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A Christmas like no other (not kinky or a feel good story). My blog will appear in the comments |
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A Christmas like no other. Warning this in most ways is not a feel good story nor is it in anyway a kinky story. This is about life and the nearing of the end of life. It is one of the most difficult blogs I have ever written. It is written with the permission of all those involve, that was a must for me before I wrote it. They however will remain anonymous beyond the description of them being friends. So with all that said proceed if you wish if not I do understand. As I talked about in my last blog we pretty much celebrated Christmas a week early for we were asked to attend Christmas away from home. This blog is about that Christmas. It starts with a message from one of Sirs very best friends asking us to come and celebrate Christmas with them. This friend was with Sir at the lowest part of Sirs life the passing of his wife. Now his friend was very close to being in that position as well. His wife was terminal and in hospice care she had in fact requested that we come. Well we knew it would be very hard to do so but there was no way we wouldnt go. We arrived Christmas eve at her request (smart lady) it was a solemn occasion for all his wife was sitting in a chair she smiled as we came in and gave her hug. It was hard for any of us to say anything this included her husband .after the initial greetings there was pretty much silence we knew how bad things really were. That lasted until she spoke god bless her. Ok enough of the gloom Im dying and we all know that I invited the two of you because of how close of friends you all are to us. Plus the fact I couldn’t handle more then you two and I mean that with the upmost respect to both of you. I had you come over today for I knew it was going to start like this. So this is how its going to be all of you can grieve today get it out of your system today and tonight she said. But goddammit tomorrow you better have your happy faces on it will be Christmas. Ill be damn if I want my last Christmas to be a sad sack affair. I want to celebrate my life our lives not my approaching death. Does everyone understand that? We all looked at each other surprised by how strong she appeared but we all said we understood. Good she said now the two of you pointing at her husband and mine,you two love to watch football theres three games on I suggest you do. Her hubby tried to say no , she wouldnt allow it go she said. They did. Now my dear looking at me lets talk she said. So we did about everything her life mine the good times and the bad. We cried we hugged we laughed as she described some of the hilarious things her hubby and mine had gotten into through their lives. She asked if I would like to look at some photos of all them. She did warn me some of them would include pics of my husbands former wife I told her I was ok with that as I had seen many of them. She smiled at that and had me retrieve the photo albums from the closet. There were many before either was married they were just young kids having fun . Some were pretty funny some not so much as her hubby broke his arm around 11. Many more of them were when they were all grownup and married her to him and my husband to his past wife . They were actually wonderful to look at you could see the love all had for each other not in a sexual way but in a very respectful way. She talked about some of my husbands past wife and how loving and wonderful she had been. This did not bother me I already knew it to be true. Then she asked me if I had ever seen her portrait pic I said I had. What did you think of it she asked. I told her it took my breath away. She looked at me clasped her hands in mine and with a big smile said it did her too. It was so stunning she said I had no words to describe it. I nodded in agreement. Still holding my hands in her she looked me in the eye and said my dear I never thought your husband would ever find another as wonderful as her. To my amazement he did. You truly are her equal maybe just touch above by the way he looks at you. I couldn’t be happier for the two of you. She whispered into my ear a few words which I will not repeat here . She also asked me to promise her something I said I would. Her words and the promise will never be known by anyone but me. We had been together now several hours and she was tired she asked me to sit with her well she went to sleep. I did so . Once she was I tucked her in and went off to find the guys. They were watching tv if you could call blankly staring at the screen watching. They looked up and smiled . I knew they had been crying but it was nice to see them smile. I sat down between them we talked we cried and hugged each other. But now it was my turn . Tonight is the last of our tears tomorrow its about celebrating life and thats exactly what were going to do I said. Well now thats another side of you I havent seen my husband said. Yeah me too his friend said both had big smiles on their face. Much better I said. The rest of the night was spent telling funny stories between us. She sleep in some we celebrated Christmas around 11 exchanging gifts told wild stories that made everyone laugh including her . That was how we spent almost all day Christmas. When she tired and it was time for us to go she thanked us all for as she put it one hell of a fun Christmas. Her hubby hugged each of us thanking us again for making this a very special day. As we drove back we didn’t talk a lot in fact we pulled over a couple of times just to hug each other and drop a few tears. Then however a realization hit me what a damn strong woman she was through the whole thing including pushing herself to just share her time with us. She showed a grace and eloquence in the face of death that im not sure I could even come close to. It was then her words came back to me I will never forget them nor the promise I had made to her. This Christmas was one I hope we don’t have to repeat and yet it is also one that showed me great strength great love and most importantly what life is truly about. wantonone
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It is good to remember as much of the good stuff that happens in our life. I have had my ups and downs. I hope I mostly remember when he time comes for the good stuff. Just as I remember mostly the good stuff with my relatives and friends. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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end of life should be a celebration of that person...we grieve for ourselves & will miss them but they are happy healthy balls of light moving on to the next chapter waiting one day for the others to join!
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Maybe you honor them, by being as strong as they are.
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What a wonderful Christmas 
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12/27/2022 7:20 pm |
Sad, but certainly UPLIFTING by the way it's conveyed by you. And by that description, it IS, in a way, a feel good story, as it shows the love and respect you and your husband have for your friends (both the wife and the husband), and the strength and love that she has for the two of you and her husband as she laid down the law of how she wanted her "last Christmas" to be and the three of you made that happen for her! Long after the loved one is lost to death, the FOND, LOVING, memories that we hang on to, carry us through our lowest times and remind us all of HAPPIER days and the people that shared them with us! That was a BIG part of her "Christmas present" to you, your husband, and her own husband, that you can forever cherish... 1241055
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What a lovely memory. Perhaps that's the most important thing we leave behind, the impression of how we've touched others. One day we wake up and realize we're closer to the end of days than the beginning. She really understood that. Merry Christmas.
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12/28/2022 2:26 pm |
What a wonderful Christmas
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