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People do take offense but it's your own self esteem that's most important.
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I know this topic has been discussed million times, and I apologize to you who find this too much. The topic is important to me and I can relate to that guilt feel and feel of selfishness whenever I do something about setting boundaries in relationship with someone I love very much. I literally feel ill if I draw the line as I always believe there must have been something I could have done before doing that drawing... awful feeling...Still obviously much to learn about self respect. If I am not emotionally involved, I have zero problems with setting limits though. I hope you are coping better than I do with this thing...
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Ex This is a great topic ! We need to set boundaries both in the Life-Style and in our vanilla lives! I hope you can get to cope better! It is hard when we are emotionally involved!  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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1/31/2023 11:35 am |
Wondering, if later on, once you've become MORE comfortable with someone, if a discussion about 'boundaries' can be re-visited, and changes made and understood, regardless of how small or large they might be? Still requires the SAME HONORING of the limits that have been changed, and TRUST in the person that the changes were made for, which should be UNDERSTOOD by both parties before the changes can be implemented...GREAT TOPIC!!! 1242807
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I always enjoy/find useful what you have to say, thanks for sharing
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good article! please write more, and specifically apply it to BDSM
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"I am going to go and finish dinner. I will talk to you another time." Much more tactful than "Fuck off!!!"  Which is probably what you'd say. Me? Naw .... I'd go with an "Eat Sh_t?" Not a bad alternative. Make Women Female Again
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boundrys & limits = rules to be kept for personal & mental safety unfortunately they can be hard to apply w family members! removing oneself from the disrespect is strong showing of oneself to others that over stepping the boundary will not be tolerated...it’ll either work or escalate the disrespect those that understand learn quick & apologize as opposed to the ones who escalate the drama!
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Great writing. Thank you, I believe, especially women/girls did not learn to set bounderies, because "us girls/womens" always needed/ learned- socialized- to "bé nice", instead of telling someone; NO! It is a ongoing struggle.
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Yes, us wimins, is drilled into us, to not take in too much space, make yourself small, keep your voice down, speek softly, "be nice". dont be too strong, etc and on and on. Since i never had that kind of upbringing, socializing, i dont have much trouble with it. It is true that peope dont like it, when i dont conform to their idea about how a woman should react, behave, move, sit and all that. They feel uncomfortable around me. I am not such a woman. I can behave like such a woman, but never for long, i never learned those things. it is against my nature.... Although, freezing, when attacked, it still a thing... Like with so many women.....
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