60 posts 5/23/2021 8:33 pm
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Why Humiliation?
Why Humiliation?
From Latin humilis, low, lowly, from humus, ground. Literally, “reducing dirt”.
Before we delve into why some crave humiliation and others are ever so eager to provide it, we should first clarify what humiliation is and is not.
In my research, what we called in graduate school a “review of the literature”, I found that some conditions while easily thought to be the or similar are, in fact, quite dissimilar. The periodical, Psychology Today, states, “Embarrassment, shame, guilt, and humiliation all imply the existence of value systems. Whereas shame and guilt are primarily the outcome of self-appraisal, embarrassment and humiliation are primarily the outcome of appraisal by one or several others, even if in thought or imagination.” One critical respect in which humiliation differs from embarrassment is that, whereas we bring embarrassment upon ourselves, humiliation is something that is brought upon us by others.
Alright. So, in the context of BDSM, what exactly is humiliation? Well, for starters, it is often referred as “ humiliation”. humiliation, is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context. Whereby one person gains arousal or excitement from the powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another; it is often, but not always, accompanied by sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity.
In general, the humiliation need not be sexual in nature; as with many other sexual activities, it is the feelings derived from it that are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. This is usually a feeling of submission for the person being humiliated, and dominance, for the person doing the humiliation.
In an context, can be verbal or physical, or in private or public. Often can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance (as online). Humiliation is an example of the power dynamic that exists in a Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationship. For example, in an activity such as spanking, the sought effect is primarily the humiliation; the activity is just a means that end.
Humiliation may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) one’s sexual degradation. Furthermore, the desire be humiliated may be a motivating cause for confession, in that the act of confessing can itself be humiliating.
So now we know what humiliation is, but why do some of us engage in it?
Humiliation is considered be part of masochism, the sexual enjoyment of pain. Not all pain is physical, the embarrassment of humiliation is also painful and some people find this particularly arousing. could be because of an association they made between being humiliated and being sexually aroused or might be that the experience allows them an escape, albeit not permanently, from the mundane troubles of life.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Humiliation may or may not be part of somebody’s kink. Some people like be humiliated some extent, is their fetish. And ’s alright when ’s a wish be fed from a doggie bowl on the floor, at your own desire. ’s alright when someone calls you names because you want that.
’s not alright when ’s used, in any manner, without both sides explicitly agreeing that.
Where might a masochistic desire for humiliation or other forms of pain come from? is unlikely be a single explanation that would apply equally well all cases, which is probably why numerous theories been proposed. Perhaps the most prominent theories are that masochism either 1.) represents a learned behavior, or 2.) serves as an escape from self-awareness. The idea behind learning theory is that if an individual has repeated prior experiences in which pleasure and pain co-occur (or, if pain happens coincide with a particularly powerful orgasm), an association might be learned that the individual then seeks repeat in the future. In contrast, the self-awareness view is based on the idea that some individuals may be drawn sexual pain because provides an opportunity for psychological escape—that is, pain serves distract us from everything else that's on our minds that might interfere with sexual performance. put another way, sexual pain may be a way of helping you lose yourself in the moment.
Forms of Humiliation
We many ways slight others and humiliate them. For example:
• Rejecting someone, holding them distant, abandoned, or isolated,
• Denying someone basic social amenities, needs, or human dignity,
• Manipulating people or treating them like objects (it) or animals, rather than as a person (thou).
• Domination, control, manipulation, abandonment,
• Threats or abuse including: verbal (e.g. calling), physical, psychological, or sexual,
• Being laughed at, mocked, teased, ridiculed, given a dirty , spit on, or made stupid or foolish.
• Public shame, disrespect, or being dis'ed, downgraded, defeated, or slighted
• Forced nakedness,
• R*pe or ,
• Seeing your love interest flirt with another, induced jealousy, violating your love interest, cuckolding,
• Seeing your wife, girlfriend, sister, or partner sexually violated,
• Violating, denying, or suppressing human rights,
• Losing basic personal freedoms such as mobility, access, or autonomy; being controlled, dominated, intruded on, exploited, or manipulated,
• Being treated as an equal by a lower stature person.
Hopefully, my into the nature, causes and manifestation of humiliation afforded you some clarification. Perhaps, you are even ready try this practice yourself.
Interested in more? Try my group at: Humiliation, An Obsession
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5/25/2021 12:25 pm |
This is very well-written. it makes me understand humiliation...and my fetishes...
