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BDSM Bondage hoods Bondage hoods (sometimes called “bondage masks”) are a type of fetish gear designed cover the head of one person (the submissive!). Some, like this Black Spandex Hood and this Rubber Slave Hood, have eyeholes. Many, like this Disguise Open Mouth Hood with Padded Blindfold, restrict what the wearer can see. Hello, heightened senses. Puppy hoods Puppy play is a subset of the BDSM community that involves some folks taking on the personality of either a primal or fun-loving puppy and others taking on the role of “owner.” Typically, puppies wear hoods like this Puppy Hood with Bendable Ears or this spike Neoprene Puppy Hood. Isolation hoods Isolation hoods are designed block out all sound from the outside world. They’re THICK. Many Dominants outfit their submissive’s isolation hood with earplugs, blindfolds, or a gag intensify the level of submission. powered by Rubicon Project Collars and chokers From aesthetically signifying “ownership” in a BDSM dynamic restricting breathing or movement, there are a few types of neck gear. Safety tip: “Neck gear can fit relatively snug against the throat, but it shouldn’t be too tight,” says Queen. “Make sure you can slide a finger in between the device collar and the throat to avoid damaging pressure.” Collars “Collars are part of the visual accoutrement of BDSM and are worn by a submissive,” says Queen. “They can signal that the people bestowing and wearing the collar have started a BDSM scene.” And for some D/s couples, they serve a similar purpose as wedding rings: to signify a commitment to the relationship. “For submissives, it can feel emotional or even romantic to wear one,” she says. Curious? Consider this Beginner Leash and Collar Set. It has a Velcro closure so you can easily — and quickly! — take it off if you’re aren’t feeling it. D/s is often used as shorthand to describe a relationship where someone leads (the Dominant) and someone follows (the submissive). The “D” is usually capitalized to signify the power of the Dominant’s position, while the “s” is usually in lowercase. Posture collars “A posture collar is a longer, thicker collar that’s designed to encompass the neck and further restrict movement and mobility,” explains Vala Syn, professional Dominatrix and BDSM and kink educator. For example: Strict Leather Locking Posture Collar or the Padded Locking Posture Collar with Leash. Chokers Around town, chokers — like this Holographic Heart Choker — may be just another type of necklace. But Syn says, in a BDSM context, chokers are designed to signify a Dominant/submissive relationship and to create a specific physical sensation around the neck. Usually, tightness. Unlike collars, chokers aren’t reserved for those in committed relationships. Gags “Gags are great for people who have oral fixations and those turned on by power exchange that happens when one partner consensually gives up their ability to verbally communicate,” says Taylor. To be very clear: Establishing nonverbal safe words prior to gag play is a M-U-S-T. Ball gags Ball gags feature a ball that goes into the oral cavity (behind the teeth). They’re secured around the head via some kind of strap. Peek at the Bondage Boutique Faux Leather Medium Silicone Ball Gag for a visual. The ball comes in varying sizes. Some are small (think: golf ball), while others are larger (think: lacrosse ball). And some feature hollow balls (like the DOMINIX Deluxe Silicone O-Ring Gag), so the wearer can still breathe through their mouth while wearing it. Whatever size and shape you get, Taylor says you need a material that: 1) won’t break your teeth and 2) can be completely sterilized, like silicone. Mouth spreaders Unlike ball gags, which fill the mouth, mouth spreaders open the mouth wide. While wearers still aren’t able to verbally communicate, spreaders do give them the opportunity to be orally penetrated by their partner. Here are some options: Claw Hook Mouth Spreader Degraded Mouth Spreader with Nipple Clamps Clamps There are different types of clamps for different body parts. Basically, clamps pinch the skin to restrict movement or create a pleasurably painful pulling, squeezing, or tugging sensation. Nipple clamps “The sensation the nipple clamp provides will vary based on how tight the clamp is and where on the nipple/breast you place it,” says Syn. They can create a hit of (ideally, pleasurable) pain going on, a rush of intense sensation when pulled or twisted, and a serious sense of release when removed. “When you take the clamps off, all the blood rushes back to the nipple, which creates a radiating sensation and extreme pain,” says Syn. Some nipple clamps, like Nipple Playful Tassels Nipple Clamp, feature