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Wait, you don't want to have sex with me? Then why are you here? Why am i here? i keep an eye out for skilled/experienced Dominants and Tops who are involved with going to Dungeons (like Sanctuary LAX, Threshold, Lair De Sade, Dark Magic Society) and might be interested to negotiate a scene there. i DO NOT PLAY IN PRIVATE WITH STRANGERS OR NEW PARTNERS. Not currently seeking private play (like in a home or hotel). Not seeking ownership, dynamic, relationship or online anything. Not looking to meet up with anyone unless it is at a BDSM function. i'm a real person and have about five years experience with BDSM (about 2 years experience in the Dungeon/Munch community) and have developed a lot of limits in order to help keep myself physically and emotionally safe. i know what i am and what i am not. i enjoy attending Dungeons, munches, classes, and other types of BDSM events. Generally, i go to a Dungeon play party to socialize and hopefully do some "pick up play". Pick Up Play refers to meeting someone at a Dungeon and negotiating a play scene then and there. Kinks, goals, desires and limits are discussed and if we agree on the parameters we will find an open station and play. Play is negotiated beforehand and not re-negotiated mid-scene. i am mostly interested in non-sexual impact play scenes (flogging, spanking, etc) and some forms of bondage (depending on how well i know/trust the person). i DO NOT engage in sex or sexual acts unless i have decided that i want a sexual relationship with the person. i'm not that girl that is going to have sex with lots of men. it's just not in my sphere of interest. If you ever see me at a Dungeon, munch, class, etc. please feel free to introduce yourself. Especially if you know Florentine Style Flogging (i have a gorgeous custom made set of Elk Hide floggers waiting to be swung!). Most of the men that contact me on this site don't seem to be involved in the public BDSM community and that is fine...i understand it's not for everyone. But i'm not going to be meeting up with anyone outside of a BDSM event. i DO NOT PLAY IN PRIVATE WITH STRANGERS OR NEW PARTNERS, i don't go on dates or "coffee meets" unless i am REALLY interested to meet the man (most men on this site do not impress me with their online presence/profile/photos/emails), and i do not have sex/sexual acts unless i have decided that i want a sexual relationship with the man. If you want to get to know me (or women like me) i do suggest that you start attending BDSM events like munches, mixers, classes, workshops, conventions, and Dungeons. A good amount of women attend these functions looking to socialize and play. It's generally a much safer environment for a woman than going on a date and playing in private with a person from the internet. WILL i INVITE YOU TO AN EVENT? That's tough. i had a really bad experience a few years ago where i invited a "Dominant" to a local munch that i attended regularly. Of course i did not know that he is known as a serial consent violator...and once i found out i felt so horrible that i introduced him to the munch group (therefore exposing him to vulnerable submissive women that were looking for a Dominant). It was a bad experience and once i found out about his reputation i told the munch organizers. They didn't do anything about it (the violations didn't happen to me, after all--because i never played with him)...UNTIL he violated one of the munch group members. Only then was he banned from the munch. Safety is my top priority, as well as keeping a good reputation within the community. So i learned a hard lesson and now i really don't invite strangers to events. i am happy to tell people what events are like, and give resources on how to find out about events. But i'm don't generally invite strangers/people i don't fully trust to events anymore. |
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Very well written, and instructive to me, because I had no clue that such events even existed (I did not look or googled for it either), because I 'm only just a few months a basic member on this ALT platform and started to show more interest in the BDSM lifestyle) So, just reading your text with your point of vue and your personal experience is an additional source for me about the inner workings of BDSM, be it basic info that you addressed. But nevertheless an eye opener for me as a would-be Master. Of course we have to start somewhere, but I take in any case your experience and advise with me and I can understand more where the real Bdsm adepts can be find, because here on ALT, the women that I try to contact are 95% fake, catfish or golddiggers. It's so sad that to invest so much time and to find out that all expectations evaporates when the real motives come on the surface, but real bdsm encounters are not really one of them at all, according to my experience. So, thanks for your very outspoken view and for your distinct text and info, pomonagirl. Johan-julius : fb345966 via gmail, if ever you would like to make contact!
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11/18/2021 10:09 pm |
Woow Very well written,
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