4245 posts 1/4/2024 1:38 pm
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Words of Wisdom
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5764 posts 1/4/2024 1:39 pm |
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8737 posts 1/4/2024 2:19 pm |
this line in particular really resonated with me: It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life!
i wish i had known that when i was 20!
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 11:10 am:
Darling Arty, the same thought I had when I read this for the first time a few years ago... |
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1/4/2024 2:34 pm
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Thought provoking, for sure. The flip side may be, as well. Those who are hardest to love may be the ones who need it the most. I'm a bit stoned and philosophizing a bit! 
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 11:12 am:
We all need to be loved, it is a basic human need.
But not all of us go around destroying other people's lives because we need to be loved... there are more profound ways to be loved  |
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10466 posts 1/4/2024 2:37 pm |
I just wanna know if that lady in the photo just turned on her vibrating bullet? Or maybe she's had it on for awhile and is just about to see God?
Something tells me this has something to do with a relative you've mentioned recently. I've attached the meme to perhaps give you something to ponder - Maybe you'll think it relates or maybe not.
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Make Women Female Again
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 11:20 am:
When I saw her I had a feeling she poured herself a drink after having made that one important decision - to let go of whatever there was that made her unhappy, miserable, and sad... and she suddenly felt relieved...
The meme you attached fits well to the topic, and among other things, it sure does have something with the creature... I was going to put a few words on that issue very soon since it was one of the things that made me anxious at the end of the last year and made me quiet for a while... |
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26122 posts 1/4/2024 2:42 pm |
"I know your instinct is to do everything you can to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it's an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health."........this so spot on. Trying to get someone's attention, and holding it, is such a waste of your time. They know where you are, how to get in touch and all those things you believed would keep them close. You might have missed that glorious sunset while desperately dialing that phone.
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 11:25 am:
And you are so spot on, both with the sentence you have selected and your comment to id, dear Dreamy... many sunsets and nights and days have been missed, I admit... Thank you for making it so straightforward. It is the way I like to talk with close friends, and not to be spared of the truth no matter how hard it may be because I know that your intentions are pure. Thank you! Thank you so much! |
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22592 posts 1/4/2024 3:30 pm |
Like any of us, we do spend a lot of time, specially when younger, trying to please parents, teachers, peers, and so forth. If we, when younger ignore all of that pressure and just live lives as it leases us, we are usually considered, self centered, odd, bizarre, strange, misguided or a myriad of other descriptive terms.It does not matter that it does not usually affect others, if we are true to ourselves. Take time to free ourselves and accept and live to our true identity.
"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:22 pm:
My son is pretty much as you described, DD. He is all in his world, doing what pleases him, and having zero interest in what other people think about that, including his parents. The truth is he, sometimes, wants to hear my opinion, but if it is just a little questioning his decisions - he will punish me by cutting all contact with me. What I keep doing then is remaining present through texts, once in a while, asking how he is, how life is, etc... until he decides to respond.
On the other hand, for him it is very important what his friends say or think, girls of course, etc...
So what I like is that he has his own identity, or let's say he is working on it but what I don't like is that in my opinion, he is relying upon the opinions of completely irrelevant people who are just passing through his life and do not care for him...
I would have thought he would know the difference by now, but maybe I just expect too much...
Anyway, I wish I was more like him and less adjusting to what other people expected from me. |
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3115 posts 1/4/2024 3:59 pm |
"That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing that was holding it was the energy that only you gave to keep it.
That's not love, that's attachment." This resonated with me.
I don't know why but I was surprised it was penned by Sir Anthony Hopkins. Not only great at acting out a script but creating one as well. 
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:26 pm:
Almost every sentence resonated with me, grywolf.
All of my past relationships, those I had to say goodbye to when I implemented certain boundaries in my life, were based on attachment, and not on love.
How sad that is, to realize that now in my fifties... |
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1/4/2024 4:42 pm
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Profound words that can resonate in most everyone's head and heart, as all of us have, at one time or another, aligned ourselves with people that have had a NEGATIVE affect on our lives. Thank you for posting this, Ex, and I hope you're WELL, and doing your best to try and live up to these wonderful thoughts by Sir Anthony Hopkins...
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:29 pm:
Ohh I am well, and I intend to only get better, even if I am aware that there will be moments of doubts and downs, but I do not want to live for other people's opinions about me anymore. If they did not realize who I am by now, nothing I could do would make them realize that now. So, it was enough. |
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1/4/2024 5:41 pm
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Deep thoughts
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25448 posts 1/4/2024 5:54 pm |
"Let go of people who aren't ready to love you."
