.

ridermantel 68M

2/8/2022 11:58 pm

I often thought that Oscar was driven by his passions. And why shouldn't he have been?


ExNameForUse replies on 2/9/2022 1:59 am:
Arent we all, rider, only some with better means or skill of controlling and conducting it 🙂


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