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Asking the hard questions... Do you?? This is a new area for pac... But casual conversations are not getting her any closer too finding her Dom... No body really wants too be interviewed... But wtf other choices are there? When info seems like it has too be extracted like pulling teeth... Just remember this though.. information is a two way street. If your not willing too be truthful and honest... Don't ask a potential Dom or Domme to be... The rest of this post is using examples and some words from Michael Makai and his novel "Sixty-two questions for your Dominant". Ask open ended questions where it cannot be answered with a yes or no answer. Why you ask? Because a poser/player will struggle providing a knowledgeable answer to an open ended question. But will always have a 50/50 chance of correctly answering a yes or no question. Here's a example... Close ended question... sub: Do you follow rack principles? Dom: Sure....... Open ended question... sub: Please tell me what you think about RACK? Dom: Do you mean those things they tie you too and stretch you with?  As funny as this is... It proves the point perfectly about asking the "right" type of question. People lie... Don't make it easy for them! Dare to ask for specifics... It's easy to fake your way through a general conversation. But it becomes harder to bluff your way through specifics, especially if those specifics can be fact checked. Google is your friend... Here's a few examples of this... So, you were a member of a BDSM munch group in Seattle? Awesome... What was it called? You know Shibari? Cool... What type of rope harness do you employ the most? You regularly go too a public dungeon? Which one? Encouraging him to offer specifics is an valuable skill that can help you in other areas of your life. And be quite effective against anyone who pretends too have knowledge when he doesn't...  ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~ |
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Trying a different approach... ~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~
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hell at this point any might due.
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I think the follow up questions are the most telling going both ways. We are all different and no one has their stamped Dom or sub credentials. So how else can you know except by probing ( did he say Probing?)
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I'm game. What do I think about RACK,? I think you have a nice one.  While I was a boy scout, and know various knots, like the bowline, I never got into Shibari cause it takes so long that by the time I would be done, I would have to get a knife and cut you out so I could get onto more enjoyable things. Don't do the BDSM "scene" so no munches or public dungeons. Otherwise, as Sgt. Schultz used to say, "I know nothink!" I hope I passed the audition.
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And I honestly thought that asking the hard questions was an interrogation about my erection. How did you even know I had one?
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What a great new way to approach The Man, lol But, even when you ask specific qeustions, he still is able to lie...... I believe, that to a lot of guys and maybe women too? this is all a ego boosting game, to them. You are just a prop - sub human, for them, to play their games on..... If i ask qeustions ,i allways give them room to be specific, I never ask; how long are you, or have you been 'dominant'- mention one question. I always want to know, how they developt to being who they are now. or ask them; How did you handle the emotional impact for yourself, when you discovered your 'nature'.... Players dont know how to answer those qeustions, at all. They twist and turn it all around and give me without answering MY question, first, the same question back = end of game. It is the emotional part of handling this knowledge about "himself" that i am interested in. And were he learned his 'skills"...... Players dont answer that question, either... Or, how much he wants me to be involved with his life, that one is a very fast one, to ending the conversation, with players. Most have fear of commitment. Great new approach! i wish you all the luck in the world! in findiing nemo! ooh, i mean HIM! LOL
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A dominant / master wánts to be interviewed, and wants to interview you too! Believe me! He wants to know ALL there is to know, about who you are, what made you, the you, you are now and all that.
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Me thinks you work for the FBI, pac 
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Great questions that get RIGHT to the point! Nice!
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Dear Pac, the post is great, it could be easy with the right questions and carefully listening to answers, and I also agree that the real Dom would love to ask and be asked questions and find out all about you, still, many posers and players make it all pathetic... and some of the comments truly made me laugh loud.. so thank you, everyone, this was one hell of a good blog post with the very same comments, both useful and fun.
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pac I am VERY embarassed to say I had to look up what "RACK" stands for!  It is something I am completely in favour of but just did not know it by that name I suppose the lesson is - confirm the other party understands your question A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Gee Pac😄 your really coming in with the heat..lol. I originally thought you were gonna blog about people afraid to even share their personal info. Whereas im completely open when i share my lifestyle interest, i also have no problem talking about my personal life. And not so many people are 🤐 But remember just cause someone answers correctly doesnt mean they are a great Dom. In my opinion the safest way to find a good Dom is the all girl network.. Meaning join groups and get to know other women. They can tell you whose good..who might be looking.. And if nothingelse as a unpartnered woman you can easily play with other couples/ group members and it's no biggie. Yet try that as a dude..lol..
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Now im curious...how do these poser even get passed the dick pic or sexual referrence stage.. To get asked these sorts of questions.. ??? A personal example..an email to me Them :Hi... ( pic inclosed) Me: no face pick🤔 yet one of his cock I've been in the lifestyle for 20 yrs and RACK.?..stumped me .well yeah lead me to thinking thoughts of Pac on a rack😜..lol I'm assuming it what you call your local munch group??? I'm clueless about rope harnesses. But then again you dont see too many male rope bunnies.. And who is gonna pull up a 200lb dude frame.... A whole village.??? But rope work is awesome and glad your into it.. Im glad your asking alot of questions of these guys
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