screws that allow you to really experiment with tightness. However, Syn notes, “These are less likely to fit on all nipple shapes and sizes.” Others, like the Unbound Clit & Nipple Clamp and Bondage Boutique Adjustable Tweezer Nipple Clamps feature a slide-to-fit feature. Genital clamps There might be more delicious uses of genital clamps than there are genital shapes, sizes, and colors! On a<b> vulva </font></b>owner, you might place a clamp at the base of the clitoris (not the glans clitoris!) to restrict blood flow and then release it. Or, you might place a few clamps — like these Labia Spreader Straps with Clamps — up and down the inner and outer labia to, as Syn puts it, “Create a splayed out, very open look or pull on the labia.” On a person with a penis, you might place clamps up and down the scrotum or on the foreskin. “ close attention the coloration of the skin when using genital clamps,” says Syn. “ release the clamps before the area becomes darkened.” Nose clamps There are three main types of nose clamps. Some look like classic clothespins and are designed close your nose restrict your breathing. For example, Speedo’s Competition Nose Clip. “These can be especially fun for a submissive wear while giving oral sex,” says Syn. Others, called “nose shackles,” go inside the nose clamp the septum. For example, Kneel Nose Genitals Kneeling Clamps. “These are often used during predicament bondage scenes,” says Syn. “Move in one direction and you’ll yank on your nose, move in another and you’ll yank on your genitals, nipples, or wherever else the clamp is attached.” It sounds painful, sure, but it can be psychologically hot. A third category of clamps is actually “hooks.” See: Collar with Nose Hook. “Nose hooks feature prongs that pull up on the nostrils, which can make someone look like a piggy for humiliation play,” says Syn. “They’re also great for medical play that harkens back psych wards.” Hooks also make the nose run, which can make play messy and especially humiliating. ADVERTISEMENT No clinics — just answers. Test for STDs from your own home Get the same STD laboratory tests used by doctors or clinics, delivered to you. Receive online results in 2–5 days. It’s easy, affordable, and discreet. Get free shipping and 30% off today. Impact toys Put simply, impact play involves using impact for the purpose of pleasure. Impact play could entail using a hand or one of the toys below to spank. “Each creates a slightly different sensation from sensual and massage-like to really frickin’ painful, from stingy to thud,” says Queen. Proper technique and risk awareness are imperative for impact play. Using these toys with improper form or on less fleshy parts of the body can cause serious damage. “Make sure you practice a thousand times on your pillow before trying it on a partner,” Taylor says. Floggers “A flogger has a handle with a bunch of tails at the end,” explains Taylor. (TBH, it kinda looks like a kinky mop). Some are made of leather (like this Leather Cord Flogger) and others are made of chains (like this Gunmetal Chain Flogger). “The more tails a flogger has at the end, the more thuddy, heavy, and pressure-y it will feel when it’s used on your body,” says Taylor. The fewer tails it has, the stingier the sensation will be. P.S. According to Queen, “Some people can come from being flogged alone!” Paddles Paddles pretty much look like ping-pong paddles (proof: The Enforcer Paddle) and are designed to hit more surface area at once, says Taylor. This creates a lot of force and impact. Taylor adds: “In my opinion, the best part is they’re the easiest toy to transport to a partner’s house.” Canes “An impact cane is nothing like a walking cane,” says Taylor. “It’s way, way, way thinner.” See: Intense Impact Cane. Almost always made out of wood, “canes are thinner, longer, and can be used to provide one line of stinging impact.” Meaning, unlike paddles, which cover a lot of surface area, the sensation canes provide is really localized. Whips According to Taylor, “whips are the hardest toy to learn how to use correctly because whipping someone requires a ton of technique and practice.” Translation: They’re not for beginners. When used correctly, whips apply stinging, quick slashes on the body. See: Premium Leather Whip. Be warned: Taylor says, “I’ve never seen someone not have bruises after a proper whipping.” Restraints If a lover’s arm holding your hands above your head can be hot, imagine how hot it would be if they could provide that sensation completely hands-free. That’s the gist of restraints. “There’s a wide variety of restraints people can use during sexual activity to limit someone’s mobility,” says Syn. Below are four common types. Rope Rope = super versatile. Queen explains: “Rope bondage can be slow and aesthetic. It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play, from impact to good old intercourse.” “It can also change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently. It’s a trust and Dominant/submissive thing too.” The material and type of rope matters, so chat with a bondage expert before buying any. This cotton rope from Doc Johnson, for example, may be a good starting point, because it’s softer on skin. Then, spend some time learning the ropes (pun obviously intended). There are some awesome books out there, such as “The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” by Midori, to help you learn basic knot tying skills. Binders Most common in the BDSM scene are arm binders, like these Full Sleeve Binders, which c-o-m-p-l-e-t-e-l-y immobilize the wearer’s arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room). There are also leg binders. like these Strict Leather Leg Binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own. While these aren’t for folks new to BDSM, they’re a great addition to an experienced kinkster’s wardrobe sex toy collection. Bondage tape Bondage tape like Unbound’s Tether can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone’s hands down, or any number of things! What makes bondage tape different than say, duct tape, is that it only sticks to itself, not your skin or hair. Safety note: “If you’re going to be exploring tape play, be incredibly careful of nearby candles,” explains Syn. “Certain adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape.” Shackles Shackles refer to metal (and sometimes leather) ankle or wrist restraints, like the Slave Steel Full Body Shackle. Like the other restraints, shackles are designed to immobilize or humiliate. Spreader bars Ever hold your legs behind your head during missionary? Spreader bars, like this Adjustable Spreader Bar, do the leg work (heh) for you. “Spreaders hold your ankles apart from each other, exposing your genitals and holding your legs in one place,” says Taylor. Note: Some spreader bars, like this Black Steel Spreader Bar, can also be used to immobilize your wrists. Yokes You can think of yokes as cuffs and collars (like this stainless steel option) or shackles and collars (like this leather and chain set). Basically, they work by connecting some combination of your neck, ankles, and neck together. The point: prolonged limited mobility. Chastity toys As the name suggests, chastity toys are designed to consensually keep you (or your sub) from engaging in sexual activity. “While people could do this temporarily for fairly casual play, it’s often found in ongoing D/s relationships where this level of control is one aspect of a larger power exchange,” says Queen. Chastity belts Complete with lock and key, chastity belts are basically underwear that lock up your junk so that you can’t go to the bathroom or touch your own bits unless the person with the key permits it. The locked-up nature makes chastity belts a perfect tool for power play in BDSM relationships. As Queen puts it, “Nothing says ‘you are MINE’ quite like locking up someone’s genitals so they can’t be accessed except by you.” Syn notes that chastity belts can also be physically stimulating. “Many have built-in butt plugs, vaginal plugs, butt and vaginal plugs, cock rings, or vibrating or pulsating abilities.” Intrigued? Here are a few to check out: DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Anal Plug Harness with Cock Ring Stainless Steel Cock Entrapment Belt Strict Leather Female Chastity Belts Full Body Stainless Steam Chastity and Restraint System Chastity cages While chastity belts go around the entire pelvic region, chastity cages are regulated just to the genitals. They’re sometimes called “penis cages” or “cock cages” because this tool is only designed for penis owners. Most commonly used in D/s relationships, Syn says, “Cock cages serve as a constant reminder that your cock ‘belongs’ to your Dominant. It’s the next level of ownership.” When you peruse the internet, you’ll likely find a few chastity cages made out of plastic. “The plastic ones may look less intimidating than the stainless steel ones, but they’re not a good idea,” says Syn. “Plastic is a porous material, meaning you really can’t get it clean all the way, so it’ll get gunky real quick.” Stainless steel, on the other hand, is easy to sterilize. Plus, she says, “there’s a weight to stainless steel which never lets you forget that they’re there.” Check out the Dominix Deluxe Chastity Cock Cage or the CB-600 Designer Chrome Male Chastity Cage. Anal hooks Visually, anal hooks look like a cross between classic carrot-shaped butt plugs and, well, Captain Hook’s hand. Typically made out of