I believe this.
"You deserve real friendships, true commitments, and complete love with healthy, prosperous people. Deciding to distance yourself from harmful people, will give you the love, esteem, happiness and protection you deserve." ~ Sir Anthony Hopkins
I like the way Anthony Hopkins summed this up.
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:34 pm:
That last paragraph reminded me of the feng shui principle where they say something like - until you take out all the stuff you don't need, wear, or use anymore from your room, place, closet, etc... there will be no space for either new things that you may need or want, or your space wont be able to breathe deeply now without all sufficient stuff... so the same is with relationships that do not serve you anymore... thay only choke you and squeeze the energy out of you... |
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your words, made me think.......thank you, your words make me smile
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:35 pm:
Not my words, but we all agree that Sir Hopkin's words made us all think and resonated with us. |
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8928 posts 1/5/2024 2:39 am |
I loved this entry, Ex. Sir Hopkins was on to something.
XX~M
"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:36 pm:
Thanks, M, glad you enjoyed reading his words. |
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6064 posts 1/5/2024 3:36 am |
Deciding to distance yourself from harmful people, will give you the love, esteem, happiness and protection you deserve.
You deserve real friendships, true commitments, and complete love with healthy, prosperous people.
One still has to put oneself out there to find them
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 12:47 pm:
Well, yes and no, or let's say not necessarily, at least not straight away... it is good not to put yourself anywhere until you are in peace and having a good relationship with your 3 amigos 
Once you distance yourself from negativity, at least in my case now while I am in that process, I do enjoy my own company and alone time and find distracting just the thought of putting myself anywhere else but my home... one needs that time in-between to fully recover and recharge before being ready to interact with others... and I believe that will happen spontaneously, instinctively once I feel altogether well again. |
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4175 posts 1/5/2024 7:00 am |
agreed you can’t please or live for everybody else
it takes 2 people actively involved to have a relationship
avoid toxic people & situations that ruin your health harmony happiness
be true to yourself the rest will fall into place
big hug w lil firm pat Ex have a wonderful day girl!
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 1:02 pm:
Yes, BDD, it takes 2 for everything... there have been my mistakes as well, sometimes I was impatient, sometimes demanding, sometimes overthinking... but the biggest mistake I have always been making is taking it all on myself, feeling everything too deeply, and then blaming myself for all... it has become exhausting and unbearable to live with so much guilt, for what was mine, and what I thought was mine. |
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11033 posts 1/5/2024 11:54 am |
"deciding to distance yourself from harmful people",
Is what made a very big difference in my life, many moons ago...
It was truely liberating....
I rather be alone, then be in the wrong company, for the wrong reasons...
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 1:09 pm:
My biggest issue was to accept that certain people are harmful to me. And to stop finding excuses for their actions. It was an endless circle of wrongdoings and my excuses for them.
I felt like an idiot, like a complete fool at one point. I felt sick with just the thought that the same thing was happening to me and I am still in that relationship... whether it was with my mother or my ex-husband or ex-partner...
Once I accepted they were harmful to my mental health, distancing started, it was a process, still ongoing with some, but at least I know now where I stand.
Couldn't agree more with you that I am rather alone than maintaining relationships for all the wrong reasons  |
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7021 posts 1/5/2024 2:31 pm |
My life would be simpler if more people I wasn't ready to love were better at letting go. On the other hand, there are probably a lot of people who feel the same way about me.
It's probably better to just stop taking life so seriously. It's not like we're somehow going to get out of it alive.
ExNameForUse replies on 1/5/2024 2:39 pm:
If I knew where is the button to switch it from too seriously, to at least medium, if not low, I would do that straight away |
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2609 posts 1/6/2024 2:41 am |
This is a very powerful message I wish i had read decades ago. I eventually learned it the hard way. Thank you for sharing Ex. I hope other can read ot and learn a very valuable lesson from it
ExNameForUse replies on 1/6/2024 8:06 am:
Powerful it is, manni. I felt like you - why I didn't read these words like years, decades ago... maybe I wouldn't follow each and every piece of advice, but some of it would remain in the back of my head for sure...
Still, better late than never... some lessons were learned the hard way, some with my effort to learn and change, and in the end, it is only important to persevere  |
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