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What would You do, if ..... Please see post in first comment. Thank You for visiting and reading! Please have a lovely day. IMC58 Be yourself, noone else can be you. IMC58 |
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12/8/2020 7:38 pm |
What would You do? ….....if You owned a live-in slave? Is she allowed to go to cultural events? What if she would like to meet friends for lunch? Is there anything she does not have to ask permission for beforehand? Are her friends allowed to visit? Are family members allowed to visit her? Would You use/discipline her in front of her visitors? Is she allowed to manage her own money? Would You monitor her phone ? If yes, how? Do You consider Yourself her only source of happiness ( through servicing You)? If You see she needs aftercare, would You ever withhold it? Would the only places for her to be in Your house be in her cage or at Your feet? Would You want her to leave her old life behind completely when she becomes Yours? Be yourself, noone else can be you. IMC58
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12/8/2020 8:18 pm |
I've had to deal with these questions from the slave side. To keep it healthy, I was allowed to do most of these things. Normally I would keep my owner informed of my plans, so she could raise objections if she had concerns. My owners weren't keen on micromanaging my behaviour 24/7, so I was allowed to make a lot of small decisions. The exact sorts of decisions my owners cared about would be spelled out in the contract. Normally I would expect vanilla family and friends to be kept out of the loop when it comes to D/s activities, and certainly discipline would not occur in front of vanilla people who might misunderstand it. I think withholding aftercare would be unethical. I find lots of sources of happiness, but it makes sense to me that an owner could regulate that to an extent. As a service-oriented slave, my place was definitely anywhere in the home that needed cleaning!
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Personal view, but slaves are still human, and withholding aftercare is inhuman.
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IMC Is she allowed to go to cultural events? Yes - I want a slave to have mind What if she would like to meet friends for lunch? Allowed subject to her good behaviour Is there anything she does not have to ask permission for beforehand? Toilet Are her friends allowed to visit? Yes Are family members allowed to visit her? Yes Would You use/discipline her in front of her visitors? No - humiliation like this is not nice!! Is she allowed to manage her own money? Yes Would You monitor her phone ? No - I want to be able to trust her If yes, how? Do You consider Yourself her only source of happiness ( through servicing You)? No If You see she needs aftercare, would You ever withhold it? NO Would the only places for her to be in Your house be in her cage or at Your feet? NO Would You want her to leave her old life behind completely when she becomes Yours? No Perhaps I am too soft but a slave is still human and deserves respect and care!! A TERRIFIC post  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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IMC Is she allowed to go to cultural events? Yes - I want a slave to have mind What if she would like to meet friends for lunch? Allowed subject to her good behaviour Is there anything she does not have to ask permission for beforehand? Toilet Are her friends allowed to visit? Yes Are family members allowed to visit her? Yes Would You use/discipline her in front of her visitors? No - humiliation like this is not nice!! Is she allowed to manage her own money? Yes Would You monitor her phone ? No - I want to be able to trust her If yes, how? Do You consider Yourself her only source of happiness ( through servicing You)? No If You see she needs aftercare, would You ever withhold it? NO Would the only places for her to be in Your house be in her cage or at Your feet? NO Would You want her to leave her old life behind completely when she becomes Yours? No Perhaps I am too soft but a slave is still human and deserves respect and care!! A TERRIFIC post
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This brings back a lot of memories....... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What would You do? ….....if You owned a live-in slave? Is she allowed to go to cultural events? - Yes, she is a mother and professional What if she would like to meet friends for lunch? - Yes Is there anything she does not have to ask permission for beforehand? - Family, hygiene Are her friends allowed to visit? - Yes Are family members allowed to visit her? - Yes Would You use/discipline her in front of her visitors? - No, later if needed Is she allowed to manage her own money? - Yes, she earns it Would You monitor her phone? - No, its her business phone also If yes, how? - n/a Do You consider Yourself her only source of happiness (through servicing You)? - No If You see she needs aftercare, would You ever withhold it? - No Would the only places for her to be in Your house be in her cage or at Your feet? - No, love her nearness....like the song......Nearness Of You Would You want her to leave her old life behind completely when she becomes Yours? - No, she has family, friends, is a mother and professional Our 1st rule was family always comes first..............................
