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Reality- Fiction-Fantasy Have you read or watched 50 Shades of Grey? Have you read The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy? The Story of "O"? The Emmanuelle books or movies? All fictional and fantasy. All the author's attempt to entertain. All the author's perspective of what BDSM is. And all HEAVY on poetic license... That means they made shit up cause it sounded good and was more entertaining than reality and would sell better and put more money in their pockets. Are their kernels of truth in the writing. Sure, in my opinion, Anne Rice captured the mindset of a slave in her Beauty trilogy. But the rest of it was fictional and fantasy and over the top. I won't dissect 50 Shades of Mr. Grey doesn't exist. The BDSM lifestyle is about Reality. Yes, there is fantasy to play out in scene play. But if you think you are going to be swept away to a French Manor and indoctrinated into a life of slavery, or swept off your feet by a billionaire with a dungeon, never mind being a slave in a castle with Ladies and Lords training you and using you for their pleasure and amusement, come down to earth. BDSM has worries and cares. Sometimes there is a happily ever after, other times there is the reality of a break-up, the searching endlessly. It requires caution and care not only before giving consent or accepting submission, but also after. There are decisions in life that must be made in most relationships. Is the compatibility "right". How are the bills paid. How are new toys paid for. How much discretion will you have. Medical care and insurance choices, are among a multitude of things the books and movies never show. If you got into BDSM because of a book or a movie, the community will welcome you, but the<b> fiction </font></b>and fantasy need to be left at the gates upon entry and knowledge of the reality must be absorbed as freely as the<b> fiction </font></b>that got you here was. If not, your time in the lifestyle will be filled with frustration as you search without hope of the fictional ideal that was written only to entertain, not educate. |
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My post today to the FB groups I'm in.
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well said. the three pieces of work you mention are all fantasy withAnne Rice doing the best job of the three. but I think sometimes it's the fantasy that moves someone's inherent need for this life style and make them start the search. The problem occurs when/if they find someone and reality kicks in. Then if there's a true commitment for this life style thereality really wont matter, you'll work within its parameters.
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In the early days of internet, namely MIRC there were places to discuss the day to day aspects of kink; i.e. BDSM D/s and M/s. But there were plenty that were focused on fantasy. Early internet users started the role play games like Dungeons and Dragons and, Vampire play and such. BDSM/kink play overall was an early adaptation of role play games. That is when those role player folks discovered new places like ah old hell. then the sites like this popped up and those role play folks moved here. The old places were being obsoleted as the internet developed. Now we are in this internet reality of a good percentage of folks role playing. That is frustrating for the reality folks as well as the fantasy players. Which has resulted in a lot of frustration and disappointment when the two different kind of folks interact. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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My post today to the FB groups I'm in. Unless we had a Star Trek holodeck and sessions with fixed duration. But they're still exciting. Besides, they can inspire things to do in real life with someone we trust. And they can wake up the dormant kinkster.
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I think you take what you need from the above examples and leave the rest.
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Most fantasies will never come true. Neither do we actually want them to. Unless we had a Star Trek holodeck and sessions with fixed duration. But they're still exciting. Besides, they can inspire things to do in real life with someone we trust. And they can wake up the dormant kinkster.
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