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Is a munch in your future?? See below...  ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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I have only been to 1 munch many years ago in New Mexico... But I still remember it and look forward to going to more in the future.... Honestly though, I really had no idea about appropriate behavior... This condensed list, edited by myself is from M. Makai, a experienced D/s and BDSM author... Things you should do; Do give your first name... and your online username. Your full name is not expected, because no one wants to reciprocate with you their full name... Do be your self.... be authentic, be you. Exaggerating or misrepresenting your experience, orientation, or lifestyle is one of the quickest ways to become a leper in the fetish community... Do try to smile.... and be a good conversationalist.... Don't be afraid to initiate a conversation with people you meet. And try to engage in conversations, instead of just answering yes or no questions.. Do try to compliment.... and say something positive about those you meet. It can help you appreciate each individual instead of just seeing people with kinks and fetishes... Do practice giving a little introduction of yourself.... Like you would for a job or class. Just a brief bit about your interest or experience in the lifestyle is sufficient. Do treat people with respect... Proper manners are a big deal to the munch group, and might be more so than any group you will meet. Inconsiderate or rude behavior can sometimes result in you not being invited to future events.. Do order something off the menu... if the munch is held in a restaurant. The munch I went to was in a casino room off the main dinning floor, and you had to purchase a buffet... Only fair if your group is using a large area for a gathering... And tipping the waitstaff is always noticed and appreciated... Things you shouldn't do.... Don't arrive drunk.... or plan on getting that way.. If you need liquid courage to be there, maybe you shouldn't even come... A drink or two is ok with dinner. But don't overdo it or embarrass yourself. You only get one chance for that first impression. Don't ask for personal details.... beyond the first name or user name discussed earlier.. Small talk does not mean asking personal questions... Why should anyone trust you with personal information about themselves? Don't ask where people hang out.... with their vanilla friends.. Many people in the lifestyle lead two separate lives... And don't ever want the two to meet.. Try to respect that.. Don't invite yourself to any activity.... A munch is more than just a social gathering. It also serves as an informal screening process, to determine if your worth inviting to other activities... Don't touch anyone without permission... Anything except a handshake is considered touching... The permission granted must be explicit, not implied just because others may touch... Don't revel information about other people.... What happens at a group event should stay there. At the very least, you should avoid passing along gossip and other personal information about anyone at all cost. Don't assume everyone is there to hook up.... get laid, or find someone who shares their kinks. The majority of people who attend a munch are simply there to socialize with others who understand their world view... Don't make your personal fetish the first thing.... you tell people about yourself. A rule of thumb is... if it isn't something you would post on social media, it probably isn't something you should blurt out immediately... Don't take or use a camera... at the munch. This relates to not giving out personal information. And it shouldn't even have to be discussed... Don't use it as a place to take advantage.... of your private knowledge of someone's weaknesses, turn-on's, or triggers... Especially, if you become involved with someone from the munch. You would not want any of your desires to be public information no matter how tempting it is... Who would have thought there were so many rules or protocols concerning a munch? But as you read through them it's easy to see how important they are... I cannot wait to attend a munch again... Especially knowing what I do now! ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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Oh, do wear vibrating remote controlled panties and then pass the remote around . Just kidding, but I have been to a munch where that was done. So my one bit of advice, is prepared for someone or more than one to be inappropriate now days. Just like they are on the internet. becasue some the asshats do show up. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Some very, very good pointers.....maybe one day I'll attend a local munch.
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Wow, you mean they actually have to have rules about how to interact with other humans in a civil manner? Maybe these people should take up something, say golf, where manners are common place instead of ruled.
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after reading this hun,,,,,,now I would like to go to a munch.....sounds fun
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pac I too would love to go to Munch but with Covid , I fear it will quite a while  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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5/7/2021 4:42 am |
Not in my future or past. I mean who wants to meet strangers right now?
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5/7/2021 7:21 pm |
Mmmm that would be fun
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