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12/9/2020 2:48 am |
No man would confine a slave to her cage except for the time she was kneeling at his feet. He'd starve!
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Good communication skills are PARAMOUNT in any relationship regardless of sub/slave....Dom/Master. These scenarios should be talked about & settled EARLY within the sphere. Once that's dealt with, everyone knows the situation & can act accordingly & RESPECTFULLY.
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What would You do? ….....if You owned a live-in slave? Is she allowed to go to cultural events? Yes What if she would like to meet friends for lunch? Not a problem, but I would want to know who they are. If any of they were teh sort she should not be around, I woudl advise her. possibly direct her to avoid them. Is there anything she does not have to ask permission for beforehand? Basi body function, going to the facilities to eliminate body waste. Or being hydrated. Orgasm, unless otherwise directed to not cum, unless directed to. Are her friends allowed to visit? Yes but I would not encourage unannounced visit. We may be engaged in activities they should not see.. Are family members allowed to visit her? Of curse. Would You use/discipline her in front of her visitors? Generally not. Is she allowed to manage her own money? Yes, unless she had problems in doing so. Would You monitor her phone ? Not really. If yes, how? Do You consider Yourself her only source of happiness ( through servicing You)? Are you kidding. No, I want here to find fulfillment in whatever ways she needs to keep her balance. If You see she needs aftercare, would You ever withhold it? Never. Would the only places for her to be in Your house be in her cage or at Your feet? Only for ritualistic occasions or as directed. But not constantly. That sounds boring. Would You want her to leave her old life behind completely when she becomes Yours? No. Her life and mine changes. It does not mean you leave it behind. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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12/9/2020 7:12 am |
I have owned a live-slave before. To put it succinctly her old life would be put behind her and I took complete control.
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I think at the end of the day. It's HIS LOSS !!! Simply my opinion
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What would You do? ….....if You owned a live-in slave? Is she allowed to go to cultural events? - Yes What if she would like to meet friends for lunch? - Yes, but possibly used to encourage good behaviour Is there anything she does not have to ask permission for beforehand? - Yes, to go to the toilet, to get a drink. I'm not seeking to micro manage, so perhaps rules are set up before hand. Are we in fully play mode, or more standard mode? Have to give that some more thought. Are her friends allowed to visit? - Yes Are family members allowed to visit her? - Yes Would You use/discipline her in front of her visitors? - No, Although I might in front of mine! They would not be vanilla, & not if it went against her hard limit. Is she allowed to manage her own money? - Yes. Although if she wasn't good with money I would try to get her to let me help her get better. Even then the goal is she manages her own money. Would You monitor her phone ? - No. I would expect to be able to trust her. If yes, how? - N/a. Do You consider Yourself her only source of happiness ( through servicing You)? - No I would hope that I brought her happiness not only through her being of service to me. I would also hope other things, such as Music, Films, Theater, Reading, Friends & family brought her both happiness & joy. If You see she needs aftercare, would You ever withhold it? - No. Thats cruel & unacceptable. Would the only places for her to be in Your house be in her cage or at Your feet? - No. Don't have a cage. Don't want one. Obviously at times restraint would be involved & there would be times when I would expect her kneeling at my feet. But bloody hell I can't keep that up all the time! Would You want her to leave her old life behind completely when she becomes Yours? - No. When you get together both your lives change. I would be looking for a lady with a well rounded life, interests, (other than BDSM), friends, family. It's like if you get together with a lady who has children, they are part of her. If you love her, you have to accept her as is. Children, other family members, friends, it's a package deal. As am I of course. The only exception to that would be if there was a serious problem with a friend or family member, hers or mine. Criminality, drug dealing, for instance.
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