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Kitcatshadow1 57F
269 posts
8/24/2021 6:00 am
Is BDSM still in the dark ages?

Why is it that I have access to so many "Doms" yet, they are unable to give me what I want. I have always been open and honest with all around me as to who and what I am, I do not hide that I am into BDSM. Along comes a Dom, and he ticks all the boxes, except one, he has to hide who and what he is. I ask the question why? Are we any worse than anything else that is out there? Do we do anyone (besides me of course) any harm?
I am frustrated, and pissed off, due to this i have lost a Dom who was perfect in every way, but he was not able to let go, everything had to be planned around his vanilla life, and I was not willing to do that.

Seriously, we live in the 21st centuary, there are way worse things in life than BDSM...

Kitcatshadow1 57F
507 posts
8/24/2021 6:01 am

 What is a sub to do?


BlkBdsmMstr1 71M  
188 posts
8/24/2021 7:10 am

 Evening Kitcatshadow1:

What was this Dom unable to let go about Kitcatshadow1? What do you mean everything had to be planned around his vanilla life? If he had responsibilities in the vanilla world then he has to handle those. I am a professional in the vanilla world (IT data management) so I can support myself.

The question is what did you want that this Dom was not able to give you. You need to look at that. Did you want a 24/7 relationship and he did not want that? Think about that Kitcatshadow1.

Sir Vernon


Kitcatshadow1 replies on 8/24/2021 10:33 am:
I will try and answer what you have asked. Firstly, I to have a job, so i am very aware of vanilla responsibility. This Dom, however is about 10 years my senior, not married, but does have children. AND therein lies the biggest problem. He owns a farm, and his children live with him, and they have no idea of what or who he is, and he does not want them to know. I find this strange, i also have two adult Sons, yet from the begining, i explained what i was into, and because of the way i brought them up, they were able to accept this.
Although he lives in SA, he does live in another province, (about 5 hours) away by car, but an hour by flight, this would not have been a problem, as i could have flown up to meet him at least once a month, if not more. My point is, he hides who he truly is, and for what?

Sucit4mee 68M

8/24/2021 7:11 am

 From those markings... it appears you found your match!


Kitcatshadow1 replies on 8/24/2021 10:37 am:
Yes, he is a good canner, but sadly that Dom has a vanilla wife, so not the full package for me

ps, he is not the one in question here lol

Hey1961 63M

8/24/2021 7:26 am

 Yes. It always will be


drmgirl622 68F  
26104 posts
8/24/2021 7:50 am

 I think there is a time and place for both worlds and they need not collide.


Keepitfun1234 63M

8/24/2021 8:09 am

 It is primal thoughts


tews 65M
429 posts
8/25/2021 6:45 am

 Keep looking Kit. thats all one can do x


Kinkydom01123 43M

10/4/2021 5:18 pm

 Hope you find what you are looking for.

I just wanted to say I loved when you told one guy to take a long walk off a short pier. Brilliant. I thought I was the only one who said that.


ridermantel 68M

11/11/2021 10:01 pm

 He was vanilla, but came out to play in the sandbox only when he wanted?



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