4227 posts 9/18/2023 10:31 am
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The Love of Your Life
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5767 posts 9/18/2023 10:37 am |
Being the love of my own life never came across my mind before... sounds weird, but makes sense... what I have been doing for those I loved is what I should do for myself and see how it goes 
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9437 posts 9/18/2023 10:47 am |
Oooooooo My Dear Ex💋... We must first love ourselves to be able to love others we must be lovable, girlfriend❤️❤️❤️ 
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:31 am:
I wish we had that class in primary school - self-love  |
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6112 posts 9/18/2023 11:29 am |
Truly the only person who will be there at all times until the end
is yourself
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:32 am:
Exactly... I am definitely going no where until I am gone  |
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3142 posts 9/18/2023 12:02 pm |
Ex,
You have to love yourself, you're the one you're going to spend the most time with.
Sure, life has lots of ups and downs, but I like philosopher Elbert Hubbard's thoughts on the matter.
"Don't take life too seriously. You'll never get out of it alive." 
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:34 am:
I take many things in life seriously, but I am that kind of girl... either I take them, or I don't 
And that's not necessarily a bad thing... I just have to honestly begin taking myself seriously as well |
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10557 posts 9/18/2023 12:08 pm |
Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.
Yeah .... Just be yourself.
Everyone else is already taken ......
It's so simple.
Yet so elusive.
Make Women Female Again
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:36 am:
Simple or not, sometimes seems I forget |
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11090 posts 9/18/2023 1:34 pm |
So, being your own lover is what it is all about?
Great! I can do that! 
So much love to give!
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:38 am:
Yes
You know how they say - maybe I am The One |
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292 posts 9/18/2023 1:55 pm |
A fine piece, Ex, limpid,succinct, and truthful. I will take Heidi's and your advice, and do my best to "act accordingly." As the title of of Ms. Priebe's book suggests, this involves, in good measure, a matter of letting something or someone go or be jettisoned , which will lighten our own load...and allow us to fly, unburdened. by those weighty anvils of the past.
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:40 am:
I shall do my best too, subdude... with that in mind I have prepared myself a nice healthy lunch today, unlike many other days when I just didn't care what I was eating... small steps, but still steps |
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26178 posts 9/18/2023 4:03 pm |
I've found that if I don't respect myself that respect from others will be very lacking.
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:44 am:
I have found out that by setting some boundaries, which is also I guess a self-respect act, I have lost so many of those who were there when there were no boundaries... so now I have some boundaries, but lost many people...  |
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9/18/2023 7:24 pm
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Quoting ExNameForUse:
Being the love of my own life never came across my mind before... sounds weird, but makes sense... what I have been doing for those I loved is what I should do for myself and see how it goes
Ex, I'm SURE you've been a version of this during your life, as you've cared about how you look, how you feel physically, the clothes you wear, the job you do at work etc. which all fall under this to some degree. It may be that in your life relationships with intimate partners where you've stumbled at this dynamic and 'lost your way', putting you 'significant other's' needs ahead of your own and not getting the respect and love back from them that you've given, but lots of us fall victim to that, and IT IS a learning process, which sometimes is a lesson that isn't grasped as well as it should be. Giving, caring people OFTEN are taken advantage of by narcissistic people, sometimes over and over again, without realizing what's been happening. Taking your time and evaluating your actions and the situations that have occurred, especially if it's been repeatedly, is a GREAT step in making changes and putting a VALUE on YOU, and what YOU ARE, WHAT YOU WANT, AND HOW YOU want to feel and be TREATED, HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF, in or out of intimate relationships. You don't have to change how you LOVE someone, you have to learn to recognize that they're giving you as MUCH or MORE, BACK, in RETURN, that YOU FEEL the VALUE of your LIFE AND EFFORTS of LOVE are APPRECIATED and at the VERY LEAST, reciprocated, anything less isn't acceptable. You're an INTELLIGENT woman, and I'd BET close friends would describe you as a kind and caring person, you'll figure this out, I'd bet the house on it...
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:45 am:
Thank you for the kind words, not sure if I am any of what you suggested, to be honest... sometimes I think I am a completely lost soul...  |
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3169 posts 9/18/2023 9:29 pm |
love can be a verb... it's ok to love.
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:46 am:
I rarely did that and almost every time I felt a bit of guilt for loving myself a little... something to unlearn and learn new ways... |
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22614 posts 9/18/2023 10:00 pm |
To paraphrase a song: Free, Free Set Yourself Free.
"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:47 am:
I wish, DD... I wish... |
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90458 posts 9/18/2023 11:22 pm |
Ex
This is wonderful advice
I love how you find and share these pieces
A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw
Jenny
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:49 am:
I think I have a lot of spare time, Jenny, as I keep running into many lovely quotes and thought-provoking pieces worth sharing with my dear friends... |
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24 posts 9/19/2023 4:33 am |
very true, Sadly most of us see our own value through the lens of others. Positive thinking and self love can change a bad situation .
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:54 am:
It is me... one of those who needed someone else to confirm my worth... I believed them... so many times felt something was not right there but never had enough confidence to make the change... it is interesting that I can still recall clearly situations when I or something I did was belittled or simply dismissed, even though I felt that was not okay... |
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4222 posts 9/19/2023 5:24 am |
good post Ex you can’t love anybody else til you know & love yourself
have a great week gorgeous big hug w firm spank!
ExNameForUse replies on 9/19/2023 9:54 am:
Have a great week yourself, dear BDD! |
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8851 posts 9/20/2023 5:40 am |
life is short. we must act! lovely post.
ExNameForUse replies on 9/23/2023 10:19 am:
Life is short and by the time we figure that out, most of it has gone already... so yes... Acta non verba, dear Arty, you are right! |
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9/20/2023 7:32 pm
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"Thank you for the kind words, not sure if I am any of what you suggested, to be honest... sometimes I think I am a completely lost soul... " Well, it's VERY true that I don't know you, but you get a 'sense' about someone when you ready things they write, things they post, etc. I don't get the sense that you go to work or out to dinner or lunch or to a museum or the theater in a T-shirt, sweat pants, and flip flops, with your hair matted to your head because you haven't washed it in days, etc. I'm guessing you better than 'pretty good' in those circumstances, just by the way you write, and because I saw the facial pic of you the other day. So, I betting the first part of what I wrote about you is true! An, you obviously have good friends on the site that care about you and know you much better than I, and the comments you receive, not only for this post, but for most that I've read, bear that out, as well. CLEARLY, there is caring, kindness, and love present from those that know you on here to acknowledge what I stated about any and all of them describing you as a kind and caring person. So, you're FAR from a "lost soul", Ex, you're closer than you think from 'being the love of your own Life', you'll GET THERE, with some help from your friends.
ExNameForUse replies on 9/23/2023 10:26 am:
I love and care very much for my friends here, as well... I wish I could meet them all and share one big tight hug with each of them... they all know why and what they mean to me... thank you for your kind words once again, BillywildMartin, and for this indirect tribute to this place, people who blog and obviously confirming that this place can be a good place if you navigate it well and chose your company with not only the mind but with the heart, too. |
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