stainless steel, anal hooks feature a ball on one end that goes inside the anus, while the “hook” anchors it outside the body. See: Single Ball Stainless Steel Anal Hook. Friendly reminder: Anything that goes inside the anus needs a flared base or anchor. Taylor notes: “The ball is especially good at stimulating the prostate in people with prostates.” But in some<b> vulva </font></b>owners, the ball may also be able to stimulate the urethral sponge (aka the G-spot). Anal hooks also usually feature a loop at the end of the hook that can be connected to rope during bondage (especially predicament bondage) scenes. Urethral toys Your mouth, bum, and vagina aren’t the only holes that may enjoy being filled… Urethral sounds Also known as cock-stuffing, urethral sounding involves inserting a sounding tool — is a long, thin (very thin!) rod with a stopper at the end — into the urethral canal. They’re usually made out of stainless steel, but there are some silicone options, like these Bolted Deluxe Silicone Urethral Sounds, on the market. However, Syn says they’re harder to use because silicone isn’t as firm or heavy. “Slowly moving the toy up and out of the urethra can stimulate the nerve-dense head of the penis while also giving you a way to bump the prostate from another angle,” explains Syn. Yup, some people can have a prostate orgasm from sounding alone. Keep in mind that research shows there’s a risk for people with penises of lower urinary tract symptoms linked with urethral sounding. Urethral sounds can be used on<b> vulva </font></b>owners, too. But because the urethral canal is shorter in<b> vulva </font></b>owners, urinary tract infections are more likely. “These are usually way smaller than catheters,” assures Syn. Case in point: Most catheters are around 5 to millimeters thick, while sounding toys like the Single Rosebud Sounding Rod are only 3 millimeters wide. As you get more advanced in your urethral play, you can graduate to: textured toys, like the Mortal Coil Beaded Urethral Sound vibrating toys, like the Vibrating Urethral Sound extra-thick toys, like the XL Ribbed Urethral Sound Urethral plugs Unlike urethral sounding toys, which are designed to be slowly pulled in and out, urethral plugs (sometimes called “penis plugs”) go in and stay in. For how long? Well, it depends on the person wearing it (or their Dominant). But some, like Titus Stainless Steel Through-Hole Prince’s Wand with Glans Ring and Libertine Faucet Penis Plug, have a hollow inside that someone could, in theory, urinate or ejaculate through. However, Syn notes that this can be extremely irritating to the urethral canal. Electric wands Okay, we lied. There’s one motorized toy on the list. Introducing: electric wands, aka sex toys that let you play with electricity. “Turn an electric wand like the Neon Wand way down and it creates an intriguing and sexy pulse on the genitals,” says Queen. “But when you turn it up, it can be quite intense.” Worth mentioning: There are many kinds of electro-stimulation toys, not just wands. Think cock rings, anal plugs, and even whip attachments that “strike” with electricity. The bottom line Kink and bondage toys can be an amazing addition to anyone’s sexual repertoire, so long as it’s with the consent and risk awareness of everyone involved. They don’t always have the same mass appeal as vibes. So if you’re happy to keep your pain-as-pleasure exploration to that Rihanna song, no big! Gabrielle Kassel is a New York–based sex and wellness writer and CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. She’s become a morning person, tested over 200 vibrators, and eaten, drunk, and brushed with charcoal — all in the name of journalism. In her free time, she can be found reading self-help books and romance novels, bench-pressing, or pole dancing. Follow her on Instagram. ADVERTISEMENT Take lab-certified STD tests in the privacy of your own home EverlyWell offers at-home testing kits for seven common STDs. Once you receive the kit, just mail your samples back, and a physician will review your results. It's easy, affordable, and confidential. Last medically reviewed on June , 2020 5 sourcescollapsed Healthline has strict sourcing guidelines and relies on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutions, and medical associations. We avoid using tertiary references. You can learn more about how we ensure our content is accurate and current by reading our editorial policy. Breyer BN, et al. (20). Recreational urethral sounding is associated with high risk sexual behaviour and sexually transmitted infections. DOI: ./j.64-4X.20.8.x Finn L. (2020). Personal interview. Queen C. (2020). Personal interview. Syn V. (2020). 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