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Dectare 59F
9 posts
9/28/2021 9:56 pm
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leolix22 60M

9/28/2021 10:58 pm

 so absolutely true


Persephone2020 75F
57 posts
9/29/2021 1:36 am

 The problem is: I have yet met a man; a Dom who is even worthy much less capable of taking the lead. Most are fools and with today’s woke philosophy of masculine toxicity, the “Dom species”, like the dinosaurs, is on its way to extinction


bimom4taboo 54F
2110 posts
9/29/2021 2:21 am

 you are right. but men have changed over the yrs. today i feel they are so one way. they get what they want and don't care about what what we want. it must be a two way street. it has to be so both can be happy. good luck to you


Dectare replies on 9/29/2021 4:17 pm:
I have found that out already but I feel there must still be good ones out there we unfortunately have to weed through the jerks first. Good luck to you also.

Kruture 49M

9/29/2021 3:45 am
    Quoting Persephone2020:
    The problem is: I have yet met a man; a Dom who is even worthy much less capable of taking the lead. Most are fools and with today’s woke philosophy of masculine toxicity, the “Dom species”, like the dinosaurs, is on its way to extinction
You're absolutely right about this 'toxic masculinity' ridiculousness. I can't imagine a grown-ass man needing a 'safe space' to cry out his feelings. However, not all of us have bought into the bullshit lies of modern society. Perhaps true Doms will become extinct one day. But, that day is certainly not today! I wish you the best of luck in your search.
“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.” - G. Michael Hopf


Kruture 49M

9/29/2021 3:54 am
    Quoting bimom4taboo:
    you are right. but men have changed over the yrs. today i feel they are so one way. they get what they want and don't care about what what we want. it must be a two way street. it has to be so both can be happy. good luck to you
It seems your comment is a recurring theme among subs here on Alt regarding so-called Doms failing to understand the difference between Dominance and being domineering. I assure you, a true Dominant cares very much about the happiness of his sub/slave. Attention to detail is of vital importance; not just what is said but what is not said, as well. Thanks to Covid (can't believe I just fucking said that!) I've been in communication w/ a sub for over 2 years now. As you're well-aware, no one can ever 'earn' the Gift. But it's absolutely essential to spend the time to earn trust and respect through effective & honest communication. But, I'd nearly given up on Alt til I found her & discovered there are some genuine subs. Glad I stuck around. I'm sure you'll find your Dom eventually, too!


Kruture 49M

9/29/2021 3:56 am

 Very well said! Everything boils down to trust. Trust takes time. Best of luck and thanks for sharing!


Dectare replies on 9/29/2021 4:13 pm:
Thank you

DancingDom 74M
22603 posts
9/29/2021 7:03 am

 As always, with our wants and desires, we need to be patient and stick to our core values in seeking a partner. You know what you want, let the potential candidates reveal themselves to you. Don;t tell them what you want and desire, or the asshats will parrot back what your hope to hear and that will lead to disappointment.

Welcome to the blogs. Best to you.
"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


alwaysassertive 64M

9/29/2021 10:39 pm

 I don't know what others do. I'm all about old school. What's worked for hundreds of years still works. Maybe nothing is carved in stone, but I believe you can't make things up as you go and if this something someone turns off and on then they are an actor. I'm not so rigid that I follow others. I've educated myself over the years and I pick and choose what I want and make it my own. I don't play dominant. I've always been this way. I stay true to myself. trust can be hard to come by. When you find someone that's the real thing to the core and they resonate with you. You'll find that trust. until then guard yourself like a treasure.



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