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Difficult decisions... See below... ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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For the second time in my later life someone around me has received a cancer diagnosis... The latest being a Dom I have talked to for over 5 weeks now... Who was taking all the necessary time to know about me... Many of my deepest thoughts and feelings were shared with him... The potential of like minds so prevalent... At first I had explained my concerns over his age, as he is 9 years older than me. And I explained how I had been a caretaker for my ex Dom who passed away in March... The specific reason why health is so important to me... He told me he ran 4 miles every other day. And stressed how we can only do what we can as far as our health goes... These conversations are not superficial... But necessary as we get older. And they just suck... So... With all of this out of the way we start talking... He mentioned then he had a sore throat, that just would not go away... While I was so sick with my own sore throat I could certainly relate... He assured me he went to the Dr and got some meds for it... But it didn't go away... Another visit to the Dr lead to a referral to a ear,nose and throat Dr, which lead to a cat scan, which lead to a biopsy under anesthesia... The results came in Friday and obviously he has cancer. He lives 900 miles away from me, and we have not met. We both accept pursuing a relationship right now is not going to happen... He needs all his strength to fight this insidious disease. And he's concerned about me not being able to handle it based on my past! How ironic is that?? Nothing in life is guaranteed... Just try to remember how fragile it really is... I wish you nothing but the best B... My thoughts and prayers are with you!! ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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That's a bad situation for both of you. I believe in looking on the bright side and being optimistic .... Accordingly, I am sure B will fully recover and have a long life. And that you too will have a long life and find Mr. Wonderful Dominant soon. Optimism ... Pass it forward. Make Women Female Again
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I had throat cancer 7 years ago now. It was actually specifically called BOT (Base of Tongue cancer). I was lucky as it was found while being intubated for another common surgery thus was barely stage 3. Surgery and radiation for 5 weeks and it was done. They told me right from the start that I was very likely to recover from it. It turns out they were right. Depending on the stage, he might do very well. If he can avoid chemo he should as that can lead to organ (e.g., kidney) failure years later. I hope all the best for him and you. He has a good chance of beating this.
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my prayers are with him and you good luck to you two
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I can sympathise and empathise. Currently watching an old friend die in pain from cancer. We do what we can to help but the feeling of helplessness runs deep.
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Unfortunately, most of us could probably write the same or similar story. Very sad indeed. Being a special friend to him just might spark that mental excitement that helps him keep going.
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Oh, pac, how horrible! FOr him, and for you too! I hope he can cure from this, and get better in the end, It might be a long run, for him. I lost soo many people who had cancer.... it is a nasty desease. Stay strong, for your own wellbeing, too.
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Empathy and kindness is in short supply nowadays. I'm sure he could use any that you could give. Life has those curveballs and you, being through it, know just how invaluable that emotional support can be. Warm thoughts for you both.
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So sorry to hear this, not good to hear at anytime of course. But so difficult to hear when you are just getting to know someone. My best wishes to both of you & I hope his treatment goes well.
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pac I too am very sorry for you both! Although , I will never meet the man, I sincerely hope he can be cured! I am sure you too are feeling awful and so I want to send a warm hug! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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My sympathies to both you and your friend. I hope it all works out well for the both of you.
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