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The best way to end something is to starve it. No reaction, just don’t feed it. That’s where the true power lies. Where attention goes, energy flows. And when energetic patterns are broken, new worlds emerge. Don't return negative energy. Remove yourself. Create a new algorithm. - this is what I read on another platform and it certainly is something I tried and will continue doing - breaking old patterns to make this living maybe one day even enjoyable.
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This is so very insightful. It takes a lot to look inside ourselves and do a true root cause analysis. Not letting others define you or your situation can be so very hard. I, personally, think that the answer you have come to see and realize is that you can't solve everyone's problems......a very good resolution.
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I believe you are right by saying we need to play the hand that we are dealt. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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What do any of us even know? Our fantasies probably block our view of our discoveries. A carefully planned assignation disturbed by an unexpected interruption can derail the chance of a lifetime. Non, je ne regrette rien.
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I totally relate to what you write, and feel. i could say I have been down that road, and I havem, but I too, am still on it. Maybe we don't seem needy enough, as I ask myself, what gives... with no reply Moi aussi, je ne regrette rien
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The best way to end something is to starve it. No reaction, just don’t feed it. That’s where the true power lies. Where attention goes, energy flows. And when energetic patterns are broken, new worlds emerge. Don't return negative energy. Remove yourself. Create a new algorithm. - this is what I read on another platform and it certainly is something I tried and will continue doing - breaking old patterns to make this living maybe one day even enjoyable.
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while you starve the bad, feed the good too. You're smart, thoughtful, fun... worth what those attributes deserve. Haven't seen your outside, but your inside seems pretty beautiful.
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I can say for myself, after trying to make my first marriage work, I realized I was miserable in it. It should have ended after about six years. I had this old fashioned notion that once in a relationship you do all you can to keep it going. I earned the hard way this is a misguided concept. Probably connected with some religious dictum; which became a societal norm for eons. But I learned, never to accept emotional or physical abuse again. I don't know if I have any sort of destiny to meet a good partner who would be my companion and best friend, besides being a lover. Just being a lover is certainly not enough for me. The first two are far more important to me now days. I have mentally subscribed to the simply basic truth of I would rather be alone than involved and miserable. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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By writing about ourselves, we put ourselves on a plate served to all sorts of smart asses, soul-experts, comedians, know-it-all individuals.. Talk about hitting the nail precisely on the head! From reading blogs through the years, I think the 'know-it-alls' are in the highest percentage. As you've already read before you got to this comment, many people will have advice of one form or another for you. Like you said, just play the cards you got dealt the best you can. OK ... OK ... I do have one slim piece of advice. Please remain open to the possibility that good things can (and probably will) come your way. Make Women Female Again
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agree with this especially: I think real torture is the ingrained opinion that being alone is some kind of punishment ...
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12/26/2023 1:48 pm |
I'm not one to express opinions on this subject, as I've lived alone, PRIMARILY, for the last fifteen years, without any semblance of a 'significant other'. When I was still working full time, I never felt 'loneliness', as I kept myself busy with work, and always had thing to do at home that required my constant attention. I often thought the 'right person' (woman) would come along, and we'd both 'KNOW IT' and it would be the 'beginning of a beautiful friendship' that would blossom into loving relationship that would last the rest of my life. I've met lots of women, but not that 'right person', and almost ten years into retirement, feeling 'loneliness', meeting fewer and fewer women 'CLOSE' to my age that are interested in a relationship, and that I find (or that she find's ME) attractive enough, and stable, honest, respectful, communicative, and trusting enough to even TRY to attempt to start a relationship with, almost nonexistent. It's very possible that LOCATION plays a part in this situation, as the semi-rural area where I reside, does not attract a plethora of single women to it, and I'm not moving back to the 'hustle and bustle', there's trade offs involved, and I KNOW the pitfalls, lived around them ALL my life. It's very possible that this will be my life until my dying day, but, ADMITTEDLY, I could do MUCH WORSE, and I think more and more folks (men and women) reach this point at a certain age, and accept it and live out their lives on their own terms...
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This "need?"for a partner in our lives is something that is a brainwash, almost all women, and some men, maybe too, have... So, not feeling 'complete' comes from that same brainwash, this goes back a very long time. all fairy tails talk about this, all women/girl magazines dictate this. all movies, books too. It is all around us. So, when someone cant find her match, it is seen, as if there is something wrong, with her. Ofcourse, this is totally heterosexual supression. It is alway something is wrong with the woman, never with the men, strangely enough... or not. I also believe that when you/ i have some kind of disturbed 'socializing' in the family life, that does not make it any easier, to find someone who fits. Also, being alone is something that i actually really appreciate. Sure, it would be great, to find a partner, Master/Dominant, sadist, as in the way DD says. My life is good, on my own. I have a lot to give, but not to just any penis wearing DNA species.  All my friends, who are also all in a relation,  have told me that, too.Hé will be there, if you are ready for him! As if it is something i have to dó...? Or, he will miraculously appear, when you stop searching. I have heard all those lies. Somehow, those fairy tail lies just made me very angry. I dont like to be lied, to I am fine, living on my own, i am a complete person. I can make myself happy, i dont need an other penis wearing DNA species for that. i dont need to be 'supplemented' with a male specie, to be complete, for the society, my friends, my family, the outside world, to fit their image of how it should be, to be a complete woman..... It is such a suppressive social trick, to make women feel incomplete, without a man! They never ever would use this socializing trick on men, never! See it for what it is.   I love this writing! Thank you,
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I had some real great lovers, good men, friends, partners. (soulmates?) So, i am able to attrack some (vanilla) men....  But , dont forget, finding a Dominant-Master, who is dominant outside the bedroom, FIRST, is not easy. When you want some play candy for in the bedroom kinky "dominant"sex roleplay?? Ooh, that is soo terrible easy. Does not have any substance... as i see it...
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Ex, I like your description of it all akin to a card game. It seems that all of life is a series of challenging games. The best you can ever do is bring to the table all the skill and knowledge you can attain and hope that luck shines upon you. Even when these stars seem to align, life is complicated and so are its games. Winning is never assured. But win or lose when you sense the time is right, you're not living unless you push your stack to the middle of the table and go all in.
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It´s really simple. We Create our own Reality"! Accept that and start Creating.
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Well all I can contribute this time is... ❤️HUGS❤️❤️❤️❤️
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agreed Ex I’m glad you are free & independent you don’t need or looking for someone & about changing your patterns & ways etc. disagree that you feel you aren’t worthy...it’ll happen when it happens & only then you’ll know til then have a good day smile be happy dance!
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After 10 years of marriage I divorced my wife. I know happiness is an inside job. My side of the street was clean. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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