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Blogs > rondiri > My thought's, fun and fiction

rondiri 65M
7311 posts
7/3/2022 9:23 pm

Last Read:
7/4/2022 9:23 am
BDSM and the Law part 2

WHAT TO DO IN CASE A SCENE BECOMES NON-CONSENSUAL OR ABUSIVE
1. Stay calm. I know, this is hard after you have been abused. But you have to try and think clearly. No one is protecting you now. Your safety, health and wellbeing is in your own hands,
2. Call the police, if you can, without endangering yourself. You may not want to get your partner in criminal trouble, but you now have to protect yourself, if the partner has shown disdain for your safety.
3. Call an attorney for yourself. The legal system can be hard to negotiate and the last thing you want is for the cops to treat you like the criminal or being a “non victim” or crying wolf.
4. Do not shower or clean up if there has been physical damage or r*p*. Physical evidence, cuts, bruises, semen, blood, hair or skin samples, and even clothing fibers can be very important evidence. Take pictures if you can.
5. Get medical assistance if you need it. This should be done before step 2 if you need immediate assistance. Plus, the hospital will help to contact the police. Even if you don’t need medical assistance, the ER can separate you from the abuser and get the police involved if you were afraid to or prevented from calling the police yourself.
6. Tell the truth about what happened. Don’t embellish, don’t leave anything out. You will be repeating what happened often. The facts are easier to remember than embellishments or what you wanted to leave out for modesty.
7. Contact a friend who can either stay with you or that you can stay with. DO NOT stay under the same roof as the abuser, or somewhere they can get access to you. It shows trust in the abuser, even if none exists, to the prosecution and law enforcement

rondiri 65M
11202 posts
7/3/2022 9:24 pm

 Sorry, got side tracked and forgot to continue this.
Public Law coming up soon.


0410blossom 52F
708 posts
7/4/2022 1:17 am

 I think this is a great start. If you can’t talk to a friend or talk to the police. Then get yourself to the nearest emergency room. I know it’s harder said than done, but don’t let shame or guilt play a role in why you are not seeking help.


rondiri replies on 7/4/2022 9:20 am:
Exactly. You might even save the next person the abuser might move onto

Tckg12 69M
2559 posts
7/4/2022 3:39 am

 great advice! one hopes you never have to use it


rondiri replies on 7/4/2022 9:21 am:
Always hope it never needs to be used, but the more you know.

hardtop4you 65M

7/4/2022 5:23 am

 WHAT TO DO IN CASE A SCENE BECOMES NON-CONSENSUAL

The fact is that in the U.S. no
court has allowed consent as
a defense to assault!

Technically speaking, any type of
“impact play” is illegal.

One person cannot legally give their
consent to being physically assaulted.
This means that the law treats BDSM
as violence, not as sex.


rondiri replies on 7/4/2022 9:22 am:
Yup. That's why TRUST is so important for the Dominant, too. He has to trust the sub/slave won't get pissed off and run to the authorities as revenge.


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