You have a good spirit. 1)stay hopeful. The percentage of real men to real women on this site is at least 100:1, and probably higher. If you stay visible, some man will find you. 2)be clear on whether you are a submissive or a masochist. There are lots of sadists around here, fewer dominants. 3)If you read through the "Add a Post" page of the blogging process, at the bottom, there is an action or mode called "pre-review". This allows you to hold back responses to your blog. You can read them. The person who posted can read them, and no one else. It makes for a type of eee - male that remains free here. You can respond to a "pre-review" post without ever approving it. When you do that, the original poster can read your response (again, and no one else). Many people have these "mailboxes" on their blogs. It will help you find someone. Good luck. tgd