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IMC1958 65F
0 posts
1/21/2021 5:50 pm
Dont Ever Do This To Yourself


Please see post in 1st comment.
Thanks for your interest. Enjoy.
IMC

Strive for calm, but through balance, not through standing still...Friedrich Schiller
IMC1958


IMC1958 65F

1/21/2021 5:52 pm

Don't Ever Do This to Yourself

When I first got into the BDSM scene, it was clear to me that I was submissive and masochistic.

Over the years, I met more Doms than Sadists, and somehow I think I started pushing my masochistic needs on the back burner.

But there were always reminders. Telling me that something important was missing. I kept ignoring it.

After I separated from my husband, I started to venture first into the dating world and then into the BDSM world again.
And this deep seated desire, this overwhelming yearning to feel pain, came back with a vengeance.
Now I know from experience, what damage some tools can cause, and I am shying away from those Sadists, who do not at the very least self-educate.

So here I was in contact with someone, who has the experience, but is so very extreme in his ideas, and I mean extremely extreme, that I am too scared to follow through.
I mean, I have this HUGE tsunami wave of unfulfilled masochistic needs inside of me. It is burning in my soul, and I fear, that I one day will make a wrong choice.

That's why …. we owe it to ourselves, to not ignore what we need. Or it will come back to haunt us.


Strive for calm, but through balance, not through standing still...Friedrich Schiller
IMC1958


dom_erotique 49M
81 posts
1/21/2021 5:54 pm

Maybe not right for your age, be careful


IMC1958 replies on 1/21/2021 6:27 pm:
Say what???

IMC1958 replies on 1/21/2021 9:59 pm:
So what would be right for my age in your opinion. Sitting at the fireplace, knitting sweaters?

IncongruentDom 60M

1/21/2021 6:21 pm

It might be worth exploring where the deep masochistic need is emanating from


IMC1958 replies on 1/21/2021 6:29 pm:
I know exactly where it is coming from. And I decided to accept it, instead of 'curing' myself of it.
Do you know where your need to dominate originates from?

Control_You55 69M
4 posts
1/21/2021 6:38 pm

I would suggest finding a sadist with some level of compassion and would be willing to start slow, let you learn where you are and where you want to be. You will never cure yourself of it, but you can explore in a safe and controlled manner. See if there are any support grouups around you where you could connect with the right person.


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
1/21/2021 7:16 pm

I think I understand where you are coming from. I can think of two quotations that may fit the situation.

When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

__Yogi Berra

Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh.

__Henry David Thoreau

Now don't you feel better?


IMC1958 replies on 1/21/2021 7:36 pm:
While I deeply value Henry David Thoreau, he does not even come close to Yogi Berra and his charm.
Thanks you for the smile you put on my face,

jenny14 75T  
90125 posts
1/21/2021 9:14 pm

IMC

I am so glad you are being careful!

Obviously, the time to make these decisions is when we are alone ( or with a trusted independant friend) and not in a horney state!

Please BE Safe , My Friend!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


IMC1958 replies on 1/21/2021 9:30 pm:
Chuckles .... but what when the horny state is permanent?

rosaenaluin 65F
10841 posts
1/22/2021 3:37 am

It is difficult, to and controle yourself and your needs & wants to let go.
As a masochiste, i recognise what you say.

For that, you need someone you really know very well, not just his SM part but as a person first!
Build friendship, build trust, get to know each other, as people first!
the long way trust, not the fetish exchange 'trust'.

At least, that is in my eyes, the safest way to engage in all your masochistic needs and wants.
Negotiate your limits, soft and hard, too.
take care!


IMC1958 replies on 1/22/2021 4:32 am:
I will, Thank you

drmgirl622 68F  
25890 posts
1/22/2021 5:55 am

I never knew i had those masochistic tendencies until a sensual sadist showed me the pleasures.


IMC1958 replies on 1/22/2021 6:21 am:
I am very happy for you.Just enjoy when ever you can.

Incognitomaster 52M
717 posts
1/30/2021 6:06 pm

... "we owe it to ourselves, to not ignore what we need. Or it will come back to haunt us."

That was a great finishing line. Maybe I will use it as a finishing line for my blog posts. May I? I will make sure everybody knows it's from you!

Maybe I take the Yogi Berra quote instead.

When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

__Yogi Berra


IMC1958 replies on 1/31/2021 10:29 am:
Just go and fuck yourself.

Incognitomaster 52M
717 posts
2/12/2021 3:11 pm

    Quoting Incognitomaster:
    ... "we owe it to ourselves, to not ignore what we need. Or it will come back to haunt us."

    That was a great finishing line. Maybe I will use it as a finishing line for my blog posts. May I? I will make sure everybody knows it's from you!

    Maybe I take the Yogi Berra quote instead.
IMC WHAT? Was anything I said wrong or offensive in any way?
I am considering to take this quote from you and put it under my blog posts. But since it is not originally mine, I will also say that it is your beautiful sentence. I mean, it is coined by you, so I would not do the right thing if I just took it without making clear it is not mine.

you know what? I will take something else, thank you.

When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

__Yogi Berra


IMC1958 replies on 2/12/2021 4:45 pm:
Sorry. Think I first misunderstood.

Of course you can use it. And you don't have to attribute that quote to me. I will leave that up to you.
Thank you.
Love,
Ingrid


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