I learned how to differentiate between embarrassment, shame, guilt and humiliation.
And I learned that humiliation is considered to be a part of masochism...
ADomsPaean, the exhibtionism and confession parts especially touched me.
Thank you.
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5/25/2021 12:41 pm
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Thank you so much for your comment, yeon. I did think of you while doing my research.
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5/26/2021 4:11 pm
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I love to have you pull my head back and forth as you fuck my face and at the last you pull it out and shoot your hot come all over my face as they all see you and then you tell then to take this little 19 teen year old slut as you like make this little cook teas scream as you have fun beating her little ass , as how would you like to see then gang bang my little body ??
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12 posts 5/29/2021 12:55 pm |
hi 
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5/29/2021 3:08 pm
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lilch1pmunk, you got through.
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5/30/2021 6:20 pm
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adeline, first of all, thank you for visiting my blog space. Secondly, thank you so much for your comments. As I mentioned in my group room, I know someone whose experience with men in a homeless camp was so significant that she cannot now have an orgasm without duplicating her experiences. I can imagine that if you were here with me and I took you to a back alley and dumped you into a large trash container, you would have a profound reaction.
I do wish you were my neighbor. You are the kind of submissive girl that I hope to train.
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6/2/2021 9:22 am
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I dont see an option to post a big picture here so i will just post this so my little profile pic shows up at least.
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6/2/2021 12:12 pm
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deedra, thank you for your comment here. There is an icon here that looks like one photo overlapping another. That, I believe, will send your profile photo.
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I enjoyed your new group, seems it has disappeared 😫. Is it coming back any time soon? Thanks!
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6/9/2021 9:03 am
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QuietOne, I had been considering closing the group. I was not pleased that it was beginning to be used as a private chat room to the extent that people coming in were largely ignored after a curt welcome. I also did not like that one individual, astynxxx, was consistently in alt IM at the same time, was disrespectful to me and generally a very contentious person in the room. When she began arguing with me in the room yesterday and ruining the atmosphere, it was the last straw. I then closed the group. Can It be resurrected? Yes. I will think about it.
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23 posts 6/9/2021 10:37 pm |
Thanks for the info. I dont blame you for closing it down at that point....
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6/10/2021 10:43 pm
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My group is now celebrating its Grand Reopening. Please visit us in the group room: Humiliation, An Obsession.
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23 posts 6/24/2021 8:27 am |
Oh oh, could not find you this morning  . Hope you are coming back?
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6/24/2021 9:51 am
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alt had another hiccup. The group is functioning now.
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112 posts 7/2/2021 2:12 pm |
We just learn humility through accepting humiliations cheerfully. Faithfully yours, belle
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7/4/2021 8:24 am
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Belle, thank you for your comment.
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95 posts 8/14/2021 10:45 pm |
very nicely written, hope to chat with you more in the room, you suggested I read some of your blogs on the subject which I did enjoy reading, bye video
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8/15/2021 10:09 am
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videolover2, thank you for posting your comments on three blogs.
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1795 posts 9/21/2021 8:47 am |
Yes, thank you, us subs do crave it.
andy
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11/10/2021 8:58 pm
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Tbill1, thank you for your comment.
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114 posts 12/2/2021 10:17 am |
Very nice writing, Sir. i've been very submissive for as long as i can remember, but i've become interested in humiliation only within the past few months.
i am masochistic and i think that has something to do with it as well as a little of both #1 and #2 above. Still there is a point when degradation is done only to hurt, or maybe it's pushed to far and that's something i'm not able to take.
Why humiliation has become such a strong factor in my submission over time is a mystery to me, though i've stopped questioning it and have accepted it. It can make me feel more submissive and feeling more submissive makes me feel more fulfilled. And while it surprises me to say it, i do find a certain pleasure in many kinds of humiliation now as well as a desire to experience more. A craving, as Tbill said.
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12/2/2021 10:45 am
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docile_1_4u, thank you for taking the time to comment. Your response was well-done.
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1/6/2022 11:16 pm
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lilch1pmunk, I hope to talk more often to you in this new year. You are such a cutie.
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20 posts 2/22/2022 2:51 am |
Thank you for explaining more about humiliation Master. I did learn a lot from it. Thank you for recommending it to me
Your slave
amiya
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2/22/2022 7:17 am
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You're welcome, amiya. You will surely experience humiliation in your training.
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