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When I stepped away from the Lifestyle 20+ years ago to raise my daughter, SSC, Safe, Sane & Consensual, was the motto of the BDSM Community. It was understood, that safe and sane were subjective to the participants interpretation, because of course, all people are different in what they can handle and do. When I returned to the Lifestyle I was bombarded with RACK and PRICK in response to articles I posted in other groups. For those that are not familiar with RACK and PRICK: RACK = Risk Aware Consensual Kink PRICK = Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink RACK was created as a response to those who felt that SSC was too vague and confusing. Whose version of “safe” or “sane” are we talking about? What if I think something is insane but you think it’s perfectly rational? Who wins that argument? (In my opinion, the argument is moot. The partners actually doing the kink decide what is safe and sane for THEM, and no one else.) PRICK was the next evolution beyond RACK. And was developed as a response to make it clear that all Lifestylers should take personal responsibility for their kink. Informed means (or implies) that you understand what is about to happen, risks and all. Consensual kink is what we’re all looking for. The idea being that if you take personal responsibility for yourself and you’re informed, now you can have some consensual kink safely. To me, at least, they are all one in the same. Does only believing in SSC and not acknowledging RACK and PRICK mean a person isn’t risk aware? Does it mean they don’t take personal responsibility for what they do? I preach being aware and being responsible without ever mentioning RACK or PRICK, just by teaching about different subjects that are risky (Isn’t ALL BDSM a risk, when you come right down to it?) I’ve had arguments with Community members (from other groups) that because of RACK and PRICK, if a submissive gets involved in a relationship of abuse, they don’t deserve assistance from the Community. No protection, no help to escape, nothing. If they weren’t aware of the risk, they were personally responsible for getting themselves out of trouble, experienced or novice, didn’t matter. I’ve come to believe that RACK and PRICK are crutches certain Community members lean on as an excuse to not help those in need. And it’s usually the novice submissive, the one that never learned the risk and couldn’t take personal responsibility because they trusted the wrong “dominant” to teach them. My view is, if we, as a Community, teach properly, risk aware and personal responsibility informed consent are part of Safe, Sane & Consensual and always has been. And, as a Community, we should never turn our backs on a Community member in need or danger just because they made a mistake, got conned, coerced or manipulated. All because of acronyms.
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8/31/2022 9:57 am |
When I stepped away from the Lifestyle 20+ years ago to raise my daughter, SSC, Safe, Sane & Consensual, was the motto of the BDSM Community. It was understood, that safe and sane were subjective to the participants interpretation, because of course, all people are different in what they can handle and do. When I returned to the Lifestyle I was bombarded with RACK and PRICK in response to articles I posted in other groups. For those that are not familiar with RACK and PRICK: RACK = Risk Aware Consensual Kink PRICK = Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink RACK was created as a response to those who felt that SSC was too vague and confusing. Whose version of “safe” or “sane” are we talking about? What if I think something is insane but you think it’s perfectly rational? Who wins that argument? (In my opinion, the argument is moot. The partners actually doing the kink decide what is safe and sane for THEM, and no one else.) PRICK was the next evolution beyond RACK. And was developed as a response to make it clear that all Lifestylers should take personal responsibility for their kink. Informed means (or implies) that you understand what is about to happen, risks and all. Consensual kink is what we’re all looking for. The idea being that if you take personal responsibility for yourself and you’re informed, now you can have some consensual kink safely. To me, at least, they are all one in the same. Does only believing in SSC and not acknowledging RACK and PRICK mean a person isn’t risk aware? Does it mean they don’t take personal responsibility for what they do? I preach being aware and being responsible without ever mentioning RACK or PRICK, just by teaching about different subjects that are risky (Isn’t ALL BDSM a risk, when you come right down to it?) I’ve had arguments with Community members (from other groups) that because of RACK and PRICK, if a submissive gets involved in a relationship of abuse, they don’t deserve assistance from the Community. No protection, no help to escape, nothing. If they weren’t aware of the risk, they were personally responsible for getting themselves out of trouble, experienced or novice, didn’t matter. I’ve come to believe that RACK and PRICK are crutches certain Community members lean on as an excuse to not help those in need. And it’s usually the novice submissive, the one that never learned the risk and couldn’t take personal responsibility because they trusted the wrong “dominant” to teach them. My view is, if we, as a Community, teach properly, risk aware and personal responsibility informed consent are part of Safe, Sane & Consensual and always has been. And, as a Community, we should never turn our backs on a Community member in need or danger just because they made a mistake, got conned, coerced or manipulated. All because of acronyms.
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Consensual Kink is a term I like very much❤️ BTW censorship strikes again as I just tried to upload My Gateway Dollhouse Slave Training Certificates and Slave. I D card number etc.... To display on my profile page and all that stuff was denied i.e. censored...😥😥😥
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To me, it is all about what kind of connection, the two people have. IF, it is all about play and role play without the least connection.. I think RACK, pRICK is something both partners need to discuss time and time again, because things can change - even - mid scene. Once i had a girlfriend, also into The SM play/sex roleplay- thing. Her "d" kicked her, out of anger, time and time again She loved it! BUT, ofcourse, because it all started out of anger, he lost it, and she had to go to the hospital. I tried to tell her, how can there be consent, when he acts out of anger? , or his frustration about his job or such a thing... She became very mad at me! ended the friendschip and next thing i hear, she is in the hospital, and ended that "d"contact - telling people, he was not safe...? HUH? With consent, you may hope the d type knows the dangers of the things he want to do this s type. Both talk about the dangers, ( most "d's" i did meet, did not know ONE thing about safety and or consent) Thát is totally different then out of anger.. using SM to release your anger.
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