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Words I do not allow my submissive to use. Article in comments |
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There are certain words I do not allow my submissive to use because of the negativity they represent. NO, CAN’T/CAN NOT, WON’T/WILL NOT, DON’T/DO NOT and TRY/TRIED Are forbidden when answering me. Of course, during negotiation, she had every right to object to this protocol or ask to amend all or part of it. Some will say, that “No” should be allowed, because a submissive has a right to say “NO” to anything they are uncomfortable with. But “NO” can be voiced more positively. Me: “Can you handle this 8 inch anal plug?” My submissive: “That would be beyond my capability Sir.” Is much better than just a “NO, Sir”. Or “I can’t Sir.” Or “I won’t Sir”. Rather than saying “I can ‘TRY’ Sir.” My Submissive answers, “We can attempt that Sir.” Rather than explaining why she was unable to do something with “I ‘TRIED’ Sir.” Or “I ‘COULDN’T’ do this/that.” I prefer, “I did my best Sir.” Or “I’ll do better, next time Sir.” Or even “It was too much for me Sir.” If in a discussion about something that is beyond the submissive’s limits or abilities. I would rather hear her explain WHY the discussed thing was beyond her limits and abilities, rather than just her saying, “I Can’t/Won’t do that.” I feel that negative words, like those I forbid, tend to close off discussion and produce negativity in the relationship. By not being able to use these words, my submissive is encouraged to communicate the thoughts on the subject rather than using an easy negative word. And we all know how important open communication is in a relationship. The forbidding of the words, DOESN”T change safe words or limits, especially since these forbidden words are horrible safe words in the first place. What are your thoughts on this protocol? © 7/16/22 Ronald Dirienzo
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Whatever you and your submissive agree to is your business and no one else's. Personally, I like it and agree with it. I might not follow it to a T but use most of it. It's a good read.........  
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. If you actually banish the use of certain words, then obviously an alternative way expressing oneself needs to be found but I think some of this gets into the realm of lexical semantics Ron. To me, there is no difference whatsoever in saying either 'I can try that' , 'I can attempt that'. or, if you're Scottish, 'Aye, I'll give that a go'. Try and attempt are synonyms and completely interchangeable without any negativity inferred. It's just down to how pedantic you want to be.  xx "People who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do."
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11/16/2022 1:44 pm |
nice just here for points though
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I like this.
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Sorry, you lost me at 8inch anal plug, what were you saying?
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Agreed. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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Sorry, you lost me at 8inch anal plug, what were you saying? 
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And a good submissive slave never frowns-keep a pleasant neutral expression no matter what the DOM commands is how I've been trained.... Seems to be a universal requirement...😎
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I think this is an encore of a recent post you did previously, which I liked a lot. I in fact began using this approach and while my attitude is usually a positive one, I can notice an even fresher scene with the modification in my communication
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Whatever you and your submissive agree to is your business and no one else's. Personally, I like it and agree with it. I might not follow it to a T but use most of it. It's a good